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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]Bluenorthwest
(45,319 posts)people who do not dress in drag do not live like gay people. This is extremely offensive to everyone involved, I'd guess particularly to all those heterosexual cross dressing men. There is no way of living that is gay, no way of living that is not gay. There is no gay lifestyle, there are just lots of gay people living lots of lives in lots of ways, exactly as it is among straight people.
Your friends you'd not assume were gay? I would assume they are gay. Because I don't see 'gay' as meaning any one particular thing other than being sexually attracted to the same sex. Just exactly as straight means nothing more that opposite sex attraction, some straight men love opera and fine fabrics and don't want to get their wee pinkies dirty and some gay men are linebackers who drink brewskis and don't do the laundry often enough.
My original post in this thread addressed the media message that follows tales of underage boys and older women. The pundit I heard declare that he can not imagine ANY 16 year old boy not wanting a stripper to lap dance him while his Mom watched. I object to that because there ARE 16 year old boys who are gay, and you know, there are some straight boys who probably don't really want Mommy to watch them pop a boner. For such kids to hear on TV that it is deviant for them NOT to want to get horny around Mom or not with the opposite sex at all is really fucked up.