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Blue_In_AK

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59. I missed all those discussions so I was just responding to the poll.

Sat Mar 16, 2013, 08:38 PM

Mar 2013

I guess I'm kind of oblivious to whatever this " benevolent sexism" is. I agree some guys are kind of boorish, but I'm not going to waste my time getting all bent out of shape about it. I used to have a boss back when I was working in the legal biz who called me "honey" and "baby" all the time ( he was probably 20-25 years older than me), but he was a wonderful person otherwise, just kind of old school and flamboyant. He really meant no harm and I knew he had a lot of respect for me and my work, so I let it slide.

Maybe I'm a sexism enabler, but I have other things to be outraged about.

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i hold doors open for everyone [View all] arely staircase Mar 2013 OP

I'm still waiting for Lindsey Graham to come out of one. TheCowsCameHome Mar 2013 #1

If I get to a door before someone else coming behind me, Blue_In_AK Mar 2013 #2

+1 Mass Mar 2013 #3

that is my policy precisely arely staircase Mar 2013 #4

The issue is benevolent sexism, and how it ties into rape culture. Not doors and who opens them. redqueen Mar 2013 #9

Right marions ghost Mar 2013 #22

one way to get people to take rape more seriously is to not pretend that everything is about rape. Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #34

the poll is not about rape but rather arely staircase Mar 2013 #44

I know. Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #56

i know you know arely staircase Mar 2013 #60

I know that you know. Did you know I knew?? Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #77

Or to quote Zen Master Rumsfeld, there are known knowns and unknown knowns Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #96

Is that Known? Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #98

No Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #99

The issue is what the OP stated it is pintobean Mar 2013 #51

I missed all those discussions so I was just responding to the poll. Blue_In_AK Mar 2013 #59

The issue is really about Summer Hathaway Mar 2013 #76

except it was in this study about boobs, a thread for men to play in. this OP brought up benevolent seabeyond Mar 2013 #81

what in god's name are you talking about? arely staircase Mar 2013 #89

I don't think you really need anyone, for you to make feminist issues look silly Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #78

Same here. I consider it common courtesy. nt jazzimov Mar 2013 #10

+1 I always thought everyone does just this karynnj Mar 2013 #65

AND as a woman I open doors for others n/t NMDemDist2 Mar 2013 #5

I have mobility problems. greatauntoftriplets Mar 2013 #6

I have some minor mobility issues SouthernLiberal Mar 2013 #21

for you, i always will arely staircase Mar 2013 #70

the options for women in your poll are rather limited fishwax Mar 2013 #7

i cover that (i thought) arely staircase Mar 2013 #20

More options for men than women marions ghost Mar 2013 #23

yes i was well aware of it and anticipated it would be noticed arely staircase Mar 2013 #37

You'll get the answers you want marions ghost Mar 2013 #38

I see your point, though it still puts the focus on an individual act fishwax Mar 2013 #28

please see recently added choice 9 em arely staircase Mar 2013 #40

you thought wrong, LOL. bettyellen Mar 2013 #31

I am a woman who holds doors open for women and men. I think it's just a njce gesture! Walk away Mar 2013 #8

Agreed 100% Myrina Mar 2013 #35

Me too TexasBushwhacker Mar 2013 #48

This whole door opening on DU lately comes across as nothing more than the discussions of old when RC Mar 2013 #11

I hold the door open for everyone coming from a relatively close distance Duer 157099 Mar 2013 #12

i think that is what most people do arely staircase Mar 2013 #15

Agree. Duer 157099 Mar 2013 #19

me too, and i am a man arely staircase Mar 2013 #25

I'll hold the door for either if they're close by. Common Sense Party Mar 2013 #13

the ways off door hold arely staircase Mar 2013 #17

I do the "sprint ahead" door hold for people with... Walk away Mar 2013 #43

the sprint ahead! arely staircase Mar 2013 #47

Especially since I don't sprint like I used to!...nt Walk away Mar 2013 #80

That means you are only sexist half the time madville Mar 2013 #14

Oy what ever happened to manners ? olddots Mar 2013 #16

For women, any distance. For men, if they're right behind me LittleBlue Mar 2013 #18

yes the heavy load! arely staircase Mar 2013 #30

I might add, I open the door for everybody as well nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #24

