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Arcanetrance

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56. Well here's an example I know of from personal experience

Sun Mar 17, 2013, 02:32 PM

Mar 2013

My little sister is a black belt in 3 different forms of martial arts. She applied for a teaching position at a martial arts academy. The guy who ran the dojo told her that for her own safety he can't hire her. He felt that her being a woman she wouldn't be safe despite her credentials but he "did it for her own good" sounds like benevolent sexism to me

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May I please have the attention of all my fellow males [View all] Arcanetrance Mar 2013 OP

Sexism? I thought we were talking about sex! randome Mar 2013 #1

Mmmmmwah! to you! Squinch Mar 2013 #2

I will never hold my breath waiting for others to see logic I will pass out Arcanetrance Mar 2013 #3

I believe they see the logic olddots Mar 2013 #24

''but its not about holding the damn door open'' Whisp Mar 2013 #4

k and r--and THANK YOU niyad Mar 2013 #5

Spot on! Sheldon Cooper Mar 2013 #6

Thank you. I was going to write something like this, ZombieHorde Mar 2013 #7

Maybe it's time to consider the possibility that your argument wasn't persuasive. LittleBlue Mar 2013 #8

So because the public doesn't like it we shouldn't accept it Arcanetrance Mar 2013 #9

No. Do continue LittleBlue Mar 2013 #11

I'm assuming that you don't understand what it is like to be dismissed simply because 1monster Mar 2013 #14

Do you think that if a woman was restraining her LittleBlue Mar 2013 #20

are you advocating that the men were correct, and the situation should be ignored? bettyellen Mar 2013 #29

No. LittleBlue Mar 2013 #36

sticking to the incident in question- what was interesting was that the men present didn't imagine bettyellen Mar 2013 #39

I can only speak for myself and the people I know LittleBlue Mar 2013 #53

In your case, wouldn't you rather the police come and sort out the situation Jamastiene Mar 2013 #40

By the time the cops get there LittleBlue Mar 2013 #50

The scene was exactly as I described. They were the only two involved. 1monster Mar 2013 #60

While we are using hypotheticals... Jamastiene Mar 2013 #38

??? sibelian Mar 2013 #43

I wonder if these people really thought that restraining a woman Fawke Em Mar 2013 #48

Agreed 100%! If anything would make me hysterical, it would be being restrained against my will. 1monster Mar 2013 #62

Something that makes me think Bay Boy Mar 2013 #57

There was no one else involved. It was the man and the woman. A second male 1monster Mar 2013 #63

What type of doors are we talking about? Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #10

Isn't this benevolent sexism, too? pamela Mar 2013 #12

I'm not going to slam you I'm only going to say that I started this thread due to the annoyance I Arcanetrance Mar 2013 #13

That's cool. pamela Mar 2013 #15

I took this as him getting in the boat and pulling on an oar. I didnt' think that he was saying, Squinch Mar 2013 #18

Here are two good examples of benevolent sexism that I can think of: Squinch Mar 2013 #21

You've never seen a guy do that to another guy? Marr Mar 2013 #45

Nope, never saw a guy do it to another guy. I get it about twice a week. From men young and old. Squinch Mar 2013 #51

As far as I can tell... Orrex Mar 2013 #25

Outrage at that one person's choice of example has been the subject of those 1000+ posts. Squinch Mar 2013 #30

I haven't seen much outrage or hysteria. Orrex Mar 2013 #34

The sheer volume of threads with the general subject of "don't tell me I'm not a great guy because I Squinch Mar 2013 #37

Sorry, but you don't get to declare that someone is outraged just because it's convenient for you Orrex Mar 2013 #42

Wait a darn second there!!! I don't get to declare that someone is outraged because it's convenient Squinch Mar 2013 #44

If someone has accused feminists of outrage, then they were wrong to do so Orrex Mar 2013 #49

Excellent point! one_voice Mar 2013 #41

He seems to think that it's the men who aren't getting the concept. lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #55

Except that it's not sexism. (spoken by a feminist female) nt Honeycombe8 Mar 2013 #16

Thank you ismnotwasm Mar 2013 #17

I'm starting to agree. liberal_at_heart Mar 2013 #19

This warms my feminist heart. Squinch Mar 2013 #22

I'm having the exact same reaction. n/t pamela Mar 2013 #27

you see it all the time here. they manufacture huge drama and blame feminists. bettyellen Mar 2013 #32

Bingo Little Star Mar 2013 #47

I'm going to laugh my ass off if this slinks down the front page of GD. boston bean Mar 2013 #23

I hope it doesn't slink down and wind up on page 5 but if it does so be it some people just aren't Arcanetrance Mar 2013 #26

I hear you. I think it was a great post. boston bean Mar 2013 #28

you'll notice they are actually afraid to play their little games with men. bettyellen Mar 2013 #31

It does speak volumes I wish I could be surprised but I'm not. Arcanetrance Mar 2013 #35

I'll bet when we wore hoop skirts and 4 petticoats libodem Mar 2013 #33

whats a civilized discussion ? olddots Mar 2013 #59

Personally from what I've seen here a thread that doesn't devolve into personal insults and name Arcanetrance Mar 2013 #61

If I treat someone differently because their gender that's sexism? XRubicon Mar 2013 #46

Are you being purposely obtuse on the matter Arcanetrance Mar 2013 #52

Makes sense on planet Vulcan XRubicon Mar 2013 #66

So that's your answer deflection to star trek Arcanetrance Mar 2013 #68

the door holding example was first brought up by people who take "benevolent sexism" quite seriously arely staircase Mar 2013 #54

Well here's an example I know of from personal experience Arcanetrance Mar 2013 #56

that is legit. arely staircase Mar 2013 #58

See but a statement saying that's legit is part of the problem. Arcanetrance Mar 2013 #64

ok so if i agree with you i am still wrong. jesus christ arely staircase Mar 2013 #65

I'm not saying you're wrong at all I was saying a guy saying what is or is not sexism to a woman is Arcanetrance Mar 2013 #67

so you have a problem with women telling men what is sexist or just men telling women? arely staircase Mar 2013 #71

I think we should listen to each other as to what's hurtful to the other Arcanetrance Mar 2013 #72

Again I say, Mmmmwah!! Squinch Mar 2013 #69

My post was an attempt at levity Taverner Mar 2013 #70