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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]Atman
(31,464 posts)Really? I'm sorry if "lifestyle" is the wrong word for you. I don't know how much more clearly I can explain it. Being gay is not a "lifestyle." It is just being gay. But, what you deliberately want to ignore, is exactly what I pointed out...you can surf, but not live the perceived surfer lifestyle. You can be gay, but not live the lifestyle many equate with being gay. That is NOT saying that being gay is merely a lifestyle. It is saying, deny it all you want, that there is a perceived "gay" lifestyle. It's maybe what your mom or dad thinks. I'm not saying it's right, I'm just saying it IS. There are people who are not gay who assume that being gay means being a drag queen or hanging out in gay bars. A PERCEIVED lifestyle. It doesn't mean "gay" is a lifestyle.
I am an artist. I don't were berets, although I used to have a studio in an old mill building, and I frequently painted while naked, listening to Tory Amos. Again, I can't stress this enough...I am NOT saying gay is a "lifestyle." I'm saying there is a perceived gay lifestyle, which is totally separate from sexuality.