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74. Spartan61 and son, I am sorry for your loss...thank you

Wed Apr 3, 2013, 01:49 PM

Apr 2013

for writing this. I am sorry for your loss and grief. When I witnessed the same type of cavalier attitude with my brother's cancer in 2005, I could not express the actions as well as you and have been silent and filled with guilt since then. I feel that I should have done more to fight for alternative treatments as well as working harder to make sure that he has food and water. I tried, taking distilled water and organic food to him but the hospital's policy was that if he could not feed himself....well too bad. They made no attempt to feed him or give him water.

I see this as the end result of humans seen as profit centers. When there is little hope with traditional "medicine", stop giving the patient food and water, that way they die more quickly.

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I wrote on DU last week that my husband [View all] spartan61 Apr 2013 OP

I'm sorry for your terrible loss spartan61. Starry Messenger Apr 2013 #1

Condolences for your loss RainDog Apr 2013 #2

Oh I am so, so, so sorry. Hugs and tears protect our future Apr 2013 #3

I am so very sorry for your loss JitterbugPerfume Apr 2013 #13

I hope you're doing good, Jitterbug. pacalo Apr 2013 #37

thank you pacalo JitterbugPerfume Apr 2013 #50

Your comment bring tears to my eyes. Not to know her grandchild is so sad. There isn't a day southernyankeebelle Apr 2013 #76

southernyankeebelle, JitterbugPerfume Apr 2013 #104

Yes that is true. You know I have a 7 yr old granddaughter. I pray everyday that I live long southernyankeebelle Apr 2013 #105

This is so sad. riverbendviewgal Apr 2013 #4

Send to the "Letters to the Editor" to every major newspaper in Florida. Lochloosa Apr 2013 #5

I am so sorry. This is a horrible story. spooky3 Apr 2013 #6

So sad to hear of your husband, Spartan LittleBlue Apr 2013 #7

Words are all I can offer, but they represent feelings.... senseandsensibility Apr 2013 #8

my condolences,Spartan61 mitchtv Apr 2013 #9

I am sorry shenmue Apr 2013 #10

This is a good memory recollection. Write everything down that you can remember about his Baitball Blogger Apr 2013 #11

If a doctor doesn't discuss the illness and possible treatments... LiberalFighter Apr 2013 #12

Oh, spartan61 Sissyk Apr 2013 #14

My deepest sympathies badtoworse Apr 2013 #15

Our deepest sympathy to your family... Tikki Apr 2013 #16

So Sorry for you and your family's precious loss, spartan. Cha Apr 2013 #17

I am so sorry Spartan61. liberal_at_heart Apr 2013 #18

My sympathies, but that letter is powerful. DollarBillHines Apr 2013 #19

I am so sorry for your loss, and extend my sympathy to you Lifelong Protester Apr 2013 #20

Blessings to you and family n/t joesdaughter Apr 2013 #21

You have been through so much libodem Apr 2013 #22

I am so sorry for your loss Horse with no Name Apr 2013 #23

Condolences to you and your family csziggy Apr 2013 #24

My condolrnces. 840high Apr 2013 #25

I am so sorry, spartan61 Bobbie Jo Apr 2013 #26

So sorry for your loss. progressoid Apr 2013 #27

Sorry for your loss.. Fumesucker Apr 2013 #28

I'm so sorry for your loss. Solly Mack Apr 2013 #29

Unfortunately, healthcare in this country is just not what juajen Apr 2013 #30

Same with my brother who died in October sorefeet Apr 2013 #31

I too am so very sorry for your loss defacto7 Apr 2013 #32

I'm so sorry for your loss. TDale313 Apr 2013 #33

Your son's letter is outstanding & it should be copied & sent to newspapers, legislators, pacalo Apr 2013 #34

Having a choice in your health care is everything... midnight Apr 2013 #35

So sorry for your loss and all you have been through BrotherIvan Apr 2013 #36

my deepest condolences on your terrible loss, spartan. my prayers are with you and your family niyad Apr 2013 #38

I'm so sorry for your family's loss. Lugnut Apr 2013 #39

I'm so sorry for your loss. Blue_In_AK Apr 2013 #40

I have seen 4 cases through to the end; by far most of what happened was as your son says it is. patrice Apr 2013 #41

Your son's letter needs eyes, lots of eyes. I am so very sorry for your loss, spartan. Mnemosyne Apr 2013 #42

Sometimes I get the idea they figure they'll just kill you... Spitfire of ATJ Apr 2013 #43

When my 94 year old mother was failing in a hospital down in Dallas, I was at her CTyankee Apr 2013 #44

To think the Republicans were against the idea of funding care for the dying. Spitfire of ATJ Apr 2013 #45

