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Cal Carpenter

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38. Only you can answer your last question

Thu Apr 18, 2013, 04:31 PM

Apr 2013

I wouldn't ever call it petty though. If this feels like a fundamental problem for you, then it probably is. Not petty at all.

I *don't* think pot, even daily use, hides a person's personality. I do think it can help a lot of people who suffer anxiety.

I also think some non-smokers can have great relationships with those who do smoke pot. And some cannot (and vice versa).

I think a big question you have to ask yourself is, if this relationship were to blossom and continue, at some point you will be confronted with the smoke/smoking more directly, so can you deal with that? Or is it a deal-breaker (in terms of marriage, future, kids, whatever)?

Will it always be a bone of contention, turned into some passive-aggressive resentment?

Only you can answer that.

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Serious questions about pot smokers [View all] fried eggs Apr 2013 OP

I don't think their true personality would be hidden. EOTE Apr 2013 #1

They're numbing, or "self-medicating" themselves. Wonder why? SharonAnn Apr 2013 #80

I think alcohol and bud are FAR different things. EOTE Apr 2013 #110

Beware the Evil Weed! It is a Gateway to Much, Much Worse. MineralMan Apr 2013 #2

I misread your title at first Mnpaul Apr 2013 #47

Yeah, like a gateway to Ben & Jerry's ice cream. JaneyVee Apr 2013 #54

Fritos and Reese's Peanut butter cups for me. MineralMan Apr 2013 #55

My Grandmother used to tell me Marijuana was a commie plot AgingAmerican Apr 2013 #56

My grandfather told me that they were smoking weed on the Mississippi river back in the 1920s The Flaming Red Head Apr 2013 #78

My Grandparents had an elderly handyman at their motel AgingAmerican Apr 2013 #82

Weed was just a part of their culture (river rats) The Flaming Red Head Apr 2013 #86

Im sure Tom Sawyer and Huck Finn would have partook in a bit of the "muggles" AgingAmerican Apr 2013 #96

You must be as old as I am lunatica Apr 2013 #104

You can probably learn to deal with it, but I think it takes over their lives more than just cbdo2007 Apr 2013 #3

"Would their personality be completely different?" Brickbat Apr 2013 #4

The whole point of taking psychoactive substances is to change your personality Recursion Apr 2013 #97

Would you say a chronically depressed person is more real than the person on pharmaceuticals Brickbat Apr 2013 #101

Both are equally "real", but the unmedicated personality is the genuine one (nt) Recursion Apr 2013 #103

As someone who took a prescribed pharmaceutical to control depression, I disagree with that. Brickbat Apr 2013 #106

No. And no. Gregorian Apr 2013 #5

I smoke a little most nights before I go to bed Blue_In_AK Apr 2013 #6

it's illegal, for one thing markiv Apr 2013 #7

Legality is not an issue in some states like Alaska Blue_In_AK Apr 2013 #10

if it's legal in your state, then it's not illegal markiv Apr 2013 #16

Retirement rocks. Blue_In_AK Apr 2013 #37

How old were you when you retired? Honeycombe8 Apr 2013 #79

I left my "real" job in 2001 Blue_In_AK Apr 2013 #91

You lucky dog! But you worked hard for it, so gotta hand it to you Honeycombe8 Apr 2013 #102

Remember Mojo Nixon and the song "I ain't gonna pee-pee in no cup The Flaming Red Head Apr 2013 #90

in several states it is not illegal cali Apr 2013 #19

Indeed AgingAmerican Apr 2013 #58

It's legal here AgingAmerican Apr 2013 #57

hey, if it were legal in Nevada, and markiv Apr 2013 #67

It works so good for arthritis. I have degenerative disk disease and other health issues The Flaming Red Head Apr 2013 #83

it should be legal for medical use, and what i said does not markiv Apr 2013 #88

Maybe it helps him in ways you don't know The Flaming Red Head Apr 2013 #93

that's entirely possible markiv Apr 2013 #94

Pots deforms personality less than other illicit drugs cthulu2016 Apr 2013 #8

Ohhh, I don't think I'm any less lazy now OriginalGeek Apr 2013 #25

Someone I love used to smoke dope..the cheap stuff..a bit nearly every day...about 25 years... Tikki Apr 2013 #9

some will tell you it's all harmless, but all I know is what I observed OKNancy Apr 2013 #11

You can't necessarily pin it on the weed Cal Carpenter Apr 2013 #34

I'm 62, started smoking it when I was 15, and I've only been divorced three times! panader0 Apr 2013 #12

Would you be asking the same question about someone Downwinder Apr 2013 #13

That would disgust me as well fried eggs Apr 2013 #49

I'll bet... CanSocDem Apr 2013 #14

I'll bet that they're "really special" because they are young and hot. Care Acutely Apr 2013 #33

And I'm over 62, have smoked weed since my teen years, and still on my first marriage. 1-Old-Man Apr 2013 #15

