My problem isn't self-identifying as a feminist in front of men, it's women

[Sekhmets Daughter]

35. I used the "You" in reference to men, as if you were speaking, not you boston bean...

I can see how that was confusing. My apologies.

Every time a woman enters into a discussion, particularly on the internet, with a man who wants to direct the conversation, who wants to tell her how she should do something, she is validating his opinion. IMHO, it is better to ignore those men entirely. Republicans in the senate have shut down debate...why? Because it validates the opinions of Democrats to debate them. The same is true when it comes to discussions regarding equal rights for women. I have no problem with a man who self-identifies as a feminist, as long as he is not criticizing women for whatever nit-picking reason he can find. I ignore the fools who think they have some right to tell women how to behave, think or speak...their opinions have no value to me.