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applegrove

(131,252 posts) Sat Mar 16, 2013, 07:53 PM Mar 2013

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I was leaving a building an hour ago. A woman was 15 feet in front of me and 67 years old [View all]

to my 47. She stopped at the open door and held it open for me. Why can't we just be people holding the doors open for each other to make that small connection with another human that is so important.

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I was leaving a building an hour ago. A woman was 15 feet in front of me and 67 years old [View all] applegrove Mar 2013 OP

We should, and many do, elleng Mar 2013 #1

Exactly. It's rude and dangerous to let go of a door when someone is behind you Cleita Mar 2013 #2

It's just basic manners. Auntie Bush Mar 2013 #4

something severely lacking these days. nt awoke_in_2003 Mar 2013 #105

It is! And yet it happens so often, in my experience. Habibi Mar 2013 #65

This is still a strawman gollygee Mar 2013 #3

Yep...to me ...these threads on the door-opening custom reminds me of someone sitting down.. BlueJazz Mar 2013 #7

But it's really important to me that people understand that 2 + 2 = 4 ! gollygee Mar 2013 #8

It's a way of trivializing BainsBane Mar 2013 #10

The problem is, some of us didn't see the benevolent sexism thread first and responded to these OPs. freshwest Mar 2013 #33

I realize that BainsBane Mar 2013 #34

It may be on the part of some, but doubt Applegrove is doing it. IDK. freshwest Mar 2013 #41

Yeah, probably not BainsBane Mar 2013 #42

When I found the thread about it, and read down, wow, some of the stuff. It's DU... freshwest Mar 2013 #45

I remember which thread it was now BainsBane Mar 2013 #72

Oh, no, it was the one by redqueen. I wouldn't have given it time. Trash this thread is my friend. freshwest Mar 2013 #85

This was before redqueen's thread BainsBane Mar 2013 #86

Well, they can't ridicule us. Joke is on them. Proud of our lives. Illegitimi non carborundum. freshwest Mar 2013 #87

Yes. Thank you. The willful ignorace has been really disapointing. ZombieHorde Mar 2013 #11

I will hold a door open for a strawman (or a straw-woman). I don't know what madinmaryland Mar 2013 #16

I do the same Worried senior Mar 2013 #98

I agree. The concept is so hilariously ridiculous that it's hard to believe anyone would agree that Dash87 Mar 2013 #73

Good point, that's one of the best reason to open doors for others LittleBlue Mar 2013 #5

No one expects anyone to apologize or scrutinize gollygee Mar 2013 #6

Actually, they did LittleBlue Mar 2013 #12

No, that's not how it started gollygee Mar 2013 #14

This was my first exposure to it LittleBlue Mar 2013 #17

Well I think that person was trying to say gollygee Mar 2013 #20

The only 'outrage' I actually saw were some of the responses to posters polly7 Mar 2013 #26

She stepped in the poo massively on this one LittleBlue Mar 2013 #29

We all say things that are silly and that we regret, but what bothers me is that she never fails polly7 Mar 2013 #32

Same. LittleBlue Mar 2013 #37

The mocking might be crossing into hazing nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #46

I generally ignore the insults as I did this time. But you are correct, that style of sabrina 1 Mar 2013 #71

Many years ago, while busting doors open, I took a course in women's studies nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #82

She didn't use it as an example in the way you're suggesting gollygee Mar 2013 #53

MY strawman argument ??? LMAO! polly7 Mar 2013 #57

I see her being the one getting insulted over and over again gollygee Mar 2013 #59

Oh I know, always the victim. nt. polly7 Mar 2013 #60

If you don't want her to look like a victim gollygee Mar 2013 #74

So she gets to insult and demean posters who actually DO care deeply polly7 Mar 2013 #76

You've got this backwards, speaking of not paying attention to how things started. sabrina 1 Mar 2013 #88

I am glad to see you stick up for yourself in this situation. I have only watched, afraid to rhett o rick Mar 2013 #94

I was pretty sure you weren't aware of what started the whole door conversation off, polly7 Mar 2013 #95

Mind seeing where it started? nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #36

I believe it was Orrex that posted the link first. nt. polly7 Mar 2013 #39

Whoever it was, thank you... nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #40

She didn't mean it in the way people are suggesting gollygee Mar 2013 #54

Well, denying this was even said don't help, when it was her nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #58

She couldn't have known her comment would be taken out of context like it was gollygee Mar 2013 #61

I came in late to the party nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #66