All the anecdotal evidence offered here can't top how your friend behaves. randome Apr 2013 #17

Just personal experience here NV Whino Apr 2013 #18

Be careful ! kentuck Apr 2013 #20

I don't think this is a question for the jury, i.e., us folks at DU. Demoiselle Apr 2013 #21

I did. I told him that I think people should be able fried eggs Apr 2013 #52

does this person smoke 24/7? shanti Apr 2013 #68

My daughter, a nonsmoker, had a boyfriend who frogmarch Apr 2013 #22

Hmmm. Phlem Apr 2013 #36

Maybe pot smoking frogmarch Apr 2013 #40

Yes it does affect different people in different ways. Count on it. riderinthestorm Apr 2013 #59

I just flashed on someone who drinks every day. socialindependocrat Apr 2013 #23

'there are still people who want to screw the "drug user". ' markiv Apr 2013 #29

My thought is for the innocent partner socialindependocrat Apr 2013 #35

all it takes, is someone elses pot to fall out of their pocket markiv Apr 2013 #41

Advice about prescriptions to ease anxiety.... Avalux Apr 2013 #42

Isn't there anything non-addictive? socialindependocrat Apr 2013 #45

There are herbals like St. John's Wort and Valerian Root.... Avalux Apr 2013 #108

Better to focus on the cause of the constant anxiety than the smoking. eom yawnmaster Apr 2013 #24

Only thing I would say timdog44 Apr 2013 #26

57 here, everday, divorced 3 times and smoking pot had little to do Bennyboy Apr 2013 #27

None of my women? Leslie Valley Apr 2013 #44

I changed it from chicks.... Bennyboy Apr 2013 #46

Not Around You? otohara Apr 2013 #28

My former son in law lost all motivation, but then he was a jerk at all times. Hekate Apr 2013 #30

Weed makes me motivated. The Flaming Red Head Apr 2013 #81

No. As long as the person isn't hiding it in your home Warpy Apr 2013 #31

Hey... It's 4:20! RevStPatrick Apr 2013 #32

Saturday Counts Double SoCalMusicLover Apr 2013 #39

Woo-Hoo!!! Twice on Saturdays!!! RevStPatrick Apr 2013 #43

Only you can answer your last question Cal Carpenter Apr 2013 #38

In 99% of users, Le Taz Hot Apr 2013 #48

It Always Amazes Me RobinA Apr 2013 #85

Remember, different strains Le Taz Hot Apr 2013 #105

If you love who they are why would you want to change them? TeamPooka Apr 2013 #50

A more relevent question grantcart Apr 2013 #51

Get him a vaporizer. He'll likely love it (even he still smokes it a times) and you won't have the TheKentuckian Apr 2013 #53

I'll google that. I know it can't be what I'm imagining, which is fried eggs Apr 2013 #63

You really have no idea of what it is marlakay Apr 2013 #98

It's really no big deal. killbotfactory Apr 2013 #60

Best answer? mick063 Apr 2013 #61

Are you serious? morningfog Apr 2013 #62

I was thinking the same thing olddots Apr 2013 #65

I am almost certain I went around with this poster, but can't remember and the advanced search is morningfog Apr 2013 #66

It's possible. fried eggs Apr 2013 #70

In that case, cool story bro! morningfog Apr 2013 #71

Huh? It's not a story fried eggs Apr 2013 #73

I'm having visions of that commercial for some reason. Marr Apr 2013 #84

It's impossible to answer this for you... SomethingFishy Apr 2013 #64

Thank you. He's not a lazy smoker fried eggs Apr 2013 #72

Sorry but nobody should be smoking in bed. Period. So dangerous. nt riderinthestorm Apr 2013 #75

Then talk to him about it... SomethingFishy Apr 2013 #76

There are NO addictive qualities Le Taz Hot Apr 2013 #89

What was the question again? Rex Apr 2013 #69

Assuming money is not an issue it should not be a problem. Paul E Ester Apr 2013 #74

IMO, anyone who does a drug, incl. alcohol, every day... Honeycombe8 Apr 2013 #77

Really. I drink 2 glasses of wine with dinner every day. I don't have issues. Luminous Animal Apr 2013 #95

I really like what you said, Luminous Animal. Blue_In_AK Apr 2013 #99

Let me rephrase: Getting high or buzzed every day is an issue. Honeycombe8 Apr 2013 #100

depends if they take a couple hits and gets on with life. or sits on couch all day, hit after hit seabeyond Apr 2013 #87

If someone drinks coffee everyday does caffeine make them a different person The Flaming Red Head Apr 2013 #92

Well put. I agree. In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #111

Dear Fried olddots Apr 2013 #107

Pot, to the regular user, is most likely just more mellow than usual Taverner Apr 2013 #109

The personality isn't hidden, just slightly altered. In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #112