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(910 posts) Thu Apr 18, 2013, 03:39 PM Apr 2013

Serious questions about pot smokers [View all]

I don't smoke anything, and barely drink, but I've been dating someone who smokes it every day (not around me) to ease anxiety. I have some questions:

If someone smokes everyday, does that mean that their true personality is hidden? In other words, if they were to stop for several months, would their personality be completely different?

Is it a bad idea to get involved with someone who smokes when I don't? Or would it be petty to end a relationship over that? I'm disgusted by smoke (including incense), but I'm trying to keep an open mind because this person is really special.

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Serious questions about pot smokers [View all] fried eggs Apr 2013 OP

I don't think their true personality would be hidden. EOTE Apr 2013 #1

They're numbing, or "self-medicating" themselves. Wonder why? SharonAnn Apr 2013 #80

I think alcohol and bud are FAR different things. EOTE Apr 2013 #110

Beware the Evil Weed! It is a Gateway to Much, Much Worse. MineralMan Apr 2013 #2

I misread your title at first Mnpaul Apr 2013 #47

Yeah, like a gateway to Ben & Jerry's ice cream. JaneyVee Apr 2013 #54

Fritos and Reese's Peanut butter cups for me. MineralMan Apr 2013 #55

My Grandmother used to tell me Marijuana was a commie plot AgingAmerican Apr 2013 #56

My grandfather told me that they were smoking weed on the Mississippi river back in the 1920s The Flaming Red Head Apr 2013 #78

My Grandparents had an elderly handyman at their motel AgingAmerican Apr 2013 #82

Weed was just a part of their culture (river rats) The Flaming Red Head Apr 2013 #86

Im sure Tom Sawyer and Huck Finn would have partook in a bit of the "muggles" AgingAmerican Apr 2013 #96

You must be as old as I am lunatica Apr 2013 #104

You can probably learn to deal with it, but I think it takes over their lives more than just cbdo2007 Apr 2013 #3

"Would their personality be completely different?" Brickbat Apr 2013 #4

The whole point of taking psychoactive substances is to change your personality Recursion Apr 2013 #97

Would you say a chronically depressed person is more real than the person on pharmaceuticals Brickbat Apr 2013 #101

Both are equally "real", but the unmedicated personality is the genuine one (nt) Recursion Apr 2013 #103

As someone who took a prescribed pharmaceutical to control depression, I disagree with that. Brickbat Apr 2013 #106

No. And no. Gregorian Apr 2013 #5

I smoke a little most nights before I go to bed Blue_In_AK Apr 2013 #6

it's illegal, for one thing markiv Apr 2013 #7

Legality is not an issue in some states like Alaska Blue_In_AK Apr 2013 #10

if it's legal in your state, then it's not illegal markiv Apr 2013 #16

Retirement rocks. Blue_In_AK Apr 2013 #37

How old were you when you retired? Honeycombe8 Apr 2013 #79

I left my "real" job in 2001 Blue_In_AK Apr 2013 #91

You lucky dog! But you worked hard for it, so gotta hand it to you Honeycombe8 Apr 2013 #102

Remember Mojo Nixon and the song "I ain't gonna pee-pee in no cup The Flaming Red Head Apr 2013 #90

in several states it is not illegal cali Apr 2013 #19

Indeed AgingAmerican Apr 2013 #58

It's legal here AgingAmerican Apr 2013 #57

hey, if it were legal in Nevada, and markiv Apr 2013 #67

It works so good for arthritis. I have degenerative disk disease and other health issues The Flaming Red Head Apr 2013 #83

it should be legal for medical use, and what i said does not markiv Apr 2013 #88

Maybe it helps him in ways you don't know The Flaming Red Head Apr 2013 #93

that's entirely possible markiv Apr 2013 #94

Pots deforms personality less than other illicit drugs cthulu2016 Apr 2013 #8

Ohhh, I don't think I'm any less lazy now OriginalGeek Apr 2013 #25

Someone I love used to smoke dope..the cheap stuff..a bit nearly every day...about 25 years... Tikki Apr 2013 #9

some will tell you it's all harmless, but all I know is what I observed OKNancy Apr 2013 #11

You can't necessarily pin it on the weed Cal Carpenter Apr 2013 #34

I'm 62, started smoking it when I was 15, and I've only been divorced three times! panader0 Apr 2013 #12

Would you be asking the same question about someone Downwinder Apr 2013 #13

That would disgust me as well fried eggs Apr 2013 #49

I'll bet... CanSocDem Apr 2013 #14

I'll bet that they're "really special" because they are young and hot. Care Acutely Apr 2013 #33

And I'm over 62, have smoked weed since my teen years, and still on my first marriage. 1-Old-Man Apr 2013 #15

All the anecdotal evidence offered here can't top how your friend behaves. randome Apr 2013 #17

Just personal experience here NV Whino Apr 2013 #18

Be careful ! kentuck Apr 2013 #20

I don't think this is a question for the jury, i.e., us folks at DU. Demoiselle Apr 2013 #21

I did. I told him that I think people should be able fried eggs Apr 2013 #52

does this person smoke 24/7? shanti Apr 2013 #68

My daughter, a nonsmoker, had a boyfriend who frogmarch Apr 2013 #22

Hmmm. Phlem Apr 2013 #36

Maybe pot smoking frogmarch Apr 2013 #40

Yes it does affect different people in different ways. Count on it. riderinthestorm Apr 2013 #59

I just flashed on someone who drinks every day. socialindependocrat Apr 2013 #23

'there are still people who want to screw the "drug user". ' markiv Apr 2013 #29

My thought is for the innocent partner socialindependocrat Apr 2013 #35

all it takes, is someone elses pot to fall out of their pocket markiv Apr 2013 #41

Advice about prescriptions to ease anxiety.... Avalux Apr 2013 #42

Isn't there anything non-addictive? socialindependocrat Apr 2013 #45

There are herbals like St. John's Wort and Valerian Root.... Avalux Apr 2013 #108

Better to focus on the cause of the constant anxiety than the smoking. eom yawnmaster Apr 2013 #24

Only thing I would say timdog44 Apr 2013 #26

57 here, everday, divorced 3 times and smoking pot had little to do Bennyboy Apr 2013 #27

None of my women? Leslie Valley Apr 2013 #44

I changed it from chicks.... Bennyboy Apr 2013 #46

Not Around You? otohara Apr 2013 #28

My former son in law lost all motivation, but then he was a jerk at all times. Hekate Apr 2013 #30

Weed makes me motivated. The Flaming Red Head Apr 2013 #81

No. As long as the person isn't hiding it in your home Warpy Apr 2013 #31

Hey... It's 4:20! RevStPatrick Apr 2013 #32

Saturday Counts Double SoCalMusicLover Apr 2013 #39

Woo-Hoo!!! Twice on Saturdays!!! RevStPatrick Apr 2013 #43

Only you can answer your last question Cal Carpenter Apr 2013 #38

In 99% of users, Le Taz Hot Apr 2013 #48

It Always Amazes Me RobinA Apr 2013 #85

Remember, different strains Le Taz Hot Apr 2013 #105

If you love who they are why would you want to change them? TeamPooka Apr 2013 #50

A more relevent question grantcart Apr 2013 #51

Get him a vaporizer. He'll likely love it (even he still smokes it a times) and you won't have the TheKentuckian Apr 2013 #53

I'll google that. I know it can't be what I'm imagining, which is fried eggs Apr 2013 #63

You really have no idea of what it is marlakay Apr 2013 #98

It's really no big deal. killbotfactory Apr 2013 #60

Best answer? mick063 Apr 2013 #61

Are you serious? morningfog Apr 2013 #62

I was thinking the same thing olddots Apr 2013 #65

I am almost certain I went around with this poster, but can't remember and the advanced search is morningfog Apr 2013 #66

It's possible. fried eggs Apr 2013 #70

In that case, cool story bro! morningfog Apr 2013 #71

Huh? It's not a story fried eggs Apr 2013 #73

I'm having visions of that commercial for some reason. Marr Apr 2013 #84

It's impossible to answer this for you... SomethingFishy Apr 2013 #64

Thank you. He's not a lazy smoker fried eggs Apr 2013 #72

Sorry but nobody should be smoking in bed. Period. So dangerous. nt riderinthestorm Apr 2013 #75

Then talk to him about it... SomethingFishy Apr 2013 #76

There are NO addictive qualities Le Taz Hot Apr 2013 #89

What was the question again? Rex Apr 2013 #69

Assuming money is not an issue it should not be a problem. Paul E Ester Apr 2013 #74

IMO, anyone who does a drug, incl. alcohol, every day... Honeycombe8 Apr 2013 #77

Really. I drink 2 glasses of wine with dinner every day. I don't have issues. Luminous Animal Apr 2013 #95

I really like what you said, Luminous Animal. Blue_In_AK Apr 2013 #99

Let me rephrase: Getting high or buzzed every day is an issue. Honeycombe8 Apr 2013 #100

depends if they take a couple hits and gets on with life. or sits on couch all day, hit after hit seabeyond Apr 2013 #87

If someone drinks coffee everyday does caffeine make them a different person The Flaming Red Head Apr 2013 #92

Well put. I agree. In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #111

Dear Fried olddots Apr 2013 #107

Pot, to the regular user, is most likely just more mellow than usual Taverner Apr 2013 #109

The personality isn't hidden, just slightly altered. In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #112