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199. "Relationships"? Men joking about how they'd like to fuck Sarah Palin, except for

Thu Feb 14, 2013, 07:25 PM

Feb 2013

some snide remarks about her voice or political views, or whatever other bullshit... my being offended at the laughing and joking about the idea that it is perfectly acceptable for men to reduce women to objects to be fucked... If that's the kind of relationships you're referring to, then I fucking sure do have a horrible view of them.

I do think men who watch porn or buy sex think of women that way. Laugh all you want, apparently you're not overly concerned about objectification, so party on.

As for your view on the word 'bitch', I don't recall, but just as with this word, due to your minimization of issues you don't personally consider important, it wouldn't surprise me if you did take the 'shut up, word police' side in the past. I don't remember if you had, or I wouldnt have asked.

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When the word 'pussy' is used an insult, do you perceive it as sexist? [View all] redqueen Feb 2013 OP

Yes. ScreamingMeemie Feb 2013 #1

double entendre (pussy) arely staircase Feb 2013 #210

Too funny! And vulgar. MissMarple Feb 2013 #257

you bet. cali Feb 2013 #2

Yep. Luminous Animal Feb 2013 #3

Yes n/t demmiblue Feb 2013 #4

Yes. Its use implies that women are weak and wimpy. yardwork Feb 2013 #5

of course...the person who says it, intends it to be an insult Fresh_Start Feb 2013 #6

It's getting harder and harder to be offensive and politcally correct these days. joeunderdog Feb 2013 #211

Ain't dat da troot! Petrushka Feb 2013 #277

Of course. It refers to the feminine, and nothing is worse than that in macholand. n/t Egalitarian Thug Feb 2013 #7

feminine is an adjective - eom arely staircase Feb 2013 #201

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This is NOT about me, or my hapoiness. nt redqueen Feb 2013 #18

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oh boy. bunnies Feb 2013 #40

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Believe me... bunnies Feb 2013 #68

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lol bunnies Feb 2013 #75

I believe that should be "pants crap fever". 11 Bravo Feb 2013 #87

! bunnies Feb 2013 #95

So he's like a woman, eh? Because he like a woman, eh? Luminous Animal Feb 2013 #141

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Cats are weak????!!!!! yardwork Feb 2013 #151

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So could mine. yardwork Feb 2013 #161

n/s JustAnotherGen Feb 2013 #307

Yeah right. Luminous Animal Feb 2013 #168

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This whole OP was flame bait trolling. cleanhippie Feb 2013 #224

Devil....it may not offend you, but it IS what's called a vulgarism, in one sense, per Merriam... Honeycombe8 Feb 2013 #251

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As I said, it may not offend YOU, but you are not alone in the world. This is not devilgrrl island. Honeycombe8 Feb 2013 #259

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Hey, I'm not the one being inconsiderate of others who find a term really vulgar & offensive. Honeycombe8 Feb 2013 #261

This message was self-deleted by its author devilgrrl Feb 2013 #263

Nope. You attacked me, when I merely cut and pasted the definition of a word. Honeycombe8 Feb 2013 #268

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Doesn't offend me either. What does offend me are women being droned to death sabrina 1 Feb 2013 #311

This thread is for the purpose of *****A-T-T-E-N-T-I-O-N*****!!!1!!! pacalo Feb 2013 #317

It's also what a lot of gay kids are bullied with. donheld Feb 2013 #278

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Don't worry about me... redqueen Feb 2013 #44

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Results of your Jury Service RC Feb 2013 #65

It's really lame when someone alerts a post like this DisgustipatedinCA Feb 2013 #91

I can understand it, though... redqueen Feb 2013 #99

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I see your point, if I don't necessarily agree with it. DisgustipatedinCA Feb 2013 #127

Thanks... apparently the target of the alert has a fan club (I certainly sympathize) redqueen Feb 2013 #135

or, it could be, as much as we LOVE devil, lol, seabeyond Feb 2013 #147

Oh well, you win some & you lose some. pacalo Feb 2013 #318

The whole point of the OP was to get people to use the word "pussy" in a way they didn't like cleanhippie Feb 2013 #226

bullshit. it was because someone used it and it didnt get hidden. and the same old seabeyond Feb 2013 #230

Yawn. cleanhippie Feb 2013 #232

what about your fabricated outrage. oh really, lets make up a story and insist it is fact seabeyond Feb 2013 #233

What are you on about now? Isn't there someone somwhere on DU using a word you don't like? cleanhippie Feb 2013 #236

gettin' snotty? nt seabeyond Feb 2013 #237

Panties in a twist? That's SOME hypocrisy you have there. Couple that with never-ending outrage cleanhippie Feb 2013 #238

people get away with that always. i figured you would alert and whine about a personal attack again seabeyond Feb 2013 #240

