Married men who do more housework get less sex

[quaker bill]

148. Over 27 years of marriage

We have had periods where I was doing a larger share of the housework and periods where I was doing a smaller share. The division of labor depended on who was working which job and how many hours. There were times when I was pulling 50 - 60 hour weeks and did little, and times when she was doing the 50 - 60 hour deal and I was doing much more.

Other than a brief interval when we were both pulling huge hours at work, I have noticed very little change in frequency.

I would say that it increased a bit when I got promoted enough that she was able to quit working. I think this had more to do with available time and energy than anything else, as we are quite egalitarian in all other things.

One other thing I will grant is that things got much better in our relationship generally when we stopped sharing cooking duties. This is mostly because we have very different approaches to stocking a pantry and preparing meals, which was a cause of regular arguments. I now cook once in a while, and buy just what I need that day, and she gets out of the kitchen. I clean up my mess when I am done and hand the kitchen back to her. We are much happier now....