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ohheckyeah

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59. My dad,

Wed Feb 6, 2013, 03:45 PM

Feb 2013

after being thoroughly embarrassed after having lunch at a restaurant with his church group vowed to never go to a restaurant with them again. He paid most of the tip, making sure it was 20% (if not more).

The next Sunday he did a whole Sunday School lesson on the verse "the worker is worthy of his wages" - reminding the (adult) class that servers depend on their tips it was their responsibility to pay them well.

He taught his children that if you can't leave a good tip, stay home.

We recently threw a private party at a local restaurant for my parent's 65th wedding anniversary and afterwards he checked with us to make sure we took good care of the two servers. They split 18% that was automatically charged to the bill and we gave each $30 extra. Dad was pleased.

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Busting the Myth That Christians Are More Generous Than Non-Believers [View all] xchrom Feb 2013 OP

Many, many years ago Sherman A1 Feb 2013 #1

Some years back the Southern Baptists had their convention in San Antonio hobbit709 Feb 2013 #7

And the mayor Sherman A1 Feb 2013 #10

completely correct Heddi Feb 2013 #64

I can verify everything you said. ReRe Feb 2013 #11

Precisely Sherman A1 Feb 2013 #14

Gotta love those tracts pokerfan Feb 2013 #106

Indeed Sherman A1 Feb 2013 #107

k/r marmar Feb 2013 #2

mornin! xchrom Feb 2013 #3

Morning xchrom.....It's a bit early for me!!! marmar Feb 2013 #4

the damn dogs got me up. xchrom Feb 2013 #5

Some business can't wait until the sun comes up. marmar Feb 2013 #6

lol -- i guess so...nt xchrom Feb 2013 #8

In general the tithe (contribution) to exboyfil Feb 2013 #9

The secular equivalent would be... nxylas Feb 2013 #12

'cause fuck art, right? (nt) harmonicon Feb 2013 #18

I think it is safe to say aka-chmeee Feb 2013 #20

That's neither here nor there. harmonicon Feb 2013 #22

Can you truly be generous if you are using OPM? dkf Feb 2013 #53

A necessary evil Dash87 Feb 2013 #103

I guess nxylas Feb 2013 #105

Exactly! LiberalFighter Feb 2013 #40

Is it charity if you benefit? KatyMan Feb 2013 #67

Not to mention the expectation of a heavenly reward. yardwork Feb 2013 #78

Excellent post, completely agree with you n/t KatyMan Feb 2013 #94

Completely agree LiberalFighter Feb 2013 #97

Any server knows that super-religious people are cheap and stingy. mwb970 Feb 2013 #13

Cheap, Or modrepub Feb 2013 #21

Barbara Ehrenreich had the same experience when she did research for "Nickeled and Dimed": Arugula Latte Feb 2013 #44

Love the penguins... joeybee12 Feb 2013 #74

Thanks. It's real as far as I know. It's been floating around Arugula Latte Feb 2013 #90

I've always wanted to go to Antarctica to see the penguins... joeybee12 Feb 2013 #92

Bloomberg and Mother Jones blew the lid off Rmoney's "charity" giving Major Nikon Feb 2013 #100

Back when I attended church SemperEadem Feb 2013 #15

what those restaurants need to do SemperEadem Feb 2013 #16

I agree sort of BigD_95 Feb 2013 #17

And until then, you need to tip like a champ. Iggo Feb 2013 #38

As a former waiter, I disagree with the idea that churchgoers are the worst tippers dr.strangelove Feb 2013 #19

That whole incident speaks to a general entitlement complex I've seen in these God people. pink-o Feb 2013 #23

This doesn't prove that at all mythology Feb 2013 #24

Gee, a Christian-bashing thread. What a shock. (nt) Nine Feb 2013 #25

i was raised churched and i am a church goin christian today. xchrom Feb 2013 #26

It most certainly is. Nine Feb 2013 #27

how about accept the criticism and REFLECT on it. xchrom Feb 2013 #29

What makes you think I'm a Christian? Nine Feb 2013 #31

No, they're bad tippers and often uncaring about anyone outside of their narrow worldview catbyte Feb 2013 #30

Then start a thread on bad tippers. Or about the convention of tipping itself. Nine Feb 2013 #32

This IS a thread about bad tippers. Iggo Feb 2013 #39

Look at the thread title again. Nine Feb 2013 #41

Yeah, I see that. Iggo Feb 2013 #45

Would you object if someone started a thread about how Mexicans are bad tippers? Nine Feb 2013 #47