Bwahahaha! You seem scared of what you posted so you changed it. There is a word some people use cleanhippie Feb 2013 #243

this would be merely another example of fabricated accusations for your agenda. outraged? prove it seabeyond Feb 2013 #245

Your incessant outrage is obvious to even the most casual observer. But whatever works for you. cleanhippie Feb 2013 #255

ya, that. and you get the last word. seabeyond Feb 2013 #258

ha ha datasuspect Feb 2013 #302

No, discussion of misogynist slurs is not a conspiracy against people who use them. nt redqueen Feb 2013 #287

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i like you. seabeyond Feb 2013 #132

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That sounds entirely reasonable to me. redqueen Feb 2013 #139

I love you! JustAnotherGen Feb 2013 #308

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i really think some people post stuff just to get other people to post arely staircase Feb 2013 #192

You know they do. RC Feb 2013 #208

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That is EXACTLY the point of this OP. cleanhippie Feb 2013 #227

Yes, it isn't the fault of the person posting offensive shit, redqueen Feb 2013 #292

my 5 yr old niece? my 50 yr old alcoholic brother? oh, wait.... rapist and rapist seabeyond Feb 2013 #293

All good examples, but I was thinking of that comment about abused women, redqueen Feb 2013 #298

oh, gosh yes. isnt that always the one. seabeyond Feb 2013 #299

nice try arely staircase Feb 2013 #312

I didn't try, I succeeded in interpreting your post. redqueen Feb 2013 #313

please proceed, redqueen arely staircase Feb 2013 #314

Proceed to do what? Post tired internet memes redqueen Feb 2013 #315

You have never met a brave or courageous woman? Sekhmets Daughter Feb 2013 #181

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So we should use Sekhmets Daughter Feb 2013 #189

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Only you would think so. Sekhmets Daughter Feb 2013 #195

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ego, maybe ? arely staircase Feb 2013 #214

Use "wimp" or "wuss" or just plain "coward." Warpy Feb 2013 #133

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i was told not wuss, that it is a combo of the two words.... i didnt know. seabeyond Feb 2013 #148

Oh, I think the post above yours says it best Warpy Feb 2013 #154

i like spineless asshole! (when you're being less political) bettyellen Feb 2013 #246

You know, in the interest of further muddying the waters... Orrex Feb 2013 #274

Yes, sexist and against community standards IMHO. nt stevenleser Feb 2013 #9

In spite of the modern interpretation, its etymology may have nothing to do w/genitals: LeftinOH Feb 2013 #10

Sciences not allowed!!11!!! Viva_La_Revolution Feb 2013 #284

Yes, but... JaneyVee Feb 2013 #11

I can't stop laughing at this bigtree Feb 2013 #19

nope. nt RandiFan1290 Feb 2013 #12

Yes, and same as that Beaver Ad HockeyMom Feb 2013 #13

The HS mascot in the town I grew up in is a freaking beaver! Imagine being a teen girl yelling Mnemosyne Feb 2013 #56

Guess ya don't know about the Gamecocks? Manifestor_of_Light Feb 2013 #166

I do now! Mnemosyne Feb 2013 #267

University of South Carolina. Manifestor_of_Light Feb 2013 #295

No DavidDvorkin Feb 2013 #14

I no longer donate, so I can't. If someone else wants to do a poll, I'll delete this. nt redqueen Feb 2013 #25

Message auto-removed hotcheese Feb 2013 #15

ooh, seek help bigtree Feb 2013 #23

Feminists are well used to such vitriol. redqueen Feb 2013 #61

Nope, but out of respect for those that do... EastKYLiberal Feb 2013 #16

Same here. n/t FSogol Feb 2013 #21

yeah me too d_r Feb 2013 #32

I want to hug this whole subthread for having consideration for their community bettyellen Feb 2013 #244

is it being used as a noun or adjective? snooper2 Feb 2013 #17

Nope. It's a diminutive of pusillanimous. nt Dreamer Tatum Feb 2013 #20

Nope. That's not the etymology according to any valid source Check the OED for example. Gormy Cuss Feb 2013 #242

Of course. The inference is femininity as a perjorative Melinda Feb 2013 #22

Yep. It is sad. nt redqueen Feb 2013 #27

No NV Whino Feb 2013 #24

Yes idwiyo Feb 2013 #26

no, because it is light-hearted Enrique Feb 2013 #28

IMO having femaleness associated with weakness and cowardice is not lighthearted. redqueen Feb 2013 #36

