Stop Telling Women How to Not Get Raped

[Hekate]

294. I've spent my entire life being told how to avoid molestation/rape

The lessons start very, very early with little girls.

I was a "good girl." It didn't stop me from being seriously molested. I became very prim and proper in dress and manner as if that would protect me in the future. My mother, who did not know my secret, told me decades later I looked as if I "just froze" at that age and she never could figure it out. Every high school and college boy I ever dated experienced my deer-in-the-headlights behavior.

Tell me about the girls who become promiscuous and wild. I'll bet there are a bunch more like me; we don't cause any trouble so you never hear about us.

But all the lessons I ever got were to tell me how it was my responsibility to keep rape from happening. Now I know it's pretty much just luck that I never got raped.

I think the author of this article is right on target. Tell the men that it is their responsibility to create the paradigm shift.

Hekate