If someone is right behind me I'll hold the door long enough for them to hold it lunatica Mar 2013 #26

I always hold the door, but do it differently for some people. ZOB Mar 2013 #27

I think the "hand off" you use solves the male /male door hold problem! nt Walk away Mar 2013 #46

I know that I feel a little weird when a guy holds the door for me and lets me walk through first. ZOB Mar 2013 #49

You forgot a couple - Woman - I hold the door open for everyone Iris Mar 2013 #29

I do it for anyone at a close distance. NYC Liberal Mar 2013 #32

I think the close distance is critical eom arely staircase Mar 2013 #39

Me too. NYC Liberal Mar 2013 #41

Women, the elderly, and wheel chair bound, and people with other infirmities. Agnosticsherbet Mar 2013 #33

(Woman) If it's in my space to open the door, I open it for any or all to go through... Tikki Mar 2013 #36

... Apophis Mar 2013 #42

I voted "(Men) I hold the door open for everyone coming from a relatively close distance," but ZombieHorde Mar 2013 #45

So after all the accusations nobody has the courage to own #8? whatchamacallit Mar 2013 #50

nope arely staircase Mar 2013 #86

I just do it as common courtesy gopiscrap Mar 2013 #52

Much more complicated... cherokeeprogressive Mar 2013 #53

Lol! whatchamacallit Mar 2013 #54

that must take a flow-chart arely staircase Mar 2013 #55

Did anybody bother to tip you? pa28 Mar 2013 #67

I am a woman and I open doors for others, no matter their gender appleannie1 Mar 2013 #57

Wha? abelenkpe Mar 2013 #58

A DUer earlier gave opening doors for women as an example of sexism n/t LittleBlue Mar 2013 #61

aaddressed "women opening the door for men" scenario in the OP arely staircase Mar 2013 #62

It is simple courtesy Warpy Mar 2013 #63

+1 eom arely staircase Mar 2013 #73

Why no option for women to hold doors open? karynnj Mar 2013 #64

Fuck this poll! Quantess Mar 2013 #66

LOL Cali_Democrat Mar 2013 #75

As opposed to a pull poll pintobean Mar 2013 #82

awesome vid clip. eom arely staircase Mar 2013 #85

Wow. You folks are really enjoying this strawman gollygee Mar 2013 #68

person arely staircase Mar 2013 #90

The term comes from scarecrows gollygee Mar 2013 #91

that's it arely staircase Mar 2013 #92

I am impressed gollygee Mar 2013 #94

made fun of me and then arely staircase Mar 2013 #95

This message was self-deleted by its author gollygee Mar 2013 #93

For everyone-but this takes me to the way-back machine TexasProgresive Mar 2013 #69

Other. LWolf Mar 2013 #71

Why did you have so many options for men compared to women? s-cubed Mar 2013 #72

i addressed that in thop arely staircase Mar 2013 #100

okay I voted that I find men opening the door a simple courtesy but I have to ask liberal_at_heart Mar 2013 #74

Why in the hell didn't you include the option for women to hold the door open for everyone? MotherPetrie Mar 2013 #79

Because holding doors open is so tortuously chivalrous it wouldn't even OCCUR to a woman! PassingFair Mar 2013 #83

i actually apologized to an older man the other day who chivalrously went to hold the door for me. seabeyond Mar 2013 #84

jeebus indeed arely staircase Mar 2013 #88

explained in the OP eom arely staircase Mar 2013 #87

Some thoughts... pipi_k Mar 2013 #97

Since I am 'mobility impaired', I find someone, man or woman, holding a door open for me PDJane Mar 2013 #101

I am a woman who believes in holding the door open for others. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #102

I've been known to want a door to hit someone in the ass on the way out. Spitfire of ATJ Mar 2013 #103

If I see a women coming, I push the door open as far as I can as I'm going through it Evoman Mar 2013 #104