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Donald Ian Rankin

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42. To deny that sexual orientation is ever a choice is a purely faith-based position.

Sat Jan 28, 2012, 01:36 PM

Jan 2012

The majority of people say that their sexual orientation is/was not a choice; a non-trivial minority say that it is/was.

In the absence of any evidence that either group are lying, to claim that sexual orientation is not a choice for anyone is a purely faith-based position, which is to say a very silly one.

It's one which I consider extremely rude to those people who say that it was - you're effectively calling them liars, and saying that you know what's going on in their heads better than they do, without any evidence to back that up - but it does significantly less harm than those people who claim that sexual orientation is always a choice.

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Cynthia Nixon says she's gay by 'choice.' Is it really a choice? [View all] XemaSab Jan 2012 OP

maybe she is bisexual JI7 Jan 2012 #1

I willing to think that she's Tri-Sexual instead MrScorpio Jan 2012 #31

it's as much a choice as being hetero eShirl Jan 2012 #2

This is simple, the gender of your partner can appear to be a choice if you are Bisexual or... stevenleser Jan 2012 #3

I can understand why gay people would be concerned with what she said limpyhobbler Jan 2012 #4

I have a friend who claims to have chosen to be gay XemaSab Jan 2012 #8

+1 Blue_Tires Jan 2012 #26

Maybe you're taking her too literally rocktivity Jan 2012 #5

Why not? "Nature or nurture" has been argued for years and... TreasonousBastard Jan 2012 #6

She is probably bi. ZombieHorde Jan 2012 #7

I've said I choose to be gay before. So what? David__77 Jan 2012 #9

so what if it's a choice or not? provis99 Jan 2012 #10

This message was self-deleted by its author Bunny Jan 2012 #27

It fits the continuum loyalsister Jan 2012 #11

She wouldn't be the first person who is a little confused BootinUp Jan 2012 #12

New York City. Behind the Aegis Jan 2012 #13

Not a whole lot I guess BootinUp Jan 2012 #14

Seems it does affect it, unless you think New York City is in the South. Behind the Aegis Jan 2012 #15

A fucking mind reading blogger. nt BootinUp Jan 2012 #16

I don't need to be a mind reader, your comment was rather obvious. Behind the Aegis Jan 2012 #17

well thats your opinion and you're sticking to it. BootinUp Jan 2012 #18

Apparently, so are you. Behind the Aegis Jan 2012 #19

Well, she followed this up by stating she was bisexual, but nobody likes the bisexuals TheCruces Jan 2012 #20

Fine with me. She can be whoever she wants to be. It's a free country. closeupready Jan 2012 #21

Though I will add that for me personally, I'm 100% gay, not bi in any way at all. closeupready Jan 2012 #22

This is one person's description of herself. MineralMan Jan 2012 #23

She began in live theater very young. I remember her from Circle Rep. aquart Jan 2012 #29

My goodness, I'd swear that that was Amy Adams nt MrScorpio Jan 2012 #32

She's getting great reviews in Wit on Broadway right now. Lucinda Jan 2012 #35

Yep Monty22001 Jan 2012 #39

There is no end all, be all rule on sexuality in regards to choice vs genetics. Everyones different. phleshdef Jan 2012 #24

A bisexual person who wants to be monogamous does choose. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2012 #25

The so what is: Those fighting for gay rights THINK that it being congenital is required. WingDinger Jan 2012 #28

I'm a bisexual female, married to a straight male Heddi Jan 2012 #30

Its a free country (or at least it should be)... bhikkhu Jan 2012 #33

isnt the correct term for mizz Nixon... Howler Jan 2012 #34

My daughter (who's working on being my son) says no. n/t cherokeeprogressive Jan 2012 #36

Honestly, who cares whether or not it's a choice? Capitalocracy Jan 2012 #37

She's not saying it's always a choice...just for her, her lust does go both ways Demonaut Jan 2012 #38

how can one be gay by choice? Rosa Luxemburg Jan 2012 #40

If she says it's a choice for her... then it is... JSnuffy Jan 2012 #41

To deny that sexual orientation is ever a choice is a purely faith-based position. Donald Ian Rankin Jan 2012 #42

Yes it is. Why not just except her view? Better Believe It Jan 2012 #43

What it comes down to is it's no one's fucking business but rusty fender Jan 2012 #44

She's bisexual. Blue_In_AK Jan 2012 #45