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1-Old-Man

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Sun Feb 10, 2013, 12:49 PM Feb 2013

I was raised by racists, and then one day it just went away [View all]

I was raised by my grandparents, both of whom where born in the late 1800's. They came from western South Carolina. They were both racists who had been raised by men and women who had endured the worst of Sherman's march. That is who they were, I am what they raised.

In 1966 I was a young fellow and I 'moved' from the suburbs of Washington DC to Miami, Florida traveling by hitch-hiking. As luck would have it I got a ride in northern Virginia with a fellow who was headed far south, but unfortunately also to the west. The next morning he dropped me off somewhere in eastern Alabama, a hundred or so miles inland from my route south (US-1, US-17, US-301, and such small arts of I-95 as existed at that time). After walking through a small town I got a ride with an entire family, traveling in a 1958 Ford. The family was black, I was in the back seat along with two young women and a couple of kids. One of the women was breast feeding her child. An old man was driving and his wife and another middle-aged woman were in the front seat. They were all interested in what this young white boy was doing with all his worldly possessions in a paper bag and his thumb stuck out in a place he should not be. And I told them that I was headed to Miami and that I had a sister down there and pretty likely a job waiting too. They were horrified. I would never make it to Florida or even back into Georgia as far as they could see. I was told quite bluntly that I was awfully lucky to have even made it through that town without being arrested. The old man told me that it wouldn't make any difference that I was white and not black. I was from the north and that would be enough, I would be on a road-gang with not a thing in the world to help me within the day.

And while he was telling me that the old man turned to the left and that family went 75 miles out of their way to get me safely out of Alabama and back into eastern Georgia. And that changed everything. It knocked the racism right out of me and at the same time it caused me to be a more generous, or maybe a better way to say that is a less self-centered, person than I had been raised to be. My god, those were wonderful people. Anyway it was one hellacious learning experience.

I don't know that it means much, but that is what happened. By the way, I had $5 with me on that trip and I put $3 of it into their gas tank when they dropped me off. I know that doesn't sound like much but it made them whole and left plenty of money for me to eat as I got on my way.

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That is a nice story. southernyankeebelle Feb 2013 #1
cool story bigtree Feb 2013 #2
What a great life story. Baitball Blogger Feb 2013 #3
When people look beyond race that is when it all works. dkf Feb 2013 #4
Almost 10 years later a buddy of mine ended up being locked up in Alabama for brewens Feb 2013 #5
1969-71, a college friend of mine always biked home from school in FL to somewhere like Ohio (he Nay Feb 2013 #24
Just talking lights my soul socialindependocrat Feb 2013 #6
Thank you for sharing your story. DrewFlorida Feb 2013 #7
that is great sad-cafe Feb 2013 #8
In 1966, $3 would buy 10 gallons of gas..... Wounded Bear Feb 2013 #9
And the remaining $2 bought me a couple of burgers and more than one Nehi Orange too 1-Old-Man Feb 2013 #11
Great story! Orrex Feb 2013 #10
Wonderful story. Thanks. JDPriestly Feb 2013 #12
I'm touch by your story Mockingjay Feb 2013 #13
Life experiences make people who and what they are. Just as the south suffered and lost so much kelliekat44 Feb 2013 #55
Thanks for one of your life stories... ReRe Feb 2013 #14
Cool story! ismnotwasm Feb 2013 #15
yep heaven05 Feb 2013 #19
Thank you very much ismnotwasm Feb 2013 #22
Thank you for this. I'm working up the courage... OneGrassRoot Feb 2013 #16
I have a feeling that it'll be an amazing story renate Feb 2013 #48
Oh wow... OneGrassRoot Feb 2013 #50
My grandparents bought a house in Washington D,C. N.W. in 1950 xtraxritical Feb 2013 #17
What a gift! tblue Feb 2013 #18
great story heaven05 Feb 2013 #20
Wow, I'm glad I took the time to read this...it's quite awesome. graywarrior Feb 2013 #21
Ahem....I have something in my eye.... BlueJazz Feb 2013 #23
K & R !!! WillyT Feb 2013 #25
That is one of the best stories I have read here in years Trajan Feb 2013 #26
Great story. n/t Ashgrey77 Feb 2013 #27
You Have To Be Carefully Taught grilled onions Feb 2013 #28
Great story thanks for sharing.... skeewee08 Feb 2013 #29
This is a lesson for all of us. Curmudgeoness Feb 2013 #30
Interesating, you have a moment that changed you tavalon Feb 2013 #31
I was partially raised by a black woman, who was our maid steve2470 Feb 2013 #32
When something like your story happens it always works to reverse racism lunatica Feb 2013 #33
i never saw that because I thought it glorified skinheads - will have to check it out Thanks lunasun Feb 2013 #36
Norton is amazing in this role. Great film. nt Mnemosyne Feb 2013 #41
Great story Lithos Feb 2013 #34
Good points .... 1-Old-Man Feb 2013 #52
What a wonderful story!!! Stuff like this we need to hear and read about, every day! calimary Feb 2013 #35
Great story... southern_belle Feb 2013 #37
Gave you a heart. Thanks for sharing that story. yardwork Feb 2013 #38
Thank you for sharing that story. truedelphi Feb 2013 #39
You got out of that car a different man than when you got in, didn't you? NBachers Feb 2013 #40
This is an incredibly beautiful defacto7 Feb 2013 #42
I've always found most black people to be generous and caring to whites BlueStreak Feb 2013 #43
I still remember the small kindness of a black woman when I was 17 Skittles Feb 2013 #47
I hear the subtext of a tragedy behind your words. Jackpine Radical Feb 2013 #57
Sweet story! K&R nt abelenkpe Feb 2013 #44
And sometimes you meet an angel Smilo Feb 2013 #45
K&R DeSwiss Feb 2013 #46
You thought it was the road south, but it was to Damascus. aquart Feb 2013 #49
A heart to you, for that story alone... MrMickeysMom Feb 2013 #51
My story is almost the exact opposite, I was in my 20's before I realized I was racist. Amimnoch Feb 2013 #53
oh wow, I almost bypassed this thread because I ASSumed it was going to be a rant BlancheSplanchnik Feb 2013 #54
Thank God for that family... zanana1 Feb 2013 #56
What a beatutiful post malaise Feb 2013 #58
By coincidence, I was watching "Slavery By Another Name" while reading this post ... eppur_se_muova Feb 2013 #59
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