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79. Ah alright sorry. Yeah I guess I just could never picture staying with someone who hit me.

Sat Mar 16, 2013, 05:15 AM

Mar 2013

I remember the first and really only time my step-father got violent with me in my mid teens and our relationship has never been the same.

I've always been of the opinion that physical violence is just on another level. Crossing that barrier means that irreparable damage has been done. But, forgiveness is a powerful thing. I've never been good at it though.

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The Face Slap � Our Unspoken Tolerance Of Violence and Sexism [View all] Bonobo Mar 2013 OP

I remember the lady who drowned her kids in the tub, many said it was the man's fault The Straight Story Mar 2013 #1

Are you talking about the Andrea Yeager case .... etherealtruth Mar 2013 #90

I have been here a long time The Straight Story Mar 2013 #91

There is some culpability of the "non'-mentally ill partner etherealtruth Mar 2013 #94

One example The Straight Story Mar 2013 #93

Actually, he was at fault for leaving her alone with the kids WolverineDG Mar 2013 #95

I don't even believe "women" can be spared in Texas etherealtruth Mar 2013 #106

Prosecutorial misconduct WolverineDG Mar 2013 #108

I�ve always hated frogmarch Mar 2013 #2

It will be interesting to see the (lack of) attention this OP gets. Bonobo Mar 2013 #3

not sure how much attention I will give you but Whisp Mar 2013 #4

I don't need your attention, thanks. Bonobo Mar 2013 #6

a very strange thing that you and I have not lived the same lives and seen the same things. Whisp Mar 2013 #8

Compared to the exact same level of force from a man. Bonobo Mar 2013 #9

that wasn't what I asked but Whisp Mar 2013 #12

"Dude", yes. Bonobo Mar 2013 #13

I don't think you understood my question, but that's okay, I know you have other things on your mind Whisp Mar 2013 #16

seem to have this clips right at hand olddots Mar 2013 #24

indeed In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #97

Radical feminists would not generally accept that it's possible for the motivations to be the same. Gravitycollapse Mar 2013 #21

I was slapped - really hard- in the face and not one person did a thing, everyone looked up and bettyellen Mar 2013 #30

I'm really sorry that happened to you. nt Bonobo Mar 2013 #33

Thanks, I have no clue WTF that guy was meaning to do. If he thought he could charm or bully me bettyellen Mar 2013 #36

bettyellen. I am so sorry that happened to you! In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #99

already answered. and will answer again. hitting another person is wrong and should warrant an seabeyond Mar 2013 #101

I have never heard or seen a woman slap a man outside the movies. DU Men- is this actually"a thing" bettyellen Mar 2013 #5

I have seen it. Bonobo Mar 2013 #7

Well, I've slapped many men on the back- while congratulating them. And I have seen a few parents of bettyellen Mar 2013 #10

A hard slap on the thighs? Sure they do. Bonobo Mar 2013 #11

Wow, that is a new one on me. It'll be interesting to read if this has happened to any DUers. bettyellen Mar 2013 #14

Likely that men wouldn't admit it often for a couple of reasons. Bonobo Mar 2013 #35

my only assumption is that the person (male or female) who hits is way out of control. bettyellen Mar 2013 #37

OK, I guess it is situational like most things. nt Bonobo Mar 2013 #38

True, and I don't think I am in any way your average American woman. I am not nearly as genteel bettyellen Mar 2013 #44

really? you have seen slapping movies? Whisp Mar 2013 #20

You mad, bro? Bonobo Mar 2013 #31

aggression? no way. Whisp Mar 2013 #103

Not in my experience. Common Sense Party Mar 2013 #45

sure sigmasix Mar 2013 #63

I'm very sorry for the way you have been treated. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #96

Well, I've never been slapped by a woman. MineralMan Mar 2013 #89

The last two sentences of this story did it in. Gravitycollapse Mar 2013 #15

LOL. nt Bonobo Mar 2013 #34

+ 1 cali Mar 2013 #58

He put it up as flypaper. JTFrog Mar 2013 #86

I agree with this: In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #100

+1 treestar Mar 2013 #105

I have to admit that I've seen men get slapped before, hughee99 Mar 2013 #17

You're very honest. More so than others here. Bonobo Mar 2013 #32

Here's one thing you don't seem to understand, dear. Zoeisright Mar 2013 #53

Yes, the men always deserve it. Bonobo Mar 2013 #55

Christ on a crutch this is a dumb post Matariki Mar 2013 #75

^^^ In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #102

all abusers justify their abuse with 'they deserved it' fizzgig Mar 2013 #110

It seems to me a simple rule is hands to yourself unless it is conscentual dsc Mar 2013 #18