Actually, this happened in April of 2005 during the height of the controversy over that CTyankee Apr 2013 #46

Michael Moore revealed the #1 reason for forclosures was medical bills... Spitfire of ATJ Apr 2013 #63

same thing happened to my sister; she was left to wallow in filth at night noiretextatique Apr 2013 #81

my moher was at that point totally unconscious and died later that day but it was the CTyankee Apr 2013 #83

i know what you mean...the staff did not do their jobs noiretextatique Apr 2013 #87

Thanks, but she wanted to go. My brother had died the summer before. She fell and broke CTyankee Apr 2013 #88

i'm glad you found a way to live with it noiretextatique Apr 2013 #109

well, we can grieve for each other can't we? I will always wonder how long anyone grieves, CTyankee Apr 2013 #111

sibling loss is tough noiretextatique Apr 2013 #112

Thanks for posting. :hug: nt raccoon Apr 2013 #47

I am so sorry for your loss, spartan. brer cat Apr 2013 #48

Same thing happened to my sister-in-law samplegirl Apr 2013 #49

Sorry to hear this news. grantcart Apr 2013 #51

My deepest sympathies to you & your family. CrispyQ Apr 2013 #52

I am so sorry. redwitch Apr 2013 #53

This letter is heartbreaking lunatica Apr 2013 #54

My sincere sympathy to you all. eom Frustratedlady Apr 2013 #55

Deepest sympathy malaise Apr 2013 #56

Another outrage. 99Forever Apr 2013 #57

So sorry for your family's loss, Spartan Granny M Apr 2013 #58

spartan61 Iwillnevergiveup Apr 2013 #59

If this were my father, SamReynolds Apr 2013 #60

Deeply sorry for your loss n/t Bossy Monkey Apr 2013 #61

My deepest sympathy. jwirr Apr 2013 #62

I read this from Mile High Oncology. kaiden Apr 2013 #64

I wish the very best for your husband. My son was diagnosed with Lymphoma last April. Auntie Bush Apr 2013 #94

Dear Auntie Bush kaiden Apr 2013 #113

Sorry for your loss BobbyBoring Apr 2013 #65

My mother was killed by a hospital as well. The entire saga of her care was a disaster. She had firenewt Apr 2013 #66

Let me tell you something....... Th1onein Apr 2013 #67

I so agree with everything spartan61 Apr 2013 #71

how do you research it? shireen Apr 2013 #106

Big pharma doesn't own all research results, OR govern how it turns out always.... Th1onein Apr 2013 #110

So very, very sorry for your loss and the horror you and your family suffered, LoisB Apr 2013 #68

I am sincerely sorry that your family had to go through this. hamsterjill Apr 2013 #69

Truth KT2000 Apr 2013 #70

I am so very, very sorry, Spartan61... OneGrassRoot Apr 2013 #72

So sorry, Spartan....Your son's letter is lovely, amazing. whathehell Apr 2013 #73

Spartan61 and son, I am sorry for your loss...thank you prairierose Apr 2013 #74

NCI designation helps dangin Apr 2013 #75

Thanks for posting this. It should also be noted that alternative treatments can be snake oil shrike Apr 2013 #77

I am so sorry for your loss - TBF Apr 2013 #78

spartan61, you have my deepst sympathies upon your loss. JDPriestly Apr 2013 #79

I'm so sorry for your loss Marrah_G Apr 2013 #80

So very sorry for your loss. Worried senior Apr 2013 #82

I am so sorry for the loss of your husband and father mgardener Apr 2013 #84

My sincere babylonsister Apr 2013 #85

Okay, I posted earlier from Mile High Oncology. kaiden Apr 2013 #86

I`m so sorry democrank Apr 2013 #89

I'm so sorry for your loss. Cleita Apr 2013 #90

I'm so sorry, spartan61 for the loss of your husband polly7 Apr 2013 #91

I am so sorry for your loss. Puglover Apr 2013 #92

I am so sorry for you loss and I can understand. The same thing happened with my father. Maraya1969 Apr 2013 #93

Why isn't anyone talking about the cause? Delmette Apr 2013 #95

I am so sorry for your loss...... Curmudgeoness Apr 2013 #96

My best. nm rhett o rick Apr 2013 #97

I'm so very sorry for your loss NikolaC Apr 2013 #98

You have a very special son. Stinky The Clown Apr 2013 #99

I'm sorry for your loss. Terra Alta Apr 2013 #100

Where to Send It Mad Maddie Apr 2013 #101

I am so sorry for your loss Warpy Apr 2013 #102

My heart is with you and yours. myrna minx Apr 2013 #103

My condolences on your loss, shireen Apr 2013 #107

(((((((spartan61))))))) WillyT Apr 2013 #108