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marybourg

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28. I've never seen or heard of this, only of "the bride feeds the groom,

Reply to Betsy Ross (Reply #9)

Wed Mar 20, 2013, 12:37 AM

Mar 2013

the groom feeds the bride" and then they do so. Is this a corruption of that tradition? Where, when did this start? I agree it sounds passive-aggressive. It's just the sort of thing my first husband, passive-aggressive from the first, might have done, had he ever heard of it. That might have ended things even before the honeymoon..

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My daughter got married on Saturday [View all] iwillalwayswonderwhy Mar 2013 OP

It is very disrespectful, IMHO. CaliforniaPeggy Mar 2013 #1

I feel the same way, iwill. It just seems very disrespectful to me. Hope your daughter has a happy, Mnemosyne Mar 2013 #2

I didn't until that very moment iwillalwayswonderwhy Mar 2013 #6

I wouldn't worry too much based on one incident, but if a pattern of disrespect develops, then Mnemosyne Mar 2013 #16

Don't know why the hell that ever caught on BeyondGeography Mar 2013 #3

Only once have I seen in done in a way that seemed truly playful winter is coming Mar 2013 #4

i am so sorry. not funny. disrespectful and so not a way to start a marriage. seabeyond Mar 2013 #5

Do you have any idea how she felt about it? brooklynite Mar 2013 #7

of course i do not know. hence, me asking. and yes, i looked at it from my own personal seabeyond Mar 2013 #11

she laughed it off iwillalwayswonderwhy Mar 2013 #8

i wish them the best and the impishness or giddiness just took hold of him. seabeyond Mar 2013 #12

My husband's with you Betsy Ross Mar 2013 #9

I am trying to do that iwillalwayswonderwhy Mar 2013 #13

I've never seen or heard of this, only of "the bride feeds the groom, marybourg Mar 2013 #28

Do people still do that throwing the garter thing? Iris Mar 2013 #34

Would't read too much into it LittleBlue Mar 2013 #10

my husband and I both shoved cake into each other's face. liberal_at_heart Mar 2013 #14

Mothers have good instincts about their kids, even their grown-up kids. nt Lex Mar 2013 #15

This too^^^ nt Mnemosyne Mar 2013 #18

I have never liked this either... likesmountains 52 Mar 2013 #17

Difficult.. one_voice Mar 2013 #19

Lemme tell you. tblue Mar 2013 #20

It really is not funny. murielm99 Mar 2013 #21

My husband and I did not do this, phylny Mar 2013 #22

What kind of weird tradition is that? postulater Mar 2013 #23

Not funny at all. Too bad she didn't she apparently didn't know him well enough pnwmom Mar 2013 #24

This seems to be a custom among some circles. Cleita Mar 2013 #25

That's the problem with "customs" - people follow them without giving them any thought Iris Mar 2013 #33

Post removed Post removed Mar 2013 #26

did anyone "give her away" from one man to another? Skittles Mar 2013 #27

Do you have any other reason to dislike or be suspicious of your son-in-law? Nye Bevan Mar 2013 #29

Well, if it makes you feel any better laundry_queen Mar 2013 #30

I hate seeing that. polly7 Mar 2013 #31

Seen it a couple times. hay rick Mar 2013 #32