Married men who do more housework get less sex

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158. A friend of mine died a year ago yesterday. I helped her family clean up her stuff.

She wasn't really a hoarder per se, rather someone who couldn't throw anything away.

After clothing, furniture, housewares, and artworks were hauled off to the Salvation Army, most of her belongings consisted of cardboard moving boxes (about 50 of them) containing mostly paper that should have been disposed of as much as 20 years earlier.

She kept all of her statements from banks, credit cards, loans, etc., utility bills, notices from various organizations, newsletters, catalogs, school papers, work documents - EVERYTHING. With the statements and bills were all of the regulatory notices, marketing inserts, and the mailing envelopes they came in, all tossed somewhat haphazardly into boxes. The older stuff was organized into file folders that were put into boxes and never looked at again.

I filled up a large "Herby Curby" type recycle bin four times, and had several bonfires to get rid of everything that had sensitive personal information. It took me about four months to sift through all of that to make sure no valued family photos, financial documents, etc. were lost. I found some real gems in there. The effort was worth my time.

I had already resolved not to burden myself with such things, but now I'm hard-core. I open all of my mail every day, and aggressively dispose of stuff I don't want to live with. It's been a liberating experience.