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IdaBriggs

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59. (blush) Thank you - but it won't get anywhere near the responses

Mon Apr 15, 2013, 01:07 PM

Apr 2013

that the other options I "suggested" will be getting/giving (and now that I've looked over the rest of the thread, I was right on target - sigh).

I love when DU is actually a "discussion board" instead of an echo chamber; with thousands of people posting, you would think we could get more actually (what is that word?) oh, yes - DISCUSSION.

This is a pretty scary topic in general - sexual mores are so personal that they aren't easy to talk about without offending someone (which is why my suggestion was that your family discuss your family's value system, and why you hold it).

But thank you for the kind words!

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a girl in my nieces school is pregnant. [View all] srican69 Apr 2013 OP

How about none of the above? She could be a victim of sexual abuse. Butterbean Apr 2013 #1

This Dorian Gray Apr 2013 #4

Yeah. A child that age cannot legally consent to sex so there was a crime committed. PeaceNikki Apr 2013 #6

What if the father is also twelve? Orrex Apr 2013 #28

in my state, yes. by both parties. PeaceNikki Apr 2013 #29

Interesting. Didn't know that. Orrex Apr 2013 #30

it's a juvenile crime that obviously depends on circumstances PeaceNikki Apr 2013 #32

Do you know what the penalties might be, though? Orrex Apr 2013 #35

Sorry, I do not know. PeaceNikki Apr 2013 #41

I'm not sure that it's useful to place balme in circumstances like these. Laelth Apr 2013 #2

The male involved is completely "guilt" free? Quantess Apr 2013 #3

Yeah, girls are always doing that! Orrex Apr 2013 #26

If you see this as requiring blame, do you also see it as wrong-doing? HereSince1628 Apr 2013 #5

This poll like all others always put the burden on the girl. Where is the boy who southernyankeebelle Apr 2013 #7

This is the typical mind-set, as seen in your entire poll, Quantess Apr 2013 #8

A child that age cannot legally consent to sex so there was a crime committed. PeaceNikki Apr 2013 #9

Okay, point taken. Quantess Apr 2013 #10

yeah, and if that's the case, in my state they both could be charged. PeaceNikki Apr 2013 #12

Charged with what, being humans? cleanhippie Apr 2013 #45

Children cannot consent to sex. Did you miss that part? PeaceNikki Apr 2013 #46

Yeah, I get that part, but they are children. If they are unable to consent to sex, they are unable cleanhippie Apr 2013 #47

I didn't make the laws and I pointed that out when I learned as well. PeaceNikki Apr 2013 #48

To me, the answer is simple: Preventative education. cleanhippie Apr 2013 #49

Yet they do all the time. Comrade Grumpy Apr 2013 #61

This message was self-deleted by its author HereSince1628 Apr 2013 #13

whoa...who talked about punishment..I am just trying figure out srican69 Apr 2013 #18

then talk to the girl's family, PeaceNikki Apr 2013 #20

No, but this is the way the issue is framed by anti-choicers. Quantess Apr 2013 #27

Your view of the situation is still of a problem that needs to be solved... cbdo2007 Apr 2013 #34

You have a point, there. Quantess Apr 2013 #37

I find the wording of your poll option... 99Forever Apr 2013 #11

+1 In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #16

wouldn't you want to know why a plane crash occurred.. srican69 Apr 2013 #17

The way you wrote it, though, has nothing to do with the circumstances of the insemination. Quantess Apr 2013 #22

Your tone is out of line. 99Forever Apr 2013 #23

But you don't know the whole story so you shouldn't try to guess Marrah_G Apr 2013 #56

+1 LadyHawkAZ Apr 2013 #66

Society, though not for the reason you wrote. n/t Egalitarian Thug Apr 2013 #14

I blame biology jberryhill Apr 2013 #15

either you forgot the sarcasm thingy..or don't believe in taking responsibility srican69 Apr 2013 #19

I take no responsibility for what happened jberryhill Apr 2013 #58

Damned hormones. BlueStreak Apr 2013 #43

Agree. Why do people here think a 12 year old having a baby is cbdo2007 Apr 2013 #52

True enough. treestar Apr 2013 #55

Change your poll to list "None of the Above" or remove it. It sounds like a self-righteous patricia92243 Apr 2013 #21

Is this 100% true? HappyMe Apr 2013 #24

sounds like ... GeorgeGist Apr 2013 #25

"I know nothing beyond that.." City Lights Apr 2013 #31

Find out who impregnated her and, if an adult, MineralMan Apr 2013 #33

I would not even venture to guess what went wrong Marrah_G Apr 2013 #36

This thread is very disturbing. RevStPatrick Apr 2013 #38

Nothing new. Thread is disturbing unc70 Apr 2013 #39

Other: I am not a mind reader, for which it seems I must apologise muriel_volestrangler Apr 2013 #40

I blame the maintenance man, he was supposed to take that old shed out back down last year snooper2 Apr 2013 #42

Quite possibly, a child molester. LeftishBrit Apr 2013 #44

"...Whom do we want to blame?" I have a better question. Why do you want to blame? n/t ieoeja Apr 2013 #50

I get it: you are looking to make sure your own daughters don't end up pregnant inappropriately. IdaBriggs Apr 2013 #51

Thank you .. this is the kind of response I was looking for ...Insightful and Mature srican69 Apr 2013 #54

(blush) Thank you - but it won't get anywhere near the responses IdaBriggs Apr 2013 #59

No, you weren't -you wanted someone to blame muriel_volestrangler Apr 2013 #62

I don't think any of the choices applies Sheepshank Apr 2013 #53

It's none of our business really LittleBlue Apr 2013 #57

I'm really tired of the "It's None of Your Business" responses. hamsterjill Apr 2013 #60

So who do you blame? (nt) muriel_volestrangler Apr 2013 #63

The choices in the poll tend toward 'blame'. HappyMe Apr 2013 #64

"like-minded"?? LadyHawkAZ Apr 2013 #67

Have I missed anyone? srican69 Apr 2013 #69

Sometimes there's nobody to blame. Xithras Apr 2013 #65

Intelligent design my fucking ass. Zoeisright Apr 2013 #68