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Neue Regel

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Sat Jan 28, 2012, 12:00 AM Jan 2012

Cynthia Nixon (Sex & the City) says being gay is a choice [View all]

http://news.yahoo.com/actress-claim-gay-choice-riles-activists-201717513.html

The actress best known for portraying fiery lawyer Miranda Hobbes on "Sex and the City" is up to her perfectly arched eyebrows in controversy since The New York Times Magazine published a profile in which she was quoted as saying that for her, being gay was a conscious choice. Nixon is engaged to a woman with whom she has been in a relationship for eight years. Before that, she spent 15 years and had two children with a man.

"I understand that for many people it's not, but for me it's a choice, and you don't get to define my gayness for me," Nixon said while recounting some of the flak gay rights activists previously had given her for treading in similar territory. "A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it's a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn't matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not."

Among the activists most horrified by Nixon's comments was Truth Wins Out founder Wayne Besen, whose organization monitors and tries to debunk programs that claim to cure people of same-sex attractions with therapy. Besen said he found the actress' analysis irresponsible and flippant, despite her ample caveats.

"Cynthia did not put adequate thought into the ramifications of her words, and it is going to be used when some kid comes out and their parents force them into some ex-gay camp while she's off drinking cocktails at fancy parties," Besen said. "When people say it's a choice, they are green-lighting an enormous amount of abuse because if it's a choice, people will try to influence and guide young people to what they perceive as the right choice."


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Also: XemaSab Jan 2012 #1
Oh, sorry....I didn't realize it had already been discussed Neue Regel Jan 2012 #2
It's all good XemaSab Jan 2012 #10
Honestly it sounds like she is bisexual, and always has been. Quantess Jan 2012 #3
No kidding. I will never believe liberalhistorian Jan 2012 #51
I'm hetero but I once ended up in a threesome. Quantess Jan 2012 #53
spoken like a true (and slightly confused) bi-sexual woman. nt arely staircase Jan 2012 #4
+1 Veruca Salt Jan 2012 #48
quote: "let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not" WTF? icymist Jan 2012 #5
She's afraid if she says she is bisexual then people won't like her Neue Regel Jan 2012 #7
I don't like that idea, either The Genealogist Jan 2012 #13
I'm bisexual Heddi Jan 2012 #17
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Jan 2012 #24
i didn't see that part; yeah, she's a sister. arely staircase Jan 2012 #14
Or, alternatively, she doesn't think the word accurately describes her. Donald Ian Rankin Jan 2012 #42
It may be a relationship choice to her mmonk Jan 2012 #6
If it's a choice for her she's bisexual cpwm17 Jan 2012 #8
Sounds to me like she's bi-sexual. Ruby the Liberal Jan 2012 #9
She is an admitted bi. But really doesn't like the term. xchrom Jan 2012 #11
I think the reallity is, you can pretend to not be GLBT but that is exactlly what teddy51 Jan 2012 #12
the Kinsey Reports proved sexuality was a continuum, not an either\or thing. provis99 Jan 2012 #15
You are so right. Things are never as black and white as we want them to be, are they? randome Jan 2012 #29
What difference does it make? Cracklin Charlie Jan 2012 #16
I agree. rbnyc Jan 2012 #18
Exactly. Whether it's perceived as a choice, a partial choice, or entirely pnwmom Jan 2012 #19
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Jan 2012 #25
+1 Viking12 Jan 2012 #36
I agree. I'm a lesbian. yardwork Jan 2012 #31
The pursuit of HAPPINESS? sibelian Jan 2012 #21
so well put, people need to stop pandering to bigots who try to take legitimacy away from 'choice' stockholmer Jan 2012 #52
So she's a sex tourist, is she? sibelian Jan 2012 #20
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Jan 2012 #26
Entertainers aren't always the smartest or well educated or well informed people. Quantess Jan 2012 #22
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Jan 2012 #23
Excellent response! Proud Liberal Dem Jan 2012 #28
So we let the dumb ones define our terms? yardwork Jan 2012 #32
Exactly. F__k letting Right wing bigots control how we use language and describe each other nt stevenleser Jan 2012 #38
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Jan 2012 #46
I respect and appreciate that you have dropped the "choice" term at the request of LGBTQ folks. yardwork Jan 2012 #50
I've always believed that Proud Liberal Dem Jan 2012 #27
Exactly. yardwork Jan 2012 #33
Dumb headline to OP. She said SHE chose to be gay. If she self-identifies as gay, so be it. Bucky Jan 2012 #30
I think that what the OP is saying (OP correct me if wrong) Proud Liberal Dem Jan 2012 #34
Yes, that was the jist of my comment Neue Regel Jan 2012 #39
Yeah Proud Liberal Dem Jan 2012 #44
Cynthia Nixon is a treasure. She should not be castigated because of a desire to appease bigots. stevenleser Jan 2012 #35
What she said is quite right; what the headliner wrote is not. Donald Ian Rankin Jan 2012 #37
I liken her comment to someone saying... Neue Regel Jan 2012 #40
Do you have one single shred of evidence for that? Donald Ian Rankin Jan 2012 #41
Being a highly-paid professional doesn't necessarily mean you aren't ignorant about some things slackmaster Jan 2012 #43
What makes you think she's ignorant? Donald Ian Rankin Jan 2012 #47
Sounds like a couple of my friends who were LUGS Politicub Jan 2012 #45
I think the issue is not so much her right to say "it's a choice" . . . HughBeaumont Jan 2012 #49
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