Is really worse than having maleness equated with arrogance and being unlikable SpartanDem Feb 2013 #55

I was thinking about that earlier Orrex Feb 2013 #92

Yes, good insights and well stated... redqueen Feb 2013 #93

Happy to chime in! Orrex Feb 2013 #110

agreed. good point and thank you for saying this clearly. seabeyond Feb 2013 #94

You caught me in a moment of lucidity Orrex Feb 2013 #111

ya... but, have you placed me on ignore? you are psychic. you can reply perfectly seabeyond Feb 2013 #114

Hey, who said that? Orrex Feb 2013 #273

Are you a man by any chance? n/t Egalitarian Thug Feb 2013 #49

Of course it is. nt sufrommich Feb 2013 #29

Absolutely wryter2000 Feb 2013 #30

I do - nt Ohio Joe Feb 2013 #31

Sure. It's not like they are talking about a cat. nt Nay Feb 2013 #34

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it is sexist, it is not a question of my perception. nt La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2013 #37

I would of course agree... redqueen Feb 2013 #48

Yes. Buzz Clik Feb 2013 #38

No CBGLuthier Feb 2013 #39

Yes! retread Feb 2013 #41

yes. obviously. purposely. duh... lol, nt seabeyond Feb 2013 #43

No, I find it insulting to cats though. Cleita Feb 2013 #46

It is in that context Taverner Feb 2013 #47

I agree re: slang for vulva. redqueen Feb 2013 #52

Post removed Post removed Feb 2013 #78

No. It's a legitimate Golf term. OffWithTheirHeads Feb 2013 #50

Yes. gollygee Feb 2013 #51

No more than when the word dick is used as an insult. phleshdef Feb 2013 #53

I guess you could see it that way Drale Feb 2013 #54

I don't hear the word used to refer to cats. redqueen Feb 2013 #57

Because the original use for the word "pussy" referred to cats Drale Feb 2013 #62

The only people I've ever known who used that word for cats gollygee Feb 2013 #66

yes! my old Irish aunties used to holler POO see, POOO se, POO see because they grew up on a farm bettyellen Feb 2013 #241

Better to use "pusillanimous" -- gets the point across better but with an alliterative catch. . . Journeyman Feb 2013 #58

Yes Aerows Feb 2013 #59

Yes. nt hack89 Feb 2013 #60

No. The word has been used for so long and so casually, it now exists on its own, IMO. randome Feb 2013 #63

Of course. This is always an interesting topic n/t Demo_Chris Feb 2013 #64

No. Spider Jerusalem Feb 2013 #67

spider... good point. nt seabeyond Feb 2013 #79

Thank you! redqueen Feb 2013 #83

Yeah. It's an annoying part of our super-machismo culture. Dash87 Feb 2013 #69

Yes. It should NEVER be used here. I will go ballistic if I see it. DevonRex Feb 2013 #70

of course TorchTheWitch Feb 2013 #72

I always figured it to be in reference meanit Feb 2013 #73

Yes. It is a sexist insult, IMO. War Horse Feb 2013 #74

Nope Soundman Feb 2013 #76

Absolutely. n/t DonViejo Feb 2013 #77

My first reaction is it is homophobic... joeybee12 Feb 2013 #80

If you can't figure that out on your own, procon Feb 2013 #81

yup. redq is like the HUGEST sexist on du, for all times. we try.... seabeyond Feb 2013 #82

Yes! LiberalLoner Feb 2013 #84

Yes. (And it's a 'Hide' in the DU jury context for me...) nt petronius Feb 2013 #85

There is no other way TO perceive it. WinkyDink Feb 2013 #86

No. Not until I saw this thread. protect our future Feb 2013 #88

What?! You actually thought a man using this term for another man was referring to a CAT? WinkyDink Feb 2013 #96

No, of course not. I've always used the protect our future Feb 2013 #113

Sexist and homophobic Marrah_G Feb 2013 #89

Yes. Starry Messenger Feb 2013 #90

YES! MuseRider Feb 2013 #97

Mooserider! lonestarnot Feb 2013 #271

WOW! Hi there! MuseRider Feb 2013 #288

Absolutely yes. LanternWaste Feb 2013 #98

Yes. I prefer the non-sexist "asshole". dairydog91 Feb 2013 #100

It is sexist. So is calling someone a dick. el_bryanto Feb 2013 #101

Exactly. The power differential and lack of institutional and social oppression redqueen Feb 2013 #102

and yet they are both insults to men arely staircase Feb 2013 #219

Not really, but I'm a dick. N/T galileoreloaded Feb 2013 #103

yes. n/t Whisp Feb 2013 #104

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It's sexist, lame, and also decidedly unimaginative. There are far better insults one can use, like Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #106

