I haven't been able to shake the feeling I got when my daughter said "I think men are smarter than

[southernyankeebelle]

87. Excellent comments. You know I have a younger sister who was a perfectionist. She became

a dentist. But I would remember when she would study for tests and how she would cry if she got a grade she felt was wrong and would go and talk with the professor. She would take turns in calling each one of my sisters crying that she got a "B". I would think that is great. But she was such a perfectionist. She got selected to work in a hospital doing surgerys. While doing that she found out that she was pregnant with twins and one of them had water on the brain. But she was so much of a perfectionist that she had to be there constantly because she didn't want to let the others down. She was the first woman picked. So she felt the added pressure. She only had to do it for a year. But what pressure she was under. Sometimes she ended up in hospital. Well in the end she did have her babies and now the baby with the water on the brain graduated and will be teaching and the other twin will be a dentist next year. But again it was us siblings that made sure she went to college and made something of herself. Funny thing had my father not died when she was 11 and I was 22 she may never had gone to college because daddy thought girls were suppose to be wives. I don't blame him because he grew up in the time. Now its different.

Balance is so important. I like what you said and I am going to tell her that failure is a learning experience and it is ok as long as you learned from it. But then again no matter how much we try and teach them we hope and pray it sinks in.