Why don't you start one and let's see. Iggo Feb 2013 #49

Why would I do that? And why would you want me to? Nine Feb 2013 #51

I misread your subject line. Iggo Feb 2013 #58

Apology accepted. (nt) Nine Feb 2013 #66

OK, I looked again NoGOPZone Feb 2013 #50

Wow, you are really tying yourself up in knots to defend the indefensible. Nine Feb 2013 #54

Maybe if you'd come up with some actual evidence to support NoGOPZone Feb 2013 #57

Evidence? The thread is its own evidence. Nine Feb 2013 #76

I've already replaced a reference to Christians in the very OP with a group of YOUR chosing NoGOPZone Feb 2013 #77

So you think it's ok to say black people are rude, stingy, unpleasant, and messy? Nine Feb 2013 #98

No, I think it's OK to say that it's a myth that Christians are more generous than non Christians NoGOPZone Feb 2013 #99

How am I being bigoted? I have PERSONAL EXPERIENCE with after-church cheapskates catbyte Feb 2013 #60

So you're saying it's not bigotry because you believe it to be true? Nine Feb 2013 #68

So you're just trolling for fun. Ugh. catbyte Feb 2013 #72

You have an odd definition of trolling. Nine Feb 2013 #73

Looks like a hypocrite bashing thread to me. nt Zorra Feb 2013 #37

The thread title refers to "Christians," not "hypocrites." Do you equate the two? (nt) Nine Feb 2013 #43

Christian bashing. cordelia Feb 2013 #46

boo hoo datasuspect Feb 2013 #71

It's been that way forever. After church was the WORST. And this was the 1970's. catbyte Feb 2013 #28

I was a waitress in a very popular place. None of us liked waiting on church groups. WCLinolVir Feb 2013 #33

Shame on Applebees. Oh and, shame on that pastor! In_The_Wind Feb 2013 #34

Yay. Yet ANOTHER Christian bashing thread. cordelia Feb 2013 #35

Get over yourself catbyte Feb 2013 #61

Might consider taking your own advice. cordelia Feb 2013 #69

The OP, as he pointed out on the thread, is a Christian. trotsky Feb 2013 #75

And? It's still Christian bashing. cordelia Feb 2013 #108

You poor thing. trotsky Feb 2013 #109

My experience (long) TlalocW Feb 2013 #36

What a colossal waste, to give money to a church, unless it goes directly to helping the needy, Arugula Latte Feb 2013 #42

Is there such thing as a group of people that are "good tippers"? hughee99 Feb 2013 #48

I tended bar, I didn't wait tables, which might make a difference LadyHawkAZ Feb 2013 #65

Smokers. catbyte Feb 2013 #70

+1 Mariana Feb 2013 #93

When I was a waitress long ago, I noticed an inverse relationship between income and tipping. yardwork Feb 2013 #80

My husband's step father is such a cheap ass tightwad Heddi Feb 2013 #87

My former mother in law dated somebody like that for a while. yardwork Feb 2013 #110

I hate going to dinner in a large group... 2theleft Feb 2013 #113

"Why lose your mind when you are a group???" A universal good question. yardwork Feb 2013 #114

former servers tabbycat31 Feb 2013 #83

Poor people Nevernose Feb 2013 #88

I have been told that college alumni Ilsa Feb 2013 #101

They only appear so because ecclesiastical donations count as charity. nt Deep13 Feb 2013 #52

Read stories from the Stained Apron LiberalFighter Feb 2013 #55

Good tippers are as unique as truly excellent service I bet. dkf Feb 2013 #56

My dad, ohheckyeah Feb 2013 #59

Your father is earning his place in heaven. yardwork Feb 2013 #81

Yeah, he's a great guy. ohheckyeah Feb 2013 #85

when I was a server long, long ago (1997-2000) Heddi Feb 2013 #62

Oooh oooh. I remember this time this woman made me make her salad from the salad bar! yardwork Feb 2013 #82

YOU had to make HER a salad? Heddi Feb 2013 #86

Ah yes, the bus tour....guess how I handled it? Digit Feb 2013 #104

In defense of non-Baptists OldHippieChick Feb 2013 #63

That's good. It is unfair to paint all church-goers as bad tippers. yardwork Feb 2013 #84

Church offerings are mostly not charity. They are dues to keep the club going. BlueStreak Feb 2013 #79

My Mom & Grandmom (both non-church goers) are awful tippers Heddi Feb 2013 #89

My parents are religious, and they know to leave a proper tip. Wise Child Feb 2013 #102

The Jack Chick tracts! yardwork Feb 2013 #111

Empirical studies show tama Feb 2013 #91

Sort of a misleading headline.... Jeff In Milwaukee Feb 2013 #95

my wife was a waitress for years and.... madrchsod Feb 2013 #96

I'm a Christian and always tip 20%, tavernier Feb 2013 #112