How about 'pompous, ignorant, self-important, shit-stirring bucket of filth'? redqueen Feb 2013 #116

Yes, yes! Or "soul-sucking vortex of depressing, monotonous boring negativity, putrid essence Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #142

Absolutely. Apophis Feb 2013 #107

Insults are supposed to be Insulting. JoePhilly Feb 2013 #108

so cause you really really want to insult be homophobic or sexist. hmmm, nt seabeyond Feb 2013 #115

Well, yes. JoePhilly Feb 2013 #196

I was either Juror #2 or #3: apocalypsehow Feb 2013 #109

juror 5... if adminstration would only add it to tos. nt seabeyond Feb 2013 #118

+1. I agree. n/t. apocalypsehow Feb 2013 #165

No more than when someone is called a "dick" - lynne Feb 2013 #112

Both are perfectly viable insults without being sexist. Swamp Lover Feb 2013 #145

and then one can get their post hidden. seabeyond Feb 2013 #150

No. nt. polly7 Feb 2013 #117

Shocking. redqueen Feb 2013 #119

lol lol. nt seabeyond Feb 2013 #120

ya. da. polly7 Feb 2013 #124

If you were only wanting one answer, why did you pose it as a question? polly7 Feb 2013 #123

Using the word "pussy" as a derogatory term sufrommich Feb 2013 #131

See, there ya go. That's just what I was thinking of. polly7 Feb 2013 #140

or sorta holding onto an over year long grudge which makes it petty. nt seabeyond Feb 2013 #152

I am?? polly7 Feb 2013 #157

I did not mean to insult you. redqueen Feb 2013 #167

Gotta give you this... pacalo Feb 2013 #316

Context redqueen Feb 2013 #156

You were asked not to use it. polly7 Feb 2013 #164

No. Because I'm clearly not "defending" the word. redqueen Feb 2013 #169

'Feign outrage over it'. polly7 Feb 2013 #172

Apologizing to people who defend some of the most commonly used misogynist slurs? redqueen Feb 2013 #174

What slurs do I use? polly7 Feb 2013 #175

Where did I say you used any? redqueen Feb 2013 #179

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"Relationships"? Men joking about how they'd like to fuck Sarah Palin, except for redqueen Feb 2013 #199

Well, here's where we'll never agree. polly7 Feb 2013 #206

It's not any more of an insult to ask people to stop using it here sufrommich Feb 2013 #182

You'll never see me using one of those terms or defend them. polly7 Feb 2013 #194

Nope, but if someone calls me a vagina we're fightin'. n/t cherokeeprogressive Feb 2013 #122

yes, of course it is. n/t Scout Feb 2013 #125

Yes loyalsister Feb 2013 #126

except the male terms are their own body parts they love and dicks have always held the power seabeyond Feb 2013 #158

I guess I don't get the vigorous qazplm Feb 2013 #213

i do not think i have EVER used either of the terms either on du or real life. seems like more a man seabeyond Feb 2013 #217

I agree about that cultural aspect loyalsister Feb 2013 #216

Yes, it's meant as a sexist insult Warpy Feb 2013 #129

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Yes. n/t Small Accumulates Feb 2013 #134

Yes. It translates to, "you're weak, like someone with a vagina." It's sexist and obnoxious. Squinch Feb 2013 #138

Is it sexist if you use it... one_voice Feb 2013 #144

I looked up how the word came to mean a weakling OKNancy Feb 2013 #146

No but PETA gets ticked off! whistler162 Feb 2013 #149

i didn't used but have learned better since and do believe that now. TeamPooka Feb 2013 #153

Thanks. And despite the lack of a power imbalance or institutionalized or social oppression against redqueen Feb 2013 #171

I always think of it that way. n/t RKP5637 Feb 2013 #155

Me? No. MrSlayer Feb 2013 #159

Quite. nt bemildred Feb 2013 #162

Yes ! In_The_Wind Feb 2013 #163

Yes, to the same extent calling someone a "dick" is sexist. GodlessBiker Feb 2013 #170

I agree that we shouldn't use either... redqueen Feb 2013 #183

I don't. It's just part of modern slang. Like d*uche or d*ck LittleBlue Feb 2013 #176

No. It's become so commonplace I think it lost all sexist connotation. I'm a woman, for the record gateley Feb 2013 #177

I don't use it in general speech, so I don't use it here. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2013 #178

