You saw their boobs? Now go fuck yourself.

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277. That there is something beyond just avoiding poverty that keeps women with abusers

Personally, I think society has conditioned women that the fairy tale store is the man who is perfect, except for one flaw. She will stick with that man and endure his abuse until she ultimately cures him and they live happily ever after.

Christian Grey is a sadist. Someone who is into dominating will use pain as a form of punishment, but it is ultimately done out of love for the person and is generally viewed as a means to correct a behavior. While this is not something I am into, to each their own. A sadist, on the other hand, inflicts pain because the pain of others brings pleasure to them. Christian mentions MANY times over that he gains great pleasure in inflicting pain on Ana (and all his other women). This becomes even more disturbing once you learn he was molested as a 15 year old by an older women. While I don't think the author was smart enough to realize what she was doing, she created a textbook example of an abuse victim who in turn becomes an abuser.

Now, Ana wants to endure all this abuse because she loves him and recognizes he is perfect in every way, except for his desire to cause her physical pain for his own pleasure (at some point in Fifty Shades Darker, she is upset with herself because she thinks she loves him enough that she should not be bothered with him wanting to cause her pain for his sexual gratification).

All in all, she gets the dream life once she cures him and they get married and have a kid.

Any sane person would look at this as a disgusting normalization of abusive behavior. The real life Ana's end up, years later, running for their life in the middle of the night, with their three children in tow, to get to a shelter. The reality is that the rate that women gobble this book up, along with Twilight (sadly, a book normalizing abusive behavior for teenagers) and many others shows that there is some societal conditioning that affects more than just low income women.