"MY 12 year old is pregnant. FOR REAL."...

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151. Start sending the bills to the boyfriends parents today

Get an attorney to write up a document stating that they are legally bound to supporting both your child and the baby and that you are not responsible for the bills. Include all contingencies for a high risk pregnancy. Include paying the bills for your child and the baby should she become crippled for the rest of both of their lives. If you want to have fun, include loss of life time earnings. Make sure the parents know they are on the hook for the rest of their lives for the consequences. It is not just six years that they are on the hook. That baby has a high risk of being developmentally disabled. Let them pay for all the consequences for the rest of the baby's life.

Include stuff like babysitting, schlepping to doctors appointments, and whatever is needed to keep your child in school. Include all time Commitments.

An 18 year old boy working at Starbucks part time is not going to be able to pay for an apartment, food, clothes for a woman with a child. Explain that he needs a guarantor. Especially for a life time commitment to a disabled woman and or a disabled baby. Ask for full disclosure of assets. I would not be surprised If they back way off once they understand that they are on the hook permanently. Her boyfriend wouldnt be so full of "your murdering your baby" once the parents realize that their house and their retirement is on the line. Oh, if they have any thoughts about taking care of their own parents. Well, sorry grandma, but you will just have to wait.

For now, tell the parents that you want their son to be doing lawn work on Saturdays and Sundays to pay for the medical bills. Their son has to know the realities immediately. Every dime he makes goes to that child.

Explain that if the baby does not get proper care, both parents will have to give it up to the state authorities. Women get extraordinarily depressed when they give up their children. Not take some Zoloft depressed. But get electroshock and get institutionalize depressed.

Also, is there any peer coaching where some young mothers can tell your child the facts of life and that abortion at age 12 is not a bad decision. She is going to be quite lonely. At age 16, there are some young mothers out there. At age 12, not so much.
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