Yes, it's that hazing that is bothering me gollygee Mar 2013 #69

Yes, but she also has attacked people nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #78

You weren't ask to stop MattBaggins Mar 2013 #55

Benevolent sexism had nothing to do with that treestar Mar 2013 #84

Is there a single person on DU who disagrees? The funniest thing about this "open the door" Evoman Mar 2013 #9

And yet people keep it up gollygee Mar 2013 #15

But... But...War on Chrisrmas! OffWithTheirHeads Mar 2013 #18

It's astounding how these things get worked over and taken completely wrongly. Whisp Mar 2013 #21

+1 lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #22

+1000 MadrasT Mar 2013 #68

indeed n/t fishwax Mar 2013 #47

That simple malaise Mar 2013 #13

my rule is 2 one thousand... snooper2 Mar 2013 #19

I may not have thought of keeping that door open for the woman if she had been applegrove Mar 2013 #24

I'm so slamming the door in everyone's face tomorrow. Dorian Gray Mar 2013 #23

At least then you'll just be a jerk LittleBlue Mar 2013 #25

I'm rather amused Dorian Gray Mar 2013 #27

I'm pretty sure that on DU a "jerk" outranks even the most benevolent of sexists (nt) Nye Bevan Mar 2013 #31

This whole door opening thing has taken on a life of its own Cali_Democrat Mar 2013 #49

And I will tape a sign that says 'Kick Me!' on your back, too. freshwest Mar 2013 #28

I'll accept the sign if you amend it to Dorian Gray Mar 2013 #30

Sure! Since I've got a lot of Irish, too. Although I thought the saying was, 'Kiss Me, I'm Irish!' freshwest Mar 2013 #38

I was being silly! Dorian Gray Mar 2013 #48

I knew you were kidding! I predict a long and peaceful life for you! freshwest Mar 2013 #50

Bwhahaha!!!!! babylonsister Mar 2013 #35

Atta Kid! n/t Cha Mar 2013 #75

Dorian, that was hilarious! protect our future Mar 2013 #79

For the love of spaghetti, make it stop!!!! randome Mar 2013 #43

Well I hope you said thank you. It doesn't matter who opens the door just remember to southernyankeebelle Mar 2013 #44

Yes I did. applegrove Mar 2013 #51

Well good. She did a good deed and you showed your appreciation. That is what it's about. southernyankeebelle Mar 2013 #52

And she had been quite confused about direction in the lobby. The receptionist had to tell her which applegrove Mar 2013 #62

i have had little kids like even 5 years old hold the door open JI7 Mar 2013 #56

I think asking how old she was is a little tacky... egduj Mar 2013 #63

LOL! applegrove Mar 2013 #64

Tattooed on the back of her neck, apparently jberryhill Mar 2013 #104

Not sure if anybody complained about this dhol82 Mar 2013 #67

Oh I do.. man, woman, kids of all ages.. you're right Cha Mar 2013 #70

This thing just keeps growing..... marions ghost Mar 2013 #77

that's what... Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #89

I loved it when he started singing. But only for a while. freshwest Mar 2013 #100

I do. 840high Mar 2013 #80

I've been reading the benevolent sexism/opening door protect our future Mar 2013 #81

I couldn't agree more. sabrina 1 Mar 2013 #90

i've held open doors to building and vehicles for years and apparently i've been a sexist pig leftyohiolib Mar 2013 #107

I kind of wish we didn't have to have these interactions treestar Mar 2013 #83

Let me Notafraidtoo Mar 2013 #91

But young men should be taught to never applegrove Mar 2013 #92

doors Notafraidtoo Mar 2013 #93

apparently we should teach society to be rude - someone holds a door open for you you should say leftyohiolib Mar 2013 #108

Thank you marions ghost Mar 2013 #96

I don't understand the big deal Chico Man Mar 2013 #97

That was something my dad ingrained in me. Fantastic Anarchist Mar 2013 #99

But we have no way of knowing if you're doing it because someone is a PERSON... Ian David Mar 2013 #101

Most do hold the door but young men are usually the ones who don't. Frustratedlady Mar 2013 #102

It's easy to treat The Wizard Mar 2013 #103

And I thought this post was about small acts of kindness. defacto7 Mar 2013 #106

I couldn't agree more.... Swede Atlanta Mar 2013 #109

One might spare a little sympathy soldierant Mar 2013 #110

Do it as a show of respect. I do it for men women and children. alfredo Mar 2013 #111