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6. No one expects anyone to apologize or scrutinize

Reply to LittleBlue (Reply #5)

Sat Mar 16, 2013, 08:04 PM

Mar 2013

Still a strawman.

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I was leaving a building an hour ago. A woman was 15 feet in front of me and 67 years old [View all] applegrove Mar 2013 OP

We should, and many do, elleng Mar 2013 #1

Exactly. It's rude and dangerous to let go of a door when someone is behind you Cleita Mar 2013 #2

It's just basic manners. Auntie Bush Mar 2013 #4

something severely lacking these days. nt awoke_in_2003 Mar 2013 #105

It is! And yet it happens so often, in my experience. Habibi Mar 2013 #65

This is still a strawman gollygee Mar 2013 #3

Yep...to me ...these threads on the door-opening custom reminds me of someone sitting down.. BlueJazz Mar 2013 #7

But it's really important to me that people understand that 2 + 2 = 4 ! gollygee Mar 2013 #8

It's a way of trivializing BainsBane Mar 2013 #10

The problem is, some of us didn't see the benevolent sexism thread first and responded to these OPs. freshwest Mar 2013 #33

I realize that BainsBane Mar 2013 #34

It may be on the part of some, but doubt Applegrove is doing it. IDK. freshwest Mar 2013 #41

Yeah, probably not BainsBane Mar 2013 #42

When I found the thread about it, and read down, wow, some of the stuff. It's DU... freshwest Mar 2013 #45

I remember which thread it was now BainsBane Mar 2013 #72

Oh, no, it was the one by redqueen. I wouldn't have given it time. Trash this thread is my friend. freshwest Mar 2013 #85

This was before redqueen's thread BainsBane Mar 2013 #86

Well, they can't ridicule us. Joke is on them. Proud of our lives. Illegitimi non carborundum. freshwest Mar 2013 #87

Yes. Thank you. The willful ignorace has been really disapointing. ZombieHorde Mar 2013 #11

I will hold a door open for a strawman (or a straw-woman). I don't know what madinmaryland Mar 2013 #16

I do the same Worried senior Mar 2013 #98

I agree. The concept is so hilariously ridiculous that it's hard to believe anyone would agree that Dash87 Mar 2013 #73

Good point, that's one of the best reason to open doors for others LittleBlue Mar 2013 #5

No one expects anyone to apologize or scrutinize gollygee Mar 2013 #6

Actually, they did LittleBlue Mar 2013 #12

No, that's not how it started gollygee Mar 2013 #14

This was my first exposure to it LittleBlue Mar 2013 #17

Well I think that person was trying to say gollygee Mar 2013 #20

The only 'outrage' I actually saw were some of the responses to posters polly7 Mar 2013 #26

She stepped in the poo massively on this one LittleBlue Mar 2013 #29

We all say things that are silly and that we regret, but what bothers me is that she never fails polly7 Mar 2013 #32

Same. LittleBlue Mar 2013 #37

The mocking might be crossing into hazing nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #46

I generally ignore the insults as I did this time. But you are correct, that style of sabrina 1 Mar 2013 #71

Many years ago, while busting doors open, I took a course in women's studies nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #82

She didn't use it as an example in the way you're suggesting gollygee Mar 2013 #53

MY strawman argument ??? LMAO! polly7 Mar 2013 #57

I see her being the one getting insulted over and over again gollygee Mar 2013 #59

Oh I know, always the victim. nt. polly7 Mar 2013 #60

If you don't want her to look like a victim gollygee Mar 2013 #74

So she gets to insult and demean posters who actually DO care deeply polly7 Mar 2013 #76

You've got this backwards, speaking of not paying attention to how things started. sabrina 1 Mar 2013 #88

I am glad to see you stick up for yourself in this situation. I have only watched, afraid to rhett o rick Mar 2013 #94

I was pretty sure you weren't aware of what started the whole door conversation off, polly7 Mar 2013 #95

Mind seeing where it started? nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #36

I believe it was Orrex that posted the link first. nt. polly7 Mar 2013 #39

Whoever it was, thank you... nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #40

She didn't mean it in the way people are suggesting gollygee Mar 2013 #54

Well, denying this was even said don't help, when it was her nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #58

She couldn't have known her comment would be taken out of context like it was gollygee Mar 2013 #61

I came in late to the party nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #66

Yes, it's that hazing that is bothering me gollygee Mar 2013 #69

Yes, but she also has attacked people nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #78

