If only I'd snagged a Princeton man

[Rowdyboy]

46. When I was a senior in college I was engaged to a fellow student, a junior with a similar background

to mine. 38 years later we're still close friends, but to have married her then (as we had every intention of doing)would have been disastrous. Had there been children, it would only have been worse.

I had excellent taste in people in my early 20's-she was smart, opinionated, cutting and very insightful. She won a Fullbright Fellowship. But I was too damned stupid to consciously understand that marrying a woman would destroy us both. Thank God my subconscious spoke up loudly and I scared her off.

In college I made lifelong friends but to expect to find a life-partner is perhaps overly optimistic. I was 35 before I found my guy and 24 years later I'm blissfully happy. Had I made the decision in college it would have been both wrong and devastating.