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Cleita

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67. Actually, back in the fifties that was a plan of a lot of the men.

Wed Apr 3, 2013, 02:36 PM

Apr 2013

I actually sat in the student union drinking coffee one day with fellow male classmates and the subject came up of marriage. Most of the guys thought that if they married, the wife should go to work to support them until they got their degree and a job in their field. Then it would be his turn to support her while she completed her degree work. The problem was that it seldom worked out that way. Pregnancy often interfered with those plans and I know women who put their husbands through medical or law school for instance to have them divorce them for a new woman they met in such grad schools.

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If only I'd snagged a Princeton man [View all] monmouth3 Apr 2013 OP

If you look at the arc of your life, she does have a point. SoCalDem Apr 2013 #1

You make many, many good points...n/t monmouth3 Apr 2013 #2

That reminds me of the old joke about geek tragedy Apr 2013 #3

When I think back to college, and the handful of women who were there for an MRS degree... winter is coming Apr 2013 #4

Yeah, the whole idea is really ickily classist as well as Mad Men. nt geek tragedy Apr 2013 #5

It depends on circumstances and luck Kber Apr 2013 #23

True. Among the couples I'm friends with, there's only one couple that married right winter is coming Apr 2013 #24

Not EVERYONE "needs" to do any ONE thing. SoCalDem Apr 2013 #6

Problem is with the "marry that man while you still can" is that it usually carries with it geek tragedy Apr 2013 #9

Being an asshole is not age-dependent SoCalDem Apr 2013 #14

Not age-dependent, but maturity is an issue. geek tragedy Apr 2013 #17

Because a 21-year-old man is too young. But hey---SOMEbody has to be the First Wife. :-) WinkyDink Apr 2013 #8

Not everyone in college is the same age these days.. SoCalDem Apr 2013 #10

I know that; the Princeton Mom doesn't seem to! WinkyDink Apr 2013 #73

My ex is now on wife number 3 BainsBane Apr 2013 #18

I've been laughing at the responses all weekend malaise Apr 2013 #11

Same here.. I had it all..Just not all at the same time SoCalDem Apr 2013 #15

I don't get it malaise Apr 2013 #26

When I was in college, we joked about the guys looking for their "diploma wife": winter is coming Apr 2013 #32

They could always marry at 22 like I did BainsBane Apr 2013 #12

Thanks for the excellent post, SoCalDem. protect our future Apr 2013 #27

The same could be said for the men treestar Apr 2013 #76

Yes..except for the movies where they always seem to stay attached SoCalDem Apr 2013 #77

Alas, I had my eye on Lyle Menendez. WinkyDink Apr 2013 #7

Now there's a catch BainsBane Apr 2013 #13

One of the greatest advances of the last century BainsBane Apr 2013 #16

That and birth control SoCalDem Apr 2013 #21

I was out of college fifty years ago and I did make my own living, but it was true that my Cleita Apr 2013 #22

Aye, yi, yi! Cleita Apr 2013 #19

Link to the video? alp227 Apr 2013 #28

Video is on the same link as the OP. Cleita Apr 2013 #31

Oh you're a 50s child? I get it. n/t alp227 Apr 2013 #40

I am proud to be an exception liberal_at_heart Apr 2013 #44

Great letter! babylonsister Apr 2013 #20

The final two paragraphs rock BainsBane Apr 2013 #25

Perhaps Princeton should teach protect our future Apr 2013 #29

that's not the point BainsBane Apr 2013 #30

The opinion I expressed in my post was protect our future Apr 2013 #33

That paragraph was sarcastic BainsBane Apr 2013 #34

Uh huh. Okay, your turn. protect our future Apr 2013 #35

What is your point now? BainsBane Apr 2013 #36

Which of your four or five thinly-veiled protect our future Apr 2013 #37

OMG BainsBane Apr 2013 #38

My problem is that I know quite well protect our future Apr 2013 #39

this thread isn't about men at all BainsBane Apr 2013 #41

Sure. Your turn again. protect our future Apr 2013 #47

It's obviously wasted efffort BainsBane Apr 2013 #48

I agree. protect our future Apr 2013 #51

Bless your heart BainsBane Apr 2013 #52

Patton's no; Brazile's yes. protect our future Apr 2013 #54

Wow - you are making zero sense. Sheldon Cooper Apr 2013 #62

Perhaps I want to see what responses protect our future Apr 2013 #70

"gently opinionated when appropriate" well, bless your heart. bettyellen Apr 2013 #43

ooh, I missed that part BainsBane Apr 2013 #49

Ya got me there, bettyellen! Very poor choice protect our future Apr 2013 #53

being smart doesn't necessarily equate to being a good person. liberal_at_heart Apr 2013 #42

I went to law school with about 100 very smart male jerks. amandabeech Apr 2013 #45

Have you tried looking him up? BainsBane Apr 2013 #57

Married and living in England. Unfortunately. n/t amandabeech Apr 2013 #60

Your post reminded me of the day I met my guy. I had seen protect our future Apr 2013 #55

Nor does going to Princeton necessarily equate with being smart. nt BainsBane Apr 2013 #58

When I was a senior in college I was engaged to a fellow student, a junior with a similar background Rowdyboy Apr 2013 #46

What an excellent example BainsBane Apr 2013 #56

Patton's argument also assumes a woman's education ends with a BA BainsBane Apr 2013 #50

Did you watch that video? UnrepentantLiberal Apr 2013 #59

I didn't plan on getting an MRS degree, but I did. knitter4democracy Apr 2013 #61

Actually, back in the fifties that was a plan of a lot of the men. Cleita Apr 2013 #67

There are many of us still. knitter4democracy Apr 2013 #71

You are moving on and that is good. Cleita Apr 2013 #72

Stability in marriage depends on accommodating change FarCenter Apr 2013 #63

She didn't say that if you wait until age X, neither of you will change gollygee Apr 2013 #64

You are absolutely right about that one. liberal_at_heart Apr 2013 #65

Oh, dear, what's a lesbian to do? nt Zorra Apr 2013 #66

indeed BainsBane Apr 2013 #68

Marry a Princeton woman maybe? n/t Cleita Apr 2013 #69

I married my husband who I met in college Nikia Apr 2013 #74

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