You weren't ask to stop MattBaggins Mar 2013 #55

Benevolent sexism had nothing to do with that treestar Mar 2013 #84

Is there a single person on DU who disagrees? The funniest thing about this "open the door" Evoman Mar 2013 #9

And yet people keep it up gollygee Mar 2013 #15

But... But...War on Chrisrmas! OffWithTheirHeads Mar 2013 #18

It's astounding how these things get worked over and taken completely wrongly. Whisp Mar 2013 #21

+1 lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #22

+1000 MadrasT Mar 2013 #68

indeed n/t fishwax Mar 2013 #47

That simple malaise Mar 2013 #13

my rule is 2 one thousand... snooper2 Mar 2013 #19

I may not have thought of keeping that door open for the woman if she had been applegrove Mar 2013 #24

I'm so slamming the door in everyone's face tomorrow. Dorian Gray Mar 2013 #23

At least then you'll just be a jerk LittleBlue Mar 2013 #25

I'm rather amused Dorian Gray Mar 2013 #27

I'm pretty sure that on DU a "jerk" outranks even the most benevolent of sexists (nt) Nye Bevan Mar 2013 #31

This whole door opening thing has taken on a life of its own Cali_Democrat Mar 2013 #49

And I will tape a sign that says 'Kick Me!' on your back, too. freshwest Mar 2013 #28

I'll accept the sign if you amend it to Dorian Gray Mar 2013 #30

Sure! Since I've got a lot of Irish, too. Although I thought the saying was, 'Kiss Me, I'm Irish!' freshwest Mar 2013 #38

I was being silly! Dorian Gray Mar 2013 #48

I knew you were kidding! I predict a long and peaceful life for you! freshwest Mar 2013 #50

Bwhahaha!!!!! babylonsister Mar 2013 #35

Atta Kid! n/t Cha Mar 2013 #75

Dorian, that was hilarious! protect our future Mar 2013 #79

For the love of spaghetti, make it stop!!!! randome Mar 2013 #43

Well I hope you said thank you. It doesn't matter who opens the door just remember to southernyankeebelle Mar 2013 #44

Yes I did. applegrove Mar 2013 #51

Well good. She did a good deed and you showed your appreciation. That is what it's about. southernyankeebelle Mar 2013 #52

And she had been quite confused about direction in the lobby. The receptionist had to tell her which applegrove Mar 2013 #62

i have had little kids like even 5 years old hold the door open JI7 Mar 2013 #56

I think asking how old she was is a little tacky... egduj Mar 2013 #63

LOL! applegrove Mar 2013 #64

Tattooed on the back of her neck, apparently jberryhill Mar 2013 #104

Not sure if anybody complained about this dhol82 Mar 2013 #67

Oh I do.. man, woman, kids of all ages.. you're right Cha Mar 2013 #70

This thing just keeps growing..... marions ghost Mar 2013 #77

that's what... Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #89

I loved it when he started singing. But only for a while. freshwest Mar 2013 #100

I do. 840high Mar 2013 #80

I've been reading the benevolent sexism/opening door protect our future Mar 2013 #81

I couldn't agree more. sabrina 1 Mar 2013 #90

i've held open doors to building and vehicles for years and apparently i've been a sexist pig leftyohiolib Mar 2013 #107

I kind of wish we didn't have to have these interactions treestar Mar 2013 #83

Let me Notafraidtoo Mar 2013 #91

But young men should be taught to never applegrove Mar 2013 #92

doors Notafraidtoo Mar 2013 #93

apparently we should teach society to be rude - someone holds a door open for you you should say leftyohiolib Mar 2013 #108

Thank you marions ghost Mar 2013 #96

I don't understand the big deal Chico Man Mar 2013 #97

That was something my dad ingrained in me. Fantastic Anarchist Mar 2013 #99

But we have no way of knowing if you're doing it because someone is a PERSON... Ian David Mar 2013 #101

Most do hold the door but young men are usually the ones who don't. Frustratedlady Mar 2013 #102

It's easy to treat The Wizard Mar 2013 #103

And I thought this post was about small acts of kindness. defacto7 Mar 2013 #106

I couldn't agree more.... Swede Atlanta Mar 2013 #109

One might spare a little sympathy soldierant Mar 2013 #110

Do it as a show of respect. I do it for men women and children. alfredo Mar 2013 #111