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Sissyk

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Fri Mar 15, 2013, 12:21 PM

Mar 2013

My husband will always, always stop to help a woman on the side of the road where he would possibly keep driving on by if it was a man. I've heard him say over and over again, "If that was my mother, I want to think some nice man like me would stop to help her".

He always holds the door for me, carries in the groceries, etc. But, I also help him out if he is working on a project at home or just needs my help unloading building supplies, etc.

What I want to know is: Do some women stop a man that is going to hold the door for them and say, "Wait, do you open doors for men also? Or, are you a sexist that just opens doors for women?" Or, do they just go on through and say thanks? lol!!

Where I live, it is an every day occurrence. We say "THanks" and go on about our business and so does the man.

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Sexist men prefer bigger boobs: study [View all] The Straight Story Mar 2013 OP

you can find a study to prove anything you want proven leftyohiolib Mar 2013 #1

Do you have a study for that? The Straight Story Mar 2013 #2

Trust me. dipsydoodle Mar 2013 #3

I'm going to have to do some more research on this. Ganja Ninja Mar 2013 #4

Wow. Just wow. Whoever could have predicted that? (nt) Nye Bevan Mar 2013 #5

Meh. Who gives a crap. HappyMe Mar 2013 #6

Must be why I prefer smaller 'boobs' RC Mar 2013 #7

I actually like all sizes when it comes to boobs. What does that make me? yellowcanine Mar 2013 #11

Will Rogers Tabasco_Dave Mar 2013 #206

You should try giving the woman attached to the breasts a moment of your time. nt NCTraveler Mar 2013 #14

The subject was "Breasts" RC Mar 2013 #18

I am fine with posting assumptions based on what I read. NCTraveler Mar 2013 #22

Depends on the size of the woman. RC Mar 2013 #28

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Post removed Post removed Mar 2013 #108

What's normal???? CherokeeDem Mar 2013 #17

Unfortunately, that would be a simple.... daleanime Mar 2013 #21

Yeah... CherokeeDem Mar 2013 #34

Your choice to share your thoughts on large breasts says more about you redqueen Mar 2013 #51

Oh, you're quite welcome. RC Mar 2013 #69

This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #211

Mother of God... nolabear Mar 2013 #86

Oh, I think you should say it. I think every large-breasted woman redqueen Mar 2013 #99

I saw that ismnotwasm Mar 2013 #8

Small to medium here... cherokeeprogressive Mar 2013 #9

So what does it mean if you are in the Sir Mix-A-Lot camp? MattBaggins Mar 2013 #10

This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #212

Do you have a cold? MattBaggins Mar 2013 #213

This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #218

Thread is useless without pictures. yellowcanine Mar 2013 #12

This message was self-deleted by its author darkangel218 Mar 2013 #78

It would be sexist not to do followup studies with women regarding male genitalia size. yellowcanine Mar 2013 #13

Naw ismnotwasm Mar 2013 #157

That Would be a Long, Hard, Study to Do Macoy51 Mar 2013 #159

LOL ismnotwasm Mar 2013 #173

. geek tragedy Mar 2013 #15

Scootch Tien1985 Mar 2013 #90

Well . . . geek tragedy Mar 2013 #91

This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #224

WTF is benevolent sexism? hootinholler Mar 2013 #16

benevolent sexism would be holding the door open, pulling out a chair, ect... seabeyond Mar 2013 #19

Holding a door open for a woman is now sexist? Upton Mar 2013 #23

i hold the door open for others, others hold the door for me, and yes, lots of friendly exchange seabeyond Mar 2013 #26

Uh... Upton Mar 2013 #30

uh... hoot asked what benevolent seixsm is. i gave him example and difinition. as i said, seabeyond Mar 2013 #32

If you hold a door open for a woman because she is a woman and for no other reason, ronnie624 Mar 2013 #55

Maybe the guy should hold the door shut and see if she can open it? Orrex Mar 2013 #88

Ha Dorian Gray Mar 2013 #113

Lol! n/t RiffRandell Mar 2013 #183

Huh. I never would've interpreted it that way. Marr Mar 2013 #92

Wow, what a friendly welcome! EOTE Mar 2013 #102

If you hold the door open for everyone, no Major Nikon Mar 2013 #33

Everyone I see polly7 Mar 2013 #35

Seems that way. Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Mar 2013 #125

Sorry Major.. Upton Mar 2013 #37

I'm not being critical Major Nikon Mar 2013 #45

Why not use the standard treestar Mar 2013 #74

I hold doors open for women, but I don't consider it sexist CreekDog Mar 2013 #190

I've helped women change tires before, but never a man.. snooper2 Mar 2013 #39

if you helped a woman who seemed to have things well in hand, or passed by a man who didn't, unblock Mar 2013 #43

What you should have done... Major Nikon Mar 2013 #54

Heh. Comrade Grumpy Mar 2013 #116

... awoke_in_2003 Mar 2013 #230

Good Question RobinA Mar 2013 #111

Yes MattBaggins Mar 2013 #127

I let a woman change a flat for me because I didn't want her to think I was sexist CreekDog Mar 2013 #191

I think that too many times HappyMe Mar 2013 #49

Common courtesy -- exactly. Raine1967 Mar 2013 #83

And there in lies the crux of benevolent sexism MattBaggins Mar 2013 #132

very well said- it's an underlying reason why we STILL have "bigger fish to fry" and earn less. bettyellen Mar 2013 #143

People who use snark to dismiss this concept are the same people MattBaggins Mar 2013 #145

Anecdotally, the earn less meme grows stale galileoreloaded Mar 2013 #148

not "stale" when the average is like 70-75%, and it's much worse at some bettyellen Mar 2013 #153

Er, poor reframe. galileoreloaded Mar 2013 #160

when the average difference is significant to the tune of 30%, your anecdote is meaningless. bettyellen Mar 2013 #164

I do give a shit, but I have never witnessed nor met anyone with that experience galileoreloaded Mar 2013 #184

you know everyone woman you know's salaries and what the men who have the same job make? bettyellen Mar 2013 #188

About that heavy bag thing-- tblue37 Oct 2013 #241

+100 nt lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #67

oh, you're here CreekDog Mar 2013 #192

I am female and I hold the door open for both sexes. smirkymonkey Mar 2013 #232

any time you treat women differently is "sexist" in the denotational sense. unblock Mar 2013 #40

I see, so I'm sexist for only dating with women. EOTE Mar 2013 #104

yes, that is sexist. the question is, what are the ramifications of that kind of sexism. unblock Mar 2013 #115

So, calling every single heterosexual male a sexist is a great way to advance the dialog. EOTE Mar 2013 #117

wow you have a real hang-up about word usage. feel free to come up with a better term. unblock Mar 2013 #118

And accusing a great majority of the population of being sexist is a great way to advance. EOTE Mar 2013 #122

by using the word "accusing" you're insisting that all uses of the term "sexism" are negative. unblock Mar 2013 #126

That's the way that 99% of the population thinks. EOTE Mar 2013 #131

this is an academic study and academic study very often uses terminology different from the public unblock Mar 2013 #135

Although I have issues with the study, this is not one of them. EOTE Mar 2013 #138

sexism is discimination on the basis of sex. look it up. unblock Mar 2013 #158

Sexual attraction and sex is general is NOT discrimination. EOTE Mar 2013 #162

apparently you or i have the same disagreement regarding the word "discrimination" unblock Mar 2013 #165

You can continue to not believe the currently accepted definitions of these terms... EOTE Mar 2013 #172

context matters. unblock Mar 2013 #175

It's not sexism BainsBane Mar 2013 #199

Your personal attractions are not sexist gollygee Mar 2013 #142

Some on this thread HAVE suggested that being heterosexual is sexist. EOTE Mar 2013 #151

I agree with you on that. n/t gollygee Mar 2013 #197

If you do it longer or more often than you would for me, then yes. lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #65

I hold the door for just about everyone and most people hold it for me CreekDog Mar 2013 #193

I'm an observer of human nature. lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #200

ah, calling me the troll and a stalker in the same post (and self-loathing...) CreekDog Mar 2013 #202

In fairness... lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #203

. Skip Intro Mar 2013 #216

Same. When I pull out a chair for a woman or hold the door they seem pleased. LittleBlue Mar 2013 #134

I have never heard of this... one_voice Mar 2013 #71

Yep! Sissyk Mar 2013 #93

no. one does not always see sexism. but, we can understand the behavior and see how it can be seabeyond Mar 2013 #196

Thanks! hootinholler Mar 2013 #76

ya. i saw that i had the nt, even though i had the definition. geeeez, did you start something. seabeyond Mar 2013 #195

Just doing my part hootinholler Mar 2013 #208

When not as gentleman Blue4Texas Mar 2013 #204

Benevolent sexism is actually a fascinating concept. lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #58

i think it is interesting also. and the reaction is a knee jerk snark without much thinking going seabeyond Mar 2013 #60

"gentlemanly thing to do" lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #66

that would be the point lumber. be it "gentlemen" or "lady". it is behaviors taught seabeyond Mar 2013 #68

if you hold a door but oppose equal pay legislation, you're no gentleman CreekDog Mar 2013 #194

Knee jerk snark? EOTE Mar 2013 #106

Yes, lots of "White Knights" run to the defense of women here on DU. Bonobo Mar 2013 #220

I never met a pair of boobs I didn't like Taverner Mar 2013 #20

Really? RandiFan1290 Mar 2013 #29

The goggles do nothing! sir pball Mar 2013 #105

Yikes Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Mar 2013 #128

What about this pair jberryhill Mar 2013 #103

My hypothesis is that that most sexist men have the most questions about their sexuality Taverner Mar 2013 #24

Sexists like big boobs. But that doesn't mean men who like 'em Bicoastal Mar 2013 #44

I'm attracted to larger breasts, yes, but I'm not sexist. Apophis Mar 2013 #61

We have too much time on our hands The2ndWheel Mar 2013 #25

I'm not sexist and I prefer bigger... Blue_Tires Mar 2013 #27

there's an obvious problem with this study... unblock Mar 2013 #31

This. redqueen Mar 2013 #56

Wow! Sissyk Mar 2013 #75

Measuring objectification was part of the point of the study. See my link downthread stevenleser Mar 2013 #79

This OP was not made to learn anything new about human sexuality. Whisp Mar 2013 #82

So much this. nt sufrommich Mar 2013 #84

Possibly. That is very unfortunate if true. My instinct was to track down the source and stevenleser Mar 2013 #85

I suspect the OP was posted to solicit discussion. lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #96

because the key issue of our day BainsBane Mar 2013 #181

Whatever. It morphed into a good discussion about benevolent sexism. lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #182

Yes. Starry Messenger Mar 2013 #144

Ha ha and water is wet marions ghost Mar 2013 #36

Guess I'm not Sexist then, here's the owner of my favorite pair of breasts. Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #38

I just want to know Dpm12 Mar 2013 #41

seriously? that is how you interpreted? or did you not read? seabeyond Mar 2013 #47

The study is about a body type preference marions ghost Mar 2013 #53

Man, it's getting so you can't even sexualize people you SLEEP with. Bicoastal Mar 2013 #42

How is sexual attraction sexist? Apophis Mar 2013 #46

If you open a door for a woman because she's a woman, that's sexist The2ndWheel Mar 2013 #140

What does it mean if you don't care about breast size, but have a fetish for auxiliary nipples? Ian David Mar 2013 #48

Empty babble. bemildred Mar 2013 #50

How about just stop telling us what we're supposed to look like? BainsBane Mar 2013 #52

You mean you're not dying to hear geek tragedy Mar 2013 #150

I'm unreasonable that way BainsBane Mar 2013 #179

Then my emancipated husband is an anomaly. He prefers bigger, um, breasts BlueCaliDem Mar 2013 #57

+1 Sissyk Mar 2013 #77

I take it you agree? BlueCaliDem Mar 2013 #154

Yes, I do. Sissyk Mar 2013 #168

This is just like how women have to walk 'that gauntlet'... Whisp Mar 2013 #59

really. lets start a thread on if we like small, medium or big size penis. tilt left? tilt right? seabeyond Mar 2013 #62

misandry BainsBane Mar 2013 #64

what if our request of adding sexism and mysogyny to the TOS Whisp Mar 2013 #70

"No sexism or misogyny" is analagous to "No fruit or apples" lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #73

I think there's a distinction- sexism can be without intended malice, misogyny not so much. bettyellen Mar 2013 #147

I fully agree that "the hatred or mistrust of (women/men)" should be prohibited. lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #163

Agree, but I see such a wide spectrum of attitudes and behaviors here... we could spend all day bettyellen Mar 2013 #167

You too. lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #169

Yup, gotta a load of work to get to now. No TGIF for us I guess. bettyellen Mar 2013 #170

Pretty clearly "respecting women" is not part of the TOS and never will be. geek tragedy Mar 2013 #152

I'm in! Sissyk Mar 2013 #98

I don't think this thread is about a womans' worth relative to breast size. lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #100

Go right ahead LittleBlue Mar 2013 #123

to be fair then, men would have to wear a penis bra Whisp Mar 2013 #137

I think pants do fine for us LittleBlue Mar 2013 #139

Penis bra? How unmanly. It is properly called a codpiece, and here is an example. kwassa Mar 2013 #201

If you'd like to do that, there is plenty of material on the net-here's a study to get you started: MADem Mar 2013 #189

+1 BainsBane Mar 2013 #63

I'm sick of this too... PasadenaTrudy Mar 2013 #129

Note to all, this comes from a peer reviewed study. Here is the link stevenleser Mar 2013 #72

And here is an easy way to see and search all of the articles from this publication stevenleser Mar 2013 #81

Sexist men prefer bigger boobs on 3-D models Coyotl Mar 2013 #80

Because then you cannot isolate the criteria you are testing for tkmorris Mar 2013 #114

It's called a control. They are isolating one specific trait. Evoman Mar 2013 #174

So they postulate that this is valid in the real world instead of desiging a real world test. Coyotl Mar 2013 #215

I'm sorry but... 99Forever Mar 2013 #87

And what about if they'd asked the men their favorite soda, instead? Poll_Blind Mar 2013 #89

+1. nt bemildred Mar 2013 #95

I guess that means I'm not sexist (which I already knew), because I like B or A cups. CosmicDustBunny Mar 2013 #94

Your belief is true. Smaller breasted women can nurse perfectly well. We adapt. polly7 Mar 2013 #110

Not at all TMI. My wife hit the Dolly Parton proportions too. I kept joking, "Can I get you preggo?" CosmicDustBunny Mar 2013 #112

They really needed a study for this? Initech Mar 2013 #97

It's just ordinary narcissism, cuz sexist men are bigger boobs struggle4progress Mar 2013 #101

Here's the pic of the 3D women from the Daily Mail edbermac Mar 2013 #107

I dont think the actual study used anyone's names. nt stevenleser Mar 2013 #146

OK, now I see the flaw in the study, none of those models are attractive... Humanist_Activist Mar 2013 #166

I'm perfectly happy with the small boobs I have tularetom Mar 2013 #109

My guess is that more sexist men also tend toward having larger boobs on themselves too. Exultant Democracy Mar 2013 #119

I am a man who loves big boobs fitman Mar 2013 #120

I like big boobs but LittleBlue Mar 2013 #121

Hmmm Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Mar 2013 #124

Sure, do a study on the boob men ... what about the Sir Mix-A-Lots among us? Bok_Tukalo Mar 2013 #130

All the subjects in this study are white, heterosexual men from London, hughee99 Mar 2013 #133

The British Male? Bok_Tukalo Mar 2013 #136

Please expand upon this interesting statement flamingdem Mar 2013 #141

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If the science is good in this study, it makes for interesting information. dawg Mar 2013 #149

big boobs are not attractive on men arely staircase Mar 2013 #155

Years ago I heard this joke, and it is true to,, benld74 Mar 2013 #156

That gave me a chuckle. NaturalHigh Mar 2013 #233

Er Rex Mar 2013 #161

Is there any data on what babies prefer? Vinnie From Indy Mar 2013 #171

What about Vulvas? What does it say about a guy who likes gigantic vulvas? Evoman Mar 2013 #176

If you like big volvos that suck gas you hate the earth (nt) The Straight Story Mar 2013 #177

What? They pollute the Earth? Is there no justice in the universe. Evoman Mar 2013 #180

But! But, they keep *very* safe in comfort! n/t hootinholler Mar 2013 #209

Or big bottoms? edbermac Mar 2013 #186

SHOCKER !!! amuse bouche Mar 2013 #178

I thought it said "sexiest men prefer bigger boobs". sibelian Mar 2013 #185

Nigel Tufnel? Is that you? nomorenomore08 Mar 2013 #237

and so do non sexist men...whats the point?nt SwampG8r Mar 2013 #187

Non-sexist men would not establish physical preferences like breast size. Gravitycollapse Mar 2013 #217

given the animal nature of man SwampG8r Mar 2013 #229

You're kidding, right? NaturalHigh Mar 2013 #231

First and foremost DFW Mar 2013 #198

Side boob XRubicon Mar 2013 #205

Obvious conclusion is obvious. Initech Mar 2013 #207

Oh, crap. Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #210

Taste? Rex Mar 2013 #236

Hmmm. Good question. Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #239

Whenever I'm surveyed, it's about politics or shopping habits ... JustABozoOnThisBus Mar 2013 #214

That is why women should keep their smaller boobs Trascoli Mar 2013 #219

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Because no one is actually grows large breasts BainsBane Mar 2013 #228

This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #223

I wonder if Dr. Timothy Leary had anything to do with this creation lol. BootinUp Mar 2013 #226

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making me watch that BootinUp Mar 2013 #235

Don't have a strong preference one way or the other. nomorenomore08 Mar 2013 #238

Sexist Men Love Bigger Breasts Says Study nwoow Mar 2013 #240