Why victim-blaming is ALWAYS wrong.

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44. AND women who don't respond to public attention from men are also criticized.

Women who don't respond when a stranger tells them "smile honey" or says "you look good babe" are considered rude. We're called stuck up bitches and worse.

And finally, women are told that we're at fault for being on guard against strange men. We're told that it's unfair of us to distrust men, the vast majority of whom mean no harm.

So, we have to simultaneously be attractive without arousing the desire of strange men, but if we do arouse that desire we must be "nice" and respond appropriately, with gratitude and thanks for being noticed, while at the same time if we are raped or assaulted it's our fault for arousing desire and not "attending to our drinks" and staying on guard, and then we'd better not ever suggest that strange men might be dangerous.

And if we do get raped it's a lesson to us that we had better be more careful.