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KurtNYC

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81. The parent who wrote this note is awesome. Just for perspective here is how different it can be.

Sat Mar 16, 2013, 07:57 AM

Mar 2013

I stumbled across this 2 days ago and it has haunted me ever since. It really got me thinking more about how people internalize their parents and also how damaging it can be to live with fear, anger and rejection by your parents:

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Do you need to read something beautiful today? This dad sure loves his kid. [View all] DonRedwood Mar 2013 OP

All parents should be like this. HappyMe Mar 2013 #1

Nice way to start the day, eh? DonRedwood Mar 2013 #6

It is. HappyMe Mar 2013 #8

I think the dad did an awesome thing with the note DonRedwood Mar 2013 #11

It is awesome, isit not? Bohunk68 Mar 2013 #2

Nice! LuckyTheDog Mar 2013 #3

:) Whisp Mar 2013 #4

If any of my children had been gay Cirque du So-What Mar 2013 #5

It is still scary...my parents were cool and my coming out was awful DonRedwood Mar 2013 #7

What about your Dad? Auntie Bush Mar 2013 #74

We let our kids know at a very early age that we didn't care one way or another. Arugula Latte Mar 2013 #37

Now that is mighty fine parenting! DonRedwood Mar 2013 #51

Why thanks! Arugula Latte Mar 2013 #53

Me and my comadre were talking about our son the other day tavalon Mar 2013 #71

I wish all parents would be like this Dpm12 Mar 2013 #9

welcome to DU !! DonRedwood Mar 2013 #12

That is sweet to the soul. loudsue Mar 2013 #10

Awesome family Victor_c3 Mar 2013 #13

Oh, man! I can't cry; I'm about to start work! Aristus Mar 2013 #14

I totally teared up, too. motocicleta2 Mar 2013 #16

Hello Moto! welcome to DU! DonRedwood Mar 2013 #50

Thanks Don! motocicleta2 Mar 2013 #68

Beautiful! Haters should hang their heads in shame. mountain grammy Mar 2013 #15

Well that just made me cry. Delphinus Mar 2013 #17

Me too siligut Mar 2013 #18

re:Do you need to read something beautiful today? This dad sure loves his kid. allan01 Mar 2013 #19

I knew I was gay at age 8 DonRedwood Mar 2013 #54

Did you marry him??? Janecita Mar 2013 #69

That is beautiful, indeed. Nate has some great parents. Arkansas Granny Mar 2013 #20

I didn't see your OP and I posted this same thing in the LGBT forum. stevenleser Mar 2013 #21

Blessing for that father and mother. sarge43 Mar 2013 #22

that almost made me cry. That is beautiful. liberal_at_heart Mar 2013 #23

wonderful! ZRT2209 Mar 2013 #24

Hey zrt! A Hearty Welcome to DU! DonRedwood Mar 2013 #52

Out of curiosity how did he know he was gay at 6? ErikJ Mar 2013 #25

that's what I was wondering too NoMoreWarNow Mar 2013 #32

it's not a preference fizzgig Mar 2013 #33

but it is manifested as a sexual preference NoMoreWarNow Mar 2013 #38

Girls and boys play differently DonRedwood Mar 2013 #55

sure-- I agree NoMoreWarNow Mar 2013 #85

Curious - I know a girl who has dolls but ignores them treestar Mar 2013 #89

My oldest 2 boys are 7 and 10 joeglow3 Mar 2013 #46

My brother in law was born in a remote village in the 'Golden Triangle' a few miles from Burma in grantcart Mar 2013 #49

but that doesn't necessarily mean you are gay! NoMoreWarNow Mar 2013 #84

You could never tell my aunt that about my cousin...! MADem Mar 2013 #88

I had a similar family -- rebel matriarchs of Roaring Twenties Hollywood hunter Mar 2013 #90

We're lucky to have those kinds of roots that taught those sorts of lessons! MADem Mar 2013 #91

That's my question too. StrayKat Mar 2013 #40

Lindsay Graham is a good example ErikJ Mar 2013 #41

yeah....I'd bet a paycheck he's gay... DonRedwood Mar 2013 #58

Welcome to DU! DonRedwood Mar 2013 #57

Thanks for the welcome. /nt StrayKat Mar 2013 #65

six FreedomRain Mar 2013 #43

I remember I was very attracted to girls at 6 or 7 which I think is common. ErikJ Mar 2013 #44

very good point and WELCOME TO DU!!!! DonRedwood Mar 2013 #59

Thanks Don! FreedomRain Mar 2013 #80

that is fine and true NoMoreWarNow Mar 2013 #87

same way people can sometimes tell if a kid thinks a girl/boy is cute JI7 Mar 2013 #79

Yeah, but I hear the kid is pissed TlalocW Mar 2013 #26

Love is always the best way BrotherIvan Mar 2013 #27

Hey Ivan, welcome to DU! DonRedwood Mar 2013 #60

Thanks, this is a wonderful thread BrotherIvan Mar 2013 #66

:0) I prefer a friendlier DU with good conversations :0) DonRedwood Mar 2013 #72

sweet Liberal_in_LA Mar 2013 #28

30+ years ago arikara Mar 2013 #29

same thing my aunt said to me noiretextatique Mar 2013 #30

I'm reminded... DirtyDawg Mar 2013 #31

Oh fuck. Weepy now. Matariki Mar 2013 #34

My kind of parent! arthritisR_US Mar 2013 #35

Awww southern_belle Mar 2013 #36

I must feel especially vulnerable today 'cause it made me cry lunatica Mar 2013 #39

This Is What WE In The Real World Call..................... Caeser67 Mar 2013 #42

Howdy Caeser! welcome to DU! DonRedwood Mar 2013 #62

Thanks Don Caeser67 Mar 2013 #92

college fraternity. FreedomRain Mar 2013 #45

That's an epic father right there! n/t Demo_Chris Mar 2013 #47

DonRedwood Diclotican Mar 2013 #48

Somehow arikara Mar 2013 #93

arikara Diclotican Mar 2013 #94

Love it! Thanks for sharing it. freshwest Mar 2013 #56

You are very welcome! I read the letter just before work and I was in a good mood ALL day for DonRedwood Mar 2013 #64

"You and Mike make a cute couple"...... Curmudgeoness Mar 2013 #61

:0) That was the cherry on top! DonRedwood Mar 2013 #63

This warmed my heart. Grateful for Hope Mar 2013 #67

I saw this and sent it on this morning tavalon Mar 2013 #70

My favorite coming out story: tpsbmam Mar 2013 #73

OK, that's a woman I'd like to meet! PDJane Mar 2013 #76

Sadly, both my friend and her mom have since died. tpsbmam Mar 2013 #77

I am sorry; and yes, I can see that it is a loss. PDJane Mar 2013 #78

This made me smile. IrishEyes Mar 2013 #75

The parent who wrote this note is awesome. Just for perspective here is how different it can be. KurtNYC Mar 2013 #81

Simple love Guizar Mar 2013 #82

Awwww - What great Dad. K&R myrna minx Mar 2013 #83

Le Taz Hot Mar 2013 #86