So last night I told my oldest sister not to contact me anymore

[Honeycombe8]

12. I hate to hear that. My family is mainly rightwingnuts.

Rule #1....avoid politics with rightwingnuts. I tell them we will have to agree to disagree. They keep trying to draw me into a political discussion (on the phone...they're in another state). Sometimes I do, but we manage not to get too out of sorts. But I am careful to keep it short, and I NEVER bring it up.

I don't have to wonder about MY family. They ARE racist.

I hate to hear that you and your sister have cut off communications. I cut off communications with a prior sister in law, but she's not blood relative. Families get more important as I get older. I'm glad we've stayed in contact and managed to stay on speaking terms. The sharing of medical conditions, particularly genetic or hereditary, is important, as well as the shared memories, and in my case, the same sense of humor and same likes and dislikes of some things, because we were raised the same.

Still...sometimes it's unavoidable and a person just has to accept that that's a bad relationship and not healthy for you. I have done that for years at a time. You are your first consideration. There's no need to subject yourself to a mean, rude person just because she's a relative.

She probably won't change, though. Rightwingnuts...they're something else. Hatred forms a big part of who they are, IMO.