My ongoing exposure to domestic violence

[MoonRiver]

83. Bama, you've been given some great advice here, but you seem to be making excuses to ignore it all.

While this is typical of an abused spouse, unless you wake up and take action, nothing will change. In fact, it will get much worse. You don't like your husband's parents, so you are reluctant to take them up on their offer to get him out of your house. You won't go to a shelter because you don't want to leave your husband in your house. You don't want to call the police because your kids MIGHT be there when they show up to haul him away.

All these excuses are totally bogus. Your concerns can easily be dealt with. Maybe you don't really want to leave the relationship. You need to get honest about this. You have discussed how you came from an abusive family yourself. Perhaps this situation is subconsciously comfortable to you, which is why you refuse to leave.

Your husband is responsible for the abuse he has inflicted on you and your children. But you are responsible for not taking action to end the abuse. Sorry to be blunt, I know you are suffering, but this is a fact. If something happens to your kids because you haven't done anything to protect them, you are victim no longer. You are enabling the perpetrator. Please think about this.