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Heddi

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17. I'm bisexual

Sat Jan 28, 2012, 01:23 AM

Jan 2012

MANY Straight women think I'm icky (I've been told, by straight women I know..not ALL for god's sake...but many...that they find bisexuality/lesbianism "Gross". "Ew, why do you want to be all up in something that smells like THAT?" My response: well, most importantly if your vagina smells like anything other than a vagina, then you have an infection and need to be checked out. Secondly, a little soap and water go a long way. Thirdly, let's talk about smegma, shall we?)

SOME lesbians that I know (not all...some) have told me I'm confused

the gay men I know don't give a shit

It's even trickier when you're a bisexual woman (me) married! to a straight man (Mr. Heddi), in an open relationship and "dating" other couples. Try bringing that up at the water cooler at work...not happening.

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Cynthia Nixon (Sex & the City) says being gay is a choice [View all] Neue Regel Jan 2012 OP

Also: XemaSab Jan 2012 #1

Oh, sorry....I didn't realize it had already been discussed Neue Regel Jan 2012 #2

It's all good XemaSab Jan 2012 #10

Honestly it sounds like she is bisexual, and always has been. Quantess Jan 2012 #3

No kidding. I will never believe liberalhistorian Jan 2012 #51

I'm hetero but I once ended up in a threesome. Quantess Jan 2012 #53

spoken like a true (and slightly confused) bi-sexual woman. nt arely staircase Jan 2012 #4

+1 Veruca Salt Jan 2012 #48

quote: "let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not" WTF? icymist Jan 2012 #5

She's afraid if she says she is bisexual then people won't like her Neue Regel Jan 2012 #7

I don't like that idea, either The Genealogist Jan 2012 #13

I'm bisexual Heddi Jan 2012 #17

This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Jan 2012 #24

i didn't see that part; yeah, she's a sister. arely staircase Jan 2012 #14

Or, alternatively, she doesn't think the word accurately describes her. Donald Ian Rankin Jan 2012 #42

It may be a relationship choice to her mmonk Jan 2012 #6

If it's a choice for her she's bisexual cpwm17 Jan 2012 #8

Sounds to me like she's bi-sexual. Ruby the Liberal Jan 2012 #9

She is an admitted bi. But really doesn't like the term. xchrom Jan 2012 #11

I think the reallity is, you can pretend to not be GLBT but that is exactlly what teddy51 Jan 2012 #12

the Kinsey Reports proved sexuality was a continuum, not an either\or thing. provis99 Jan 2012 #15

You are so right. Things are never as black and white as we want them to be, are they? randome Jan 2012 #29

What difference does it make? Cracklin Charlie Jan 2012 #16

I agree. rbnyc Jan 2012 #18

Exactly. Whether it's perceived as a choice, a partial choice, or entirely pnwmom Jan 2012 #19

This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Jan 2012 #25

+1 Viking12 Jan 2012 #36

I agree. I'm a lesbian. yardwork Jan 2012 #31

The pursuit of HAPPINESS? sibelian Jan 2012 #21

so well put, people need to stop pandering to bigots who try to take legitimacy away from 'choice' stockholmer Jan 2012 #52

So she's a sex tourist, is she? sibelian Jan 2012 #20

This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Jan 2012 #26

Entertainers aren't always the smartest or well educated or well informed people. Quantess Jan 2012 #22

This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Jan 2012 #23

Excellent response! Proud Liberal Dem Jan 2012 #28

So we let the dumb ones define our terms? yardwork Jan 2012 #32

Exactly. F__k letting Right wing bigots control how we use language and describe each other nt stevenleser Jan 2012 #38

This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Jan 2012 #46

I respect and appreciate that you have dropped the "choice" term at the request of LGBTQ folks. yardwork Jan 2012 #50

I've always believed that Proud Liberal Dem Jan 2012 #27

Exactly. yardwork Jan 2012 #33

Dumb headline to OP. She said SHE chose to be gay. If she self-identifies as gay, so be it. Bucky Jan 2012 #30

I think that what the OP is saying (OP correct me if wrong) Proud Liberal Dem Jan 2012 #34

Yes, that was the jist of my comment Neue Regel Jan 2012 #39

Yeah Proud Liberal Dem Jan 2012 #44

Cynthia Nixon is a treasure. She should not be castigated because of a desire to appease bigots. stevenleser Jan 2012 #35

What she said is quite right; what the headliner wrote is not. Donald Ian Rankin Jan 2012 #37

I liken her comment to someone saying... Neue Regel Jan 2012 #40

Do you have one single shred of evidence for that? Donald Ian Rankin Jan 2012 #41

Being a highly-paid professional doesn't necessarily mean you aren't ignorant about some things slackmaster Jan 2012 #43

What makes you think she's ignorant? Donald Ian Rankin Jan 2012 #47

Sounds like a couple of my friends who were LUGS Politicub Jan 2012 #45

I think the issue is not so much her right to say "it's a choice" . . . HughBeaumont Jan 2012 #49