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BellaKos

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3. Well, welcome to my exclusive club.

Wed Mar 13, 2013, 02:35 PM

Mar 2013

There are six of us who don't use Facebook. Now, with you, we have seven.
I agree with you on so many levels. And I've had a similar experience where family members thought I had been informed of an event, when the only notice of it was on FB.

My problem with it, in addition to the privacy issues you've mentioned (from I T experince, too), is that the relationships conjured on FB aren't real. It's not real to announce something and then wait for one hundred responses. It's not real to expose something and then wait for the "likes" that supposedly signify validation.
A real *relationship* is one on one. A conversation. A two-way exchange. Either via email. Or telephone. Or even a Halmark card. That's real. That's getting to know someone.
So, I don't know what FB is -- other than a virtual lifescape. Not real. Not meaningful. Not important.

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Outside the Facebook wall [View all] klook Mar 2013 OP

I feel very much the same... Phentex Mar 2013 #1

I have a Facebook account but rarely use it. upaloopa Mar 2013 #6

Right. I needed to use babel fish.com for a quick translation tblue37 Mar 2013 #66

You are not alone. Facebook effectively ended 90% of my friendships. ieoeja Mar 2013 #2

was talking to a guy in a bar in town last week datasuspect Mar 2013 #4

Well, welcome to my exclusive club. BellaKos Mar 2013 #3

And I'm eight. Since my family are all right wing nutty repubs I just had to get off of Facebook. monmouth3 Mar 2013 #7

Welcome, Eight! BellaKos Mar 2013 #8

Also. freshwest Mar 2013 #22

I'll join your group too SoCalDem Mar 2013 #20

I check Facebook daily. Blanks Mar 2013 #5

Count me as #9 Flashmann Mar 2013 #9

I can actually see the value of online social networking sites. klook Mar 2013 #11

Chuckling about the facebook narcissism jab. Quantess Mar 2013 #10

I'm sure there are a few in every age bracket, klook Mar 2013 #12

I like facebook partly for the little things you find out about people. Quantess Mar 2013 #14

When a couple of friends of mine moved to another town, klook Mar 2013 #16

The US Needs a law like Europe green for victory Mar 2013 #13

That's a scary list. klook Mar 2013 #19

privacy for me but not for thee green for victory Mar 2013 #23

Wow, interesting klook Mar 2013 #26

Search C: for *.sol . I'll do that. Thanks. snagglepuss Mar 2013 #51

Isn't this like someone in 1970 complaining about all his friends using telephones. Johonny Mar 2013 #15

I didn't say my friends on Facebook are being narcissists, and don't pretend that I did. klook Mar 2013 #18

I use Facebook to get away from people Prism Mar 2013 #17

Thank you for pipi_k Mar 2013 #58

Exactly =) Prism Mar 2013 #65

I feel the same way you do. I don't use Facebook. forestpath Mar 2013 #21

I use it lightly, don't much like it union_maid Mar 2013 #24

Yes it is the colliding worlds problem marions ghost Mar 2013 #49

I too relate to everyone I know differently so I don't use fb. Actually snagglepuss Mar 2013 #52

You know, YOU can call your friends on the phone and keep up with them that way. Lex Mar 2013 #25

I wasn't offended, just dismayed. klook Mar 2013 #27

Not offended in the least, but why light a candle when you can Lex Mar 2013 #29

Oh, brother klook Mar 2013 #30

I always thought of FB and Twitter as something for people without lives to follow those with lives thetruthhurtsforsome Mar 2013 #28

Why give money to corporations who track everything. Nail meet hammer. snagglepuss Mar 2013 #53

One cannot be enslaved if one does not participate thetruthhurtsforsome Mar 2013 #56

I am also a part of the non-Facebook group. TM99 Mar 2013 #31

Walled garden klook Mar 2013 #32

You are welcome. TM99 Mar 2013 #60

K&R Ron Obvious Mar 2013 #33

If I may make a suggestion, klook Mar 2013 #35

Sounds like a lot of work... Ron Obvious Mar 2013 #36

LOL, I guess you're right klook Mar 2013 #37

thanks for this info marions ghost Mar 2013 #50

I have a dummy account but being a techno-moron, I never thought I had to take any precautions. snagglepuss Mar 2013 #54

FYI, on Step 3 (temporary email address)... klook Mar 2013 #63

There were numerous FB alternatives in the works a while ago IDemo Mar 2013 #34

Yes, I've read about a couple but not tried them. klook Mar 2013 #39

Ermahgerd, Facebook is errvil WilliamPitt Mar 2013 #38

Um, yeah... klook Mar 2013 #42

Cheers. WilliamPitt Mar 2013 #45

I've locked facebook out. hunter Mar 2013 #40

agree 100% fellow other-side-of-the-wall-er! backtoblue Mar 2013 #41

Fortunately the friends I mention in the OP didn't get their necks out of joint klook Mar 2013 #44

I'm only on it for the hope that if my son tried to find me one day Puzzledtraveller Mar 2013 #43

Oh my gosh, so sorry to hear this. klook Mar 2013 #46

Thank you Puzzledtraveller Mar 2013 #48

The beauty of facebook IMO is that it's easy to find and contact people. CJCRANE Mar 2013 #47

Interesting - thanks for the info. klook Mar 2013 #55

I look at it once a day. For about 5 minutes. LWolf Mar 2013 #57

Good strategy, but klook Mar 2013 #59

I liked it better when we just emailed. LWolf Mar 2013 #68

With ya there klook Mar 2013 #69

I understand what you're saying but FB has only improved relationships for me - lynne Mar 2013 #61

I have had the same experience with the added bonus Skidmore Mar 2013 #67

Facebook for me Dorian Gray Mar 2013 #62

I don't facebook...I don't know what number here I am.. Tikki Mar 2013 #64