Donglegate, and why we don't have more women in tech

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104. It isn't justifying anything she did

He didn't say that, no one is saying that. But the fact is you don't know the circumstances of the case. You don't know what prompted his employer to fire him, but you blame the woman because that is what you feel compelled to do. Common sense tells any thinking person that the guy would not have been fired based on a single comment alone. Either he had a history of embarrassing his employer and exposing them to lawsuit or he was a poor employee and this was the last straw.
But in a society that villainizes women, the entire focus is placed on her. Hence rape and death threats, which concern few here.

When a person is working, jokes are not private. Anyone who works for a living should know that. If someone who behaves in a racist or sexist way, they expose their employer to legal actions. Not to mention the fact it creates a hostile work environment for members of those groups, which is typically the point of such behavior.

Recursion's point was clear to me:
"He now has a kickstarter charity to help him make ends meet until he finds a new job. She has random men threatening to rape and kill her. . .

The simple fact is, whether we want to admit it or not, a woman who challenges the patriarchy exposes herself to huge risks. This is true whether her method of challenging it is wise or unwise. "

Responses in this and other threads on the subject provide evidence of just how pervasive that patriarchy is.