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MineralMan

(150,956 posts) Sun Apr 14, 2013, 03:08 PM Apr 2013

Good Husbands are Submissive - MineralMan [View all]

Sometimes. Sometimes, everyone can be submissive to good effect. Winning every disagreement is not an essential part of any relationship. The give and take of marriages means that both partners sometimes allow the other to take the lead in some decisions.

In fact, submissiveness may be the secret to success in making a marriage a long-term relationship. It's not a matter of gender. It's a matter of partnership.

One guy's opinion.

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Good Husbands are Submissive - MineralMan [View all] MineralMan Apr 2013 OP

An example: I'm tired and frazzled from a tough session MineralMan Apr 2013 #1

You went to the restaurant BECAUSE it made her feel better, not because you are bike man Apr 2013 #2

Nope. We have a difference of opinion. I'm submitting to her MineralMan Apr 2013 #3

If its none of those things, submissive is not the right word,as that is a definition of submissive Bluenorthwest Apr 2013 #6

I am inclined or ready to submit in this case. MineralMan Apr 2013 #8

It's a wide world of words we have to draw from. The baggage that comes with that one Bluenorthwest Apr 2013 #37

Few words have fixed or single definitions. MineralMan Apr 2013 #39

A response in the "Good wives..." thread says it nicely bike man Apr 2013 #13

Yes, cooperative is another good word, but MineralMan Apr 2013 #15

Keep a 'safe' word. nt bike man Apr 2013 #16

LOL! It's hardly needed in my example. MineralMan Apr 2013 #17

You rock! BainsBane Apr 2013 #4

I don't know about that, but I'm ordering MineralMan Apr 2013 #5

And you'll both feel a lot better when you get home Warpy Apr 2013 #7

Well, there are often benefits to letting the other person MineralMan Apr 2013 #10

Have you tried Anchor Fish and Chips BainsBane Apr 2013 #22

Well, as a St. Paulite, i have a responsibiliy MineralMan Apr 2013 #33

your loss nt BainsBane Apr 2013 #34

Oh yeah? FourScore Apr 2013 #9

Sharing decisionmaking and not insisting on winning every fight is not submissive. Fearless Apr 2013 #11

Life often requires submitting to another's choice. MineralMan Apr 2013 #12

Marriage and relationships in general Fearless Apr 2013 #19

agreed La Lioness Priyanka Apr 2013 #14

Nah. Good husbands needn't be submissive. I prefer cooperation and partnership, for both parties. fishwax Apr 2013 #18

I agree with you. In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #20

Pretty enlightend for an East Sider. kickysnana Apr 2013 #21

East Side Rules! nt MineralMan Apr 2013 #35

Sin city? BainsBane Apr 2013 #55

Sounds more like compromise, babylonsister Apr 2013 #23

You can say it's not about gender, but swap the genders and this thread hughee99 Apr 2013 #24

Wasn't the OP a response to one about "submissive wives"? So yes, it does look different. nomorenomore08 Apr 2013 #29

Good relationships have nothing to do with submissiveness by either party Major Nikon Apr 2013 #25

Right. Agreeing to disagree. nomorenomore08 Apr 2013 #30

Maybe Major Nikon Apr 2013 #42

Absolutely. As I said earlier, I think a relationship is healthiest when neither is dominant. nomorenomore08 Apr 2013 #47

I agree Major Nikon Apr 2013 #50

It's not about submission OR domination. redqueen Apr 2013 #26

So this is like JustAnotherGen Apr 2013 #27

I agree that the healthiest relationships are those in which neither party is "dominant." nomorenomore08 Apr 2013 #28

Many times you can be either right or happy NightWatcher Apr 2013 #31

A comedian friend of mine called it the 4-word key to a successful marriage: truebluegreen Apr 2013 #45

Partnership does not equal submissiveness. Apophis Apr 2013 #32

You are nice Mineral Man. smirkymonkey Apr 2013 #36

I do. He is 62 and single. MineralMan Apr 2013 #38

Well I would be interested. smirkymonkey Apr 2013 #48

Southern California. MineralMan Apr 2013 #49

Oh well, worth a try. smirkymonkey Apr 2013 #53

Being Niceguy1 Apr 2013 #40

I believe we may be speaking of MineralMan Apr 2013 #41

well Niceguy1 Apr 2013 #56

I firmly believe that the world would be a far better place if women were in charge. truebluegreen Apr 2013 #43

Depends on the woman. edbermac Apr 2013 #52

Well, true enough. truebluegreen Apr 2013 #54

If general female and male voting trends hold true, then you're likely right about Congress. nomorenomore08 Apr 2013 #57

Yeah, that one is a big belly laugh alright. truebluegreen Apr 2013 #62

I officially like you! Greybnk48 Apr 2013 #44

Now you've made me blush. MineralMan Apr 2013 #46

sounds like a sucessful negoiation to me SwampG8r Apr 2013 #51

Good husbands and good wives are both submissive nearly all the time, I think. Donald Ian Rankin Apr 2013 #58

Your post took gender out of the equation tkmorris Apr 2013 #59

Can't avoid thinking of that in strictly sexual terms eridani Apr 2013 #60

Or is it that most dominates choose not to discuss it here. In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #61

Regardless of willingness to talk about it, it's a very well known fact eridani Apr 2013 #63

Thank you. Very well put. In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #64