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33. Well.. seeing as how obits are usually written by family members, I would like to see the original..

Sat Apr 6, 2013, 03:36 PM

Apr 2013

being something of a public figure, her original obit may have been written by a staff writer, but until I see it I can't say for sure.. but I do suspect it was a tempest in a teapot, given some of the other shit I've seen over the last decade here.. was the lady I linked to the same one? If so, I'll go see if I can find the original DU thread.
on edit: I found a few posts, and it appears that it was originally written by the Times staff writer.. however, in typical zealot fashion, no thought was given to the possibility that the author actually spoke to the family before writing his piece, and perhaps they (she) wanted her obit to have a more "human interest" bent.

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Regarding: All In discussion on complimenting a woman (Obama) [View all] SCVDem Apr 2013 OP

No matter what one says or does, it seems that a feminist will be offended TimberValley Apr 2013 #1

can you name just one 'group' that agrees on everything, all the time? Whisp Apr 2013 #36

Some might say we are human, Jamastiene Apr 2013 #53

Heaven's Gate cult? Major Nikon Apr 2013 #68

You got that right. They want to be feminists until some dude tells 'em, "gee you look nice." Then demosincebirth Apr 2013 #37

Name a feminist who complains of the lack of it treestar Apr 2013 #74

^^^ Iggo Apr 2013 #89

It's about context BainsBane Apr 2013 #2

So Kamala Harris is not a friend of Obama's? dkf Apr 2013 #26

the context is making public remarks in a "professional setting". No one is talking about banter bettyellen Apr 2013 #28

it was an introduction to the public BainsBane Apr 2013 #49

Didnt he do the same thing in the same speech for another woman? dkf Apr 2013 #51

I have no idea BainsBane Apr 2013 #64

If you're introducing your own wife protect our future Apr 2013 #72

Did she complain about it? If not, then that's all that matters. Women are sabrina 1 Apr 2013 #105

well, golly gee sabrina, you are there to chew any woman out if she does complain about it, right? seabeyond Apr 2013 #110

I am there to respect a woman who I have no doubt, is capable of speaking sabrina 1 Apr 2013 #113

yup. that. never see you stand up for women, only about bashing women on du. seabeyond Apr 2013 #115

I'm standing up for a woman right now. sabrina 1 Apr 2013 #120

Excellent summary. Buzz Clik Apr 2013 #95

you sound kind of pathetic JI7 Apr 2013 #3

If your courtesy is so conditional, then how much is it really worth? nomorenomore08 Apr 2013 #4

that's the thing that stands out with some of these JI7 Apr 2013 #7

Very little, since it's so conditional on reward. freshwest Apr 2013 #63

This whole issue is just so bizarre DollarBillHines Apr 2013 #5

the "hysteria" is invented BainsBane Apr 2013 #9

I don't have any 'interests'. DollarBillHines Apr 2013 #10

apology accepted BainsBane Apr 2013 #13

Except.. she`s lying... opiate69 Apr 2013 #16

"Benevolent sexism" was the way Susan Rice was treated after Benghazi... dkf Apr 2013 #30

defended, and rightfully so. no one was "protecting" her from anything. bettyellen Apr 2013 #35

Did you see George W. Bush do that for Colin Powell? dkf Apr 2013 #50

you realize the people and situations (and not just the genders) were different, right? bettyellen Apr 2013 #56

no but i did see hillary clinton do it for obama La Lioness Priyanka Apr 2013 #126

At the same time theKed Apr 2013 #99

It's one thing to compliment a person on their clothes and looks Matariki Apr 2013 #22

When is it warranted? treestar Apr 2013 #76

Thank you! I find it bizarre as well. smirkymonkey Apr 2013 #141

Is that how President CPI wants to be spoken of? I doubt it. Bluenorthwest Apr 2013 #6

he didn't single out "female" so it would include among men also JI7 Apr 2013 #8

Two things SCVDem Apr 2013 #11

a true gentleman holds the door open for men and women JI7 Apr 2013 #14

Surely that implies that at most 50% of men can behave in gentlemanly fashion? Donald Ian Rankin Apr 2013 #31

Since doors now usually come in pairs with an outer and inner door, I've found that the new norm... JVS Apr 2013 #140

As evidenced by your pissy rant. Matariki Apr 2013 #20

Why should a gentleman BainsBane Apr 2013 #21

+1 Squinch Apr 2013 #128

"I was raised to be a gentleman" MattBaggins Apr 2013 #61

Try to get past it treestar Apr 2013 #77

Since one little media story causes you such outrage you must announce this: freshwest Apr 2013 #12

By request SCVDem Apr 2013 #15

I don't take my cues from the GOP or some panel. There was a huge fuss made in the NYT of a rocket freshwest Apr 2013 #19

Hmm.. got any links? opiate69 Apr 2013 #23

It was a DU piece decrying her, was on the latest or greatest. I didn't comment, SSDD. freshwest Apr 2013 #32

Well.. seeing as how obits are usually written by family members, I would like to see the original.. opiate69 Apr 2013 #33

The NYT edited the obit after a general furor Small Accumulates Apr 2013 #109

Well said. n/t Jamastiene Apr 2013 #55

Hey SCVDem - who gives a shit? Matariki Apr 2013 #17

it was stupid. he was stupid for doing it. he was doing a stupid man thing and had no place seabeyond Apr 2013 #18

"stupid man thing." Care to expand? nt msanthrope Apr 2013 #134

I hear where you coming from. 99Forever Apr 2013 #24

Aww, R U mad? CTyankee Apr 2013 #41

Why would I give a fuck ... 99Forever Apr 2013 #42

Is is sad when irony cannot be discerned... CTyankee Apr 2013 #43

IT is even sadder... 99Forever Apr 2013 #44

I guess I'll have to give back my Master's Degree... CTyankee Apr 2013 #45

Uh huh 99Forever Apr 2013 #48

will do! In the meantime, try hard to overcome being "irony deficient." CTyankee Apr 2013 #65

Thank you ... 99Forever Apr 2013 #82

all in good fun... CTyankee Apr 2013 #93

+1 99Forever Apr 2013 #101

And yet here you are. Squinch Apr 2013 #100

Someone put you in charge of .. 99Forever Apr 2013 #103

I never said where and what you can post. YOU said you refused to comment on any gender issues Squinch Apr 2013 #107

Ahh... I see... 99Forever Apr 2013 #114

Well, no. Obviously I wasn't. Squinch Apr 2013 #116

Then exactly what was the point of your snarky reply? 99Forever Apr 2013 #118

See my post #107 to you. You'll find the answer to your question there. Squinch Apr 2013 #122

LOL... that exchange reminded me of Steve Buscemi in Fargo. redqueen Apr 2013 #138

I love that movie! Squinch Apr 2013 #146

Does honoring others wishes to be treated professionally really make you this angry??? bettyellen Apr 2013 #25

This message was self-deleted by its author LittleBlue Apr 2013 #27

Don't be nice to get a reaction from others demwing Apr 2013 #29

yay! we win! Whisp Apr 2013 #34

Even if you disagree with the sentiment, why would you respond that way? DirkGently Apr 2013 #38

I first heard this on the car radio with no reference to the actual remark tularetom Apr 2013 #39

You don't comment on ANY persons looks in a professional setting MattBaggins Apr 2013 #62

Goodness, are you going to slam a door and stomp away, too? CTyankee Apr 2013 #40

Good one! smirkymonkey Apr 2013 #143

So what about all the swooning over Gavin Newsom's good looks? Cleita Apr 2013 #46

If the president was the one to compliment him during a public speech, I could equate the two. antigone382 Apr 2013 #131

You're the best-looking poster on DU! ;-) WinkyDink Apr 2013 #47

No love lost there. Jamastiene Apr 2013 #52

i'm an intelligent woman, but i have DesertFlower Apr 2013 #54

Lucky you mercuryblues Apr 2013 #57

I feel sad that I have to ask this, protect our future Apr 2013 #58

I think when you're talking about your own partner it is acceptable... antigone382 Apr 2013 #132

Thank you. I agree. I wonder, however, protect our future Apr 2013 #137

Well, I suspect that many are conflating disagreement with furor... antigone382 Apr 2013 #147

Oh my god MattBaggins Apr 2013 #59

You seem pretty quick to cave. Rex Apr 2013 #60

Post removed Post removed Apr 2013 #66

I have a family full of men who are Feminists. They don't seem to feel that way... CTyankee Apr 2013 #67

It really isn't complicated . . . markpkessinger Apr 2013 #69

So even if it's your own wife and protect our future Apr 2013 #71

Wait a minute! Obama's married to her? What happened to Michelle? Squinch Apr 2013 #102

I wonder why. Perhaps some posters here protect our future Apr 2013 #106

I don't see it as a contradiction. Squinch Apr 2013 #112

I've been asking if it is inappropriate protect our future Apr 2013 #117

The answer is that personal comments are appropriate when you have Squinch Apr 2013 #119

So if there is a personal relationship--"personal" protect our future Apr 2013 #129

Oh, blow it out your ear. What the hell?? Squinch Apr 2013 #130

Baloney treestar Apr 2013 #79

Obama apologized. You have a problem with that? boston bean Apr 2013 #83

This message was self-deleted by its author boston bean Apr 2013 #84

Who cares?!?! Quantess Apr 2013 #70

That is actually a good idea treestar Apr 2013 #73

Patriarchal heresy detected in Neutral Speech Zone #710 Comrade_McKenzie Apr 2013 #75

LOL! protect our future Apr 2013 #78

You must really hate obama for apologizing boston bean Apr 2013 #81

If you are making an introduction of an accomplished woman boston bean Apr 2013 #80

Aw. Iggo Apr 2013 #85

Again, another male does something sexist boston bean Apr 2013 #86

Team MRA is really worked up over this one. nt geek tragedy Apr 2013 #88

*Groan* smirkymonkey Apr 2013 #144

Perhaps you should listen to women instead of whining about how those uppity women geek tragedy Apr 2013 #87

Maybe he should, maybe he should stop listening the minority of women who sabrina 1 Apr 2013 #108

I think there is a big difference between - "nice dress" and "she is the best looking AG" DrDan Apr 2013 #90

+1 Buzz Clik Apr 2013 #91

-2 boston bean Apr 2013 #92

No matter how important you think you are, you only get one vote. Try "-1" and a dose of ... Buzz Clik Apr 2013 #94

-3 boston bean Apr 2013 #96

... and a dose of ... Buzz Clik Apr 2013 #97

-5 boston bean Apr 2013 #104

This message was self-deleted by its author protect our future Apr 2013 #111

OH NO! You've had enough of this crap??? Squinch Apr 2013 #98

i know. i doubt i can live without the compliments of one random person on du La Lioness Priyanka Apr 2013 #125

aww. such drama. La Lioness Priyanka Apr 2013 #121

Now, now. LP. It's not as if your life on DU has been devoid of drama. Buzz Clik Apr 2013 #123

this post is inherently bigoted as it lumps all women in one category La Lioness Priyanka Apr 2013 #124

Points well taken! As always. However, let me offer this: Buzz Clik Apr 2013 #127

it's not just the drama, its the drama to justify the bigotry La Lioness Priyanka Apr 2013 #142

Thank YOU! smirkymonkey Apr 2013 #145

Lament. A very interesting word. SCVDem Apr 2013 #133

why do men and boys primp? i am watching two teen age sons right now that cannot seabeyond Apr 2013 #135

Hissies is a sexist insult The Straight Story Apr 2013 #136

LOL redqueen Apr 2013 #139