Do women have agency in sustaining 'benevolent sexism' if they are accepting and appreciative

[MattBaggins]

24. The problem is that in many cases they do

The mentality of "women and children first" implies that women need assistance like children do.

The old school mentality of treating women as dainty flowers is the same that leads to women making less money then men or having a pathetically poor representation in politics. No one needs to stop helping others but it also is not some attack against men to ask them to consider if the upbringing of treating women differently MIGHT influence how they view them when it comes time for hiring and promotions. It is the same as the problem with minorities where people may be more likely to hire an individual like themselves. They may not be aware of even doing it and instead of saying that so called manners have nothing to do with equal pay; perhaps the very opposite is true and it is our cultural upbringing that is at the root of these problems?