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WCGreen

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Thu Feb 28, 2013, 10:34 PM Feb 2013

Back in the 70's, when I was still tethered to my mother, she made it clear that I was to attend [View all]

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Catholic catechism.

There were many things that I questioned, being that I had already started to explore alternative faiths, stuff that was different from the rote religious experience that was offered by the churches in the Irish and Eastern European neighborhoods where I was raised. So I was skeptical at the onset.

She wanted me to be confirmed even though my parents had divorced and my mother thought that continuing a spiritual upbringing in spite of her being to suffer a de facto excommunication by the Vatican. She felt sure that I should not be tainted by her blasphemous action against god and church for kicking my alcoholic and abusive father to the curb.

Which, of course, of being sound mind, I thought the actions taken by the church against my mom was more than enough for me to walk away, thank you very much. But she wanted me to be confirmed so that I could be sanctioned into the Army of God in case there was a new Crusade against the heathens who control the Holy Land and I had been a problem child, I agreed.

But I never promised my mother that I would suffer the religious rhetoric gladly. So I girded my loins and attended in full ostentation and made it clear I was in attendance against my intellectual protest with the cock assurance only a 10th grader can have.

Now I had just finished studying Inherent the Wind in my 10th grade Honors English as well as reading the bible not as a spiritual exercise but as part of a literary exploration of where story telling developed which also included The Odyssey and The Iliad.

In the classroom, I challenged and compared in every single way I could. The poor woman trying to teach a class after doing what she did all day to earn her keep did not deserve my puffed up chest and posturing and questioning everything and anything.

Finally, she asked why I was bothering to attend the class if I was so dead against these matters of faith.

I told her about my mothers' situation after class and found out that she was in fact a nun who had left the order. She asked me to have my mother call her and she would talk to her about me.

Turns out the woman met with my mother and brought up annulments that were being given in other cities that had Cardinals that are more liberal. My mother had her first marriage annulled and was able to find peace with her faith.

Me, I never went back to those classes but maybe, just maybe, especially looking back from 40 years on, there was a divine spark that set the action leading up to my mother finding peace with her god

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K&R...a kindness that you did for your mother...and you look on KoKo Feb 2013 #1
Unless your mother had remarried Warpy Feb 2013 #2
she remarried.... WCGreen Feb 2013 #5
Jesus most certainly did care about men going wife to wife, he forbade it and called it adultery: Bluenorthwest Feb 2013 #6
So it is reported, anyhow. MineralMan Mar 2013 #18
And what has that got to do with anything? Bluenorthwest Mar 2013 #24
My point is simple: There is no actual MineralMan Mar 2013 #25
Off topic, but I thought you were in your 70's, not a kid in the 1970's! madinmaryland Feb 2013 #3
I very much enjoyed your story. You are a good kid, even though MADem Feb 2013 #4
The worked for Dorothy... WCGreen Feb 2013 #7
It's a wonderful story, Chris... CaliforniaPeggy Feb 2013 #8
That was a nice thing you did for your mom. sabrina 1 Feb 2013 #9
Thank you for your story... ReRe Mar 2013 #10
I recall my catechism classes. It was 1954. In a small N.J. church. jerseyjack Mar 2013 #11
I Am With You - I Spent 16 1/2 Years In Catholic Schools With So Much Theology I Could Be Pope! TheMastersNemesis Mar 2013 #26
This message was self-deleted by its author AtheistCrusader Mar 2013 #12
No ! you may not. jaysunb Mar 2013 #13
All right, I removed it. AtheistCrusader Mar 2013 #14
A very nice story... ljm2002 Mar 2013 #15
I think there really is a Catholic tradition in this country that is far different for WCGreen Mar 2013 #17
Thank you for your story! gvstn Mar 2013 #16
The Jesuits at St. Ignatius taught me critical thinking skills. Ikonoklast Mar 2013 #19
I had a lot of freinds who graduated from Ignatius... WCGreen Mar 2013 #20
Dad was an alumni. older brother was going there, so... Ikonoklast Mar 2013 #21
My mom didn't want me to travel all the way downtown, especially with I-90 just starting to be built WCGreen Mar 2013 #22
"Flatten Latin!" Ikonoklast Mar 2013 #23
One of the most rad social justice persons I ever met, over 20 years ago now, was an patrice Mar 2013 #27
Cool story... WCGreen Mar 2013 #28
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