^^^ this ^^^ TDale313 Mar 2013 #29

It's mainly because women aren't physically strong or really violent LittleBlue Mar 2013 #19

My daughter slapped me olddots Mar 2013 #22

She needs to move. Common Sense Party Mar 2013 #46

Setting aside the issue of fairness or equality... lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #23

what do you think of the Violence Against Women's Act? Do you think it's a sham? n/t Whisp Mar 2013 #25

15% of violent relationships are nonreciprocal male batterers. lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #27

I've seen a few face slaps working in the bar. polly7 Mar 2013 #26

Somewhat off topic, but... PotatoChip Mar 2013 #109

in movies and TV there is a lot of punching hfojvt Mar 2013 #28

I will admit to having actually shoved a man's head through the wall beside my door. PDJane Mar 2013 #39

Die Hard just started on ActionMAX... snooper2 Mar 2013 #40

Relentlessly poked fun of by "Airplane" longship Mar 2013 #41

Nothing compared to these guys.... davidn3600 Mar 2013 #47

Men write the scripts, men produce the movies. Starry Messenger Mar 2013 #42

This is important. Gravitycollapse Mar 2013 #48

So. Fucking. True. MotherPetrie Mar 2013 #51

It does not explain this video. Bonobo Mar 2013 #54

As long as it's a "garden variety" slap across the face... mwrguy Mar 2013 #43

Dear Bonoboo, I am really sorry you've been slappled. Nobody, and I mean NOBODY Luminous Animal Mar 2013 #49

I have never been slapped. nt Bonobo Mar 2013 #50

i'm sorry. I thought you had. But I am totally supportive of men creating Luminous Animal Mar 2013 #62

I was inspired to write this OP because of the "benevolent sexism" threads. Bonobo Mar 2013 #64

Oh yeah, that's the SAME thing as a beating. Zoeisright Mar 2013 #52

Never said it was. Bonobo Mar 2013 #56

A man slapping a woman is treated as nearly the same thing... Silent3 Mar 2013 #88

yeah, hitting people sucks. duh. But trying to compare as YOU often do cali Mar 2013 #57

I never did that, so you should have stopped at your first sentence. Bonobo Mar 2013 #59

This message was self-deleted by its author cali Mar 2013 #81

My apologies Bonobo Mar 2013 #82

Short answer... Demo_Chris Mar 2013 #60

The issue goes hand in hand with "benevolent sexism". Bonobo Mar 2013 #61

I am familiar with the ongoing discussions that inspired this thread... Demo_Chris Mar 2013 #67

Then your response is unnecessary. Bonobo Mar 2013 #69

Oh FFS. Nice answer. Violence is not justified, period. Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #65

Women shouldn't hit men. Did you really need me to type that out? Demo_Chris Mar 2013 #73

honestly, it sounds better. Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #76

My apologies, I suppose I should have been more clear. Time for bed. n/t Demo_Chris Mar 2013 #77

hey, no worries. Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #78

I don't think it happens all that much in reality. It's a comedic shorthand (excuse the pun) Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #66

Hmmm, well the data on domestic abuse suggests there is more on the part of women. Bonobo Mar 2013 #68

I don't rightfully know other than what I've seen and experienced. Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #70

If your partner slaps you, you are NOT in a healthy relationship Matariki Mar 2013 #71

I'm not sure counseling could overcome being slapped by a partner to be honest. Gravitycollapse Mar 2013 #72

You misread my post Matariki Mar 2013 #74

Ah alright sorry. Yeah I guess I just could never picture staying with someone who hit me. Gravitycollapse Mar 2013 #79

On the one hand DonCoquixote Mar 2013 #80

Bonobo, I started a thread about this some years ago. In films and on TV, raccoon Mar 2013 #83

It could be, it could be... Bonobo Mar 2013 #84

When a woman is violent with a man, it's treated as in independent incident... Silent3 Mar 2013 #85

I don't think people should hit other people. MadrasT Mar 2013 #87

men could slap women in movies under certain circumstances not that long ago arely staircase Mar 2013 #92

IIRC Aristotle mentions this in the poetics Recursion Mar 2013 #98

Does anyone really do this except on soap operas? treestar Mar 2013 #104

I am more shocked by adult doctors slapping newborn children on the buttocks geek tragedy Mar 2013 #107

I was slapped in the face once as a child from a woman who was caring for me liberal_at_heart Mar 2013 #111