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In reply to the discussion: Eve Ensler on the passivity of men [View all]RC
(25,592 posts)But many women do not see us as we are. Or even prefer to not see us as we really are. Most of us are kind and loving.
It IS because we tend more to act our feelings and less to speak our feelings, the opposite of women, that we are marginalized and emotionally kicked to the curb by the more vocal, who, quite often. would prefer to play the roll of victim anyway.
We try to do good, but because the Valentine card is not gooey enough, or because we take out the trash without being ask, or told... or we wash/gas-up YOUR car/truck on a whim, or any of thousands of little thing we do to say 'We love and appreciate you"... You do not see our actions as expressions of Love. You really do not. It takes its emotional toll on us after a while.
Many men have trouble saying those words. Not because we don't mean them, not because we don't love you, but because our speech centers are not as well connected to our emotions as women's are. Men as a whole really do have a problem saying the words that you want to hear, need to hear. So we express our love for each other differently. We all need to recognize our gender differences, that reflect the way we view and do things.
You need words, but we supply deeds in place of our words, so you do not understand what we are saying to you.