I really don't see how it could possibly not be taken as sexist...and it lowers my opinion Rowdyboy Feb 2013 #180

does the same for me, and i agree iwth your post. nt seabeyond Feb 2013 #184

so if one calls ted nugent a pussy arely staircase Feb 2013 #197

Thery're both words that I choose not to use...One is racist, the other sexist and homophobic Rowdyboy Feb 2013 #222

Well said, I wish I could give that post a rec Ohio Joe Feb 2013 #225

It really doesn't take much effort to be insulting as hell and still not use those few words.... Rowdyboy Feb 2013 #231

one is racist but the homophobic nature of the other is debatable arely staircase Feb 2013 #228

Its a matter of opinion, I'll admit. I've perceived it as homophobic since the first time Rowdyboy Feb 2013 #235

our history probably isn't as different as you assume arely staircase Feb 2013 #248

Actually, its probably more a generational thing. I was in middle school in 1969 Rowdyboy Feb 2013 #262

many sexist slurs against women are also used against gay men to imply they're feminine... and not bettyellen Feb 2013 #249

such as? arely staircase Feb 2013 #250

no, otherwise i wouldn't use it. arely staircase Feb 2013 #187

yes BainsBane Feb 2013 #188

Yes Solly Mack Feb 2013 #190

not really. Algebra Palin Feb 2013 #193

Yes. nt Sienna86 Feb 2013 #198

YES nt s-cubed Feb 2013 #200

Yes, but I don't think that is always the intent. nt ZombieHorde Feb 2013 #202

Doesn't bother me but I won't use it out of respect for those it does bother. tblue Feb 2013 #203

Yes. myrna minx Feb 2013 #204

Mrs Slocombe said it all the time. edbermac Feb 2013 #205

When I was younger I used the word myself now that I'm older yes its the epitome of sexiest... trublu992 Feb 2013 #207

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It can be. Depends on context. Xithras Feb 2013 #218

Well, let's try the ol' "reverse the situation" test on it.... Flying Squirrel Feb 2013 #220

very good, valid and logical response. hadnt even thought of it like that but a clear reason it is seabeyond Feb 2013 #229

No I don't n/t quinnox Feb 2013 #221

yep. bettyellen Feb 2013 #223

No. I perceive it as vulgar. nt rrneck Feb 2013 #234

Sexist always. n/t Gormy Cuss Feb 2013 #239

Generally not. bluedigger Feb 2013 #247

When the word "dick" or "dickhead" is used as an insult, do you perceive THAT as sexist too? RBInMaine Feb 2013 #252

Yes. ChazII Feb 2013 #254

No. I consider the source. tavernier Feb 2013 #256

I do too. forestpath Feb 2013 #264

No, but I'm English... jannyk Feb 2013 #265

Umm, it is an insult, it is meant to be offending, MadHound Feb 2013 #266

I don't view the word any more or any less sexist Gemini Cat Feb 2013 #269

no smackd Feb 2013 #272

No. Nor do I concide calling someone easttexaslefty Feb 2013 #275

Hmmm. Is a gendered insult that implies inferiority sexist? EDIT Deep13 Feb 2013 #276

Incredible, isn't it? When the TOS was watered down, it set the stage for things to get worse. redqueen Feb 2013 #286

on top of that, since tos does not say no sexism, sexism is allowed. and there you go. nt seabeyond Feb 2013 #289

Yep. And there went my star. nt redqueen Feb 2013 #291

Right, because as we all know "bigotry...based on gender.." doesn't mean sexism Gormy Cuss Feb 2013 #300

seems to be the thing lately. i have seen a couple men say it and a couple on jury. seabeyond Feb 2013 #303

Seems to be a lot of spurious defenses of word usage lately. Gormy Cuss Feb 2013 #304

yes. it really is. there is still tweaking going on. so, i still have hope. nt seabeyond Feb 2013 #305

context sigmasix Feb 2013 #279

Only a real 'dickhead' would even pose that question Zambero Feb 2013 #280

Who cares? lbrtbell Feb 2013 #282

Of course. Every time it is used to insult an individual, it also insults every woman, everywhere. Zorra Feb 2013 #283

Yes. wildeyed Feb 2013 #285

it does not bother me either. but, i get that it is sexist. i get that it is used to denigrate seabeyond Feb 2013 #290

True, plus I believe in common courtesy. wildeyed Feb 2013 #297

Yes. n/t Fire Walk With Me Feb 2013 #294

Yes. No shades of gray on this one. nt. NCTraveler Feb 2013 #296

Yes and any of the variations alarimer Feb 2013 #301

Sexist ismnotwasm Feb 2013 #306

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