"We Owe to Our Sons What We've Given Our Daughters"

[seabeyond]

132. but think about this. this is so fuckin' interesting. i said in a post above that studies show boys

are not held as much as girls. they are also not talked to as much or in the same manner as girls. are we teaching our boys not to be good verbally, like we taught our daughters to not be good in math?

i never considered treating my boys consciously, or unconsciously obviously, any different than a baby. was just a baby. needed the luvins as a baby and i chatted with the babies from day one. as if they knew what i was talking about. social issues, political, was a rw christian coalition so we even had religious conversation. books.... lottsa lottsa books. the only thing i spent money on. every day, even as baby, we spent time with books. they were our toy. always had that around the kids.

they have to talk, they get no choice.

today, at 17 and 15, these boys are more verbal than any girl. insightful and self reflective. they analyze their friggin emotions. they both excelled in english, especially reading comprehension. my oldest tested at the top 5% of the top 10% in the nation.

why cant we be teaching our boys NOT to be verbal, just like we taught our girls NOT to be analytical.