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In reply to the discussion: Florida father with assault weapon forces wife to watch as he kills two sons [View all]Orrex
(67,082 posts)Well, I wish it were nonsense.
A year ago I might have blindly declared that the woman should simply have left with the kids and escaped, but in recent months I've learned just how hard it really is. A good friend trying to escape from her abusive husband learned first-hand the difficulty that women face in those situations. She's an intelligent, strong-willed woman who doesn't take shit from anyone, but she was justifiably terrified that he was going to kill her, and when she reached out to local women's shelters and the like, she found how very little they had to offer her.
Only when she told them outright that she would likely be dead within the week did them make an accommodation for her, and many months later she still lives in fear that he'll track her down.
It's easy after the fact for people to say that she should have done this or she should have done that; I'm sure that she did what she could to escape with her children, and I'm sure that she'll spend the rest of her life wishing that she could have done more.