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In reply to the discussion: "MY 12 year old is pregnant. FOR REAL."... [View all]Xithras
(16,191 posts)Point out to her that her childhood is now over. If she wants to be a parent, then she needs to act like an adult. No partying, no hanging out with friends when the baby needs to be taken care of, etc. Tell her she'll also need to contact a lawyer about nailing the baby-daddy for child support, because you plan on charging money to babysit regularly. It's her kid, not yours.
Also, pull her out of school. Right now. Put her on a home study program so that she can watch her own kid when it comes.
Your daughter needs to understand the seriousness of the situation and the fact that she is about to permanently change the course of her life, and adopt responsibilities that most of her peers won't have to deal with for at least another decade. Most importantly, you need to drive home to her that, at the end of the day, SHE is responsible for her children...not YOU.
If you can drive that home, she may reconsider keeping the pregnancy, or may at least put it up for adoption after birth. I personally know of several young women who initially planned on keeping their babies, but who ultimately gave them up (some aborted, some adopted) once they realized that they were ending their life, and that they'd be spending the next several years wiping crap off of baby asses while their friends were all out partying and having fun and going to prom.
A child needs an adult as a parent. Give her a crash course in the reality of adulthood.