Psychiatrists to brand grief lasting longer than two weeks a mental illness

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31. Have to agree with you

When mom died it hit me terribly hard. I had just moved into the house next door to her after not seeing here a lot over the years (since I lived all over Ohio and California) and we were enjoying each other. 3 months later she was in the hospital and died not long after that. Had my dream job, house, car, married and wonderful daughter, and things were all good.

My brother/sister/dad/nieces/etc all seemed to pretty much get over it after the funeral. I was still devastated. Their advice 'just get over it, she is in a better place, drink some green herbal tea, quit thinking about it, etc'.

My first mother's day without her I made a video tribute to her which I eventually put online. My x was mad at me for not doing more for her that mother's day. My family told me I shouldn't dwell on it, etc.

Now years later I am much better and some of them are now having problems from burying it all. I get upset a little on the anniversary of her death (new year's eve) but pretty much I went through grief stages, got counseling, and worked through it over time - but the people closest to me made me feel bad about it.

All this was compounded with mom's best friend dying a few months later and my first x dying shortly after that and me finding my kids after 10 years.

Grief can be a lonely hell hole when people try to get you to suppress it because they are feeling it differently than you and do not try to understand (and with one exception they are all rabid rw christian fundies....whose answer to everything is suck it up and bury things)