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In reply to the discussion: Why the "My bad sex wasn't rape" editorial is so utterly, utterly vile. [View all]LiberalLoner
(9,761 posts)She told me this story while we were waiting for the older boys to arrive, with their friends along with them. We provided sex for whoever showed up. No matter if we were having our period and not feeling well...we knew the rules. We had to put out to any man who asked us. We knew our roles by heart. I certainly never entertained the idea, at 13, that I had the right to say "no." That's what child sexual abuse did to me.
Jennifer told me about her first time. She said she was ten and her 19 year old brother invited her up to the remote cabin the family owned, for the weekend.
Her brother and a bunch of his friends got her drunk then spent the rest of that weekend taking turns raping her.
"I was really scared and it hurt and I was crying but I am glad now it happened because now I'm not afraid to have sex."
I nodded. I understood exactly what she was saying. Then we serviced a half dozen older boys in the snow of a Montana winter night.
We both thought what happened to us was okay and normal. We thought servicing young men without regard for our own health and well being was normal and okay too.
FEELING something is okay and not a big deal does not necessarily make it so.
That was what was going through my head when I read her account of the events in the park.