So last night I told my oldest sister not to contact me anymore

[davidpdx]

156. First of all, I am sorry to hear that things have escalated to the point you two aren't talking

Second, before I forget, congratulations on your impending marriage.

I see this as two issues, one on political opinions and the other being just plain selfishness.

Both you and your sister have strong and differing opinions. That will likely never change. At some point the two of you will have to sit down and work out how to handle that if you want to talk to each other.

On the issue of your wedding date, obviously if your wedding was planned first proper edict for your sister would have been to talk to you and your family about scheduling her wedding at a different time. It leaves me wondering if she did this on purpose because she felt she had a score to settle with you (I'm not saying that for sure as I don't know her, just speculating) or her and her finance had some reason they needed to schedule the wedding then. Her reaction I think is the key to this. From the little bit you've explained it seems she wanted to pick a fight. Maybe she felt as the older sister her wedding was a higher priority in her mind. She is being selfish and that is going to really cause problems for your family.

As for the Facebook situation, that is the one thing I can relate with you a bit. My sister and I have gotten mad at each other a few times and de-friended one another on Facebook (note: She is actually my half-sister, I don't live near her, and am not close to her at all). Both the time she de-friended me and the time I blocked her were for silly dumb reasons (thankfully not politics as we agree there).

Sometimes family brings out the worst in people. What little family I have, I personally don't like very much which is one of the nice perks of living 7,000 miles away. I see them every 2 or 3 years. I'm closer to my wife's family than my own.

My advice is go about doing what you have to do and have a great wedding and honeymoon. If she chooses to come around, than so be it. Out of kindness send her a wedding invitation, if she says she doesn't want to come let it be. If she invites you to her wedding send a polite note that says as you have stated in a prior conversation that you already had your wedding and honeymoon planned and can not attend.

In short, let her be the bad "guy". The way she acts sure won't help her reputation with friends and family.

and with a lot of sarcasm I leave you with these parting words:

"Till next time, take care of yourself and each other"-Jerry Springer