Stop Telling Women How to Not Get Raped

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132. I think what it says is very complex. Paradoxically, I think the subject is very painful

for many of the men on the other side of the argument, particularly those with children. Some of the resistance we see here, and the preponderance of comments that boil down to "I don't like talking about this!" show some men who are very concerned and threatened about the subject of rape, but who REALLY don't like to think about the fact that people they know are capable of it. (And in reality, if one in 3 women is going to be sexually assaulted, we ALL know people who are capable of it.)

A lot of the discussion from those guys seems to be "talk about this somewhere else" and "there's just too much of this in my face" and "this doesn't apply to me, so I shouldn't have to be exposed to it so much." I think many of those are the guys on the cusp of getting the point, and the proof is that it is so hard for them to look at the subject.

Yeah, I think they need to get over it, but I have hope for some of these guys.

Of course, on the other hand, there are still plenty of horrors who STILL argue that no doesn't mean no. I don't think that's what we're seeing throughout most of this thread, though.