So last night I told my oldest sister not to contact me anymore

[IdaBriggs]

167. You two need to forget technology and use the phone.

Last edited Mon Mar 18, 2013, 10:51 AM - Edit history (1)

NO TEXTING - TALKING.

If politics is a problem, stop talking about it. My FIL listened to Rush while he was a trucker, so he went over to the dark, complete with "birther-Mooslim" (bad spelling on purpose, thank you) stuff. ON EDIT: He's a great grandfather to my kids (when he is around). They don't care about his politics; they will (hopefully) always remember how he tickles them senseless and pretends to eat their delicious ears! Lol!

The wedding - those are Not Good. Women who bail on "big day" stuff - well, if your day was set first, she is a bitch. You should totally ruin *her* "big day" for doing that - bring everyone in the family in to take sides. Or, just don't go and fight about it with everyone (which is what is going to happen), making every hospital visit/funeral/next generation special event a potential opportunity for more decades old drama FOR THE NEXT TWENTY YEARS EVEN IF NEITHER MARRIAGE LASTS SIX MONTHS.

You both know that Not Attending Life Events = MAJOR Insult. Shorten your freaking honeymoon, and show up at her wedding. Or reschedule yours. If finances make that impossible (because you didn't get traveler's insurance?) and the *other* sister didn't convey the wedding date (give me a break), then you two have probably been trying to "one-up" each other for decades, and the politics is just an excuse. (Oh, and the fact you *DIDN'T* tell her the date? Did it ever occur to you that MAYBE you hurt her feelings by excluding her from YOUR event? Which means YOU kind of started this shit-storm? And that maybe the Obama nonsense is just a cover for fifty years of sibling rivalry?)

Family: when television is boring, activate sibling issues instead!

Seriously, she might be a bitch, but your behavior as described by you is NOT loving or compassionate or kind or wise or respectful. If this is the life you want....live it. My sister isn't around anymore (http://www.democraticunderground.com/10022499019) and we had drama with her that was WAY bigger than Facebook nonsense. My mother doesn't even know where hers is buried.

Pick the person you want to be. At the moment, taking a break (with all of the drama of "this time, I mean FOREVER!&quot is a good thing, but neither of you being in the wedding photos - well, even if you eventually make peace, those photos will be around for the next hundred years showing that both of you were being idiots - and no one is going to care that the feud "started" over Obama and Fox Snooze. They will just know there is a family tradition of treating each other like crap....

Regardless, I think staying away from Facebook is a good thing, if you just keep fighting there. Facebook isn't real life. Get on the phone (no texting!) and work things out.

Or don't. Family drama is ALWAYS a good time!

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