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[Waiting For Everyman]

145. Believe it or not there are women (like me) who never think about rape.

I never think about it unless someone else brings it up. I never do anything differently or avoid doing anything, outside of what a man would do to avoid any generic type of crime.

Apparently from what I see on DU, some women think about this a LOT. I'm here to say not all of us do. Maybe this is a big concern in the third world or war zones, or even in inner cities, but it certainly isn't a constant feature in my life. It wasn't when I was younger either.

And guess what, I'm even a survivor of a couple of pretty awful incidents in the past. And yes, I actually DO forget about that fact -- except when reading DU. And no, constant "awareness" of it and worrying about it wouldn't have prevented it.

I think of it along the same lines as the old saying... "a coward dies a thousand times, a brave person but once". Worse than the fact of it, would be letting it into my life and thoughts on a constant basis. So I choose not to. Nobody is really safe in this world, ever. That isn't reality.