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The2ndWheel

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48. She says her son said he felt trapped and didn't know what to do
Wed Apr 24, 2013, 11:04 AM
Apr 2013

I'm just going by what information we have.

If he's a shy kid, it would be awkward enough. But to have your younger sister there too, while other women are saying sexual things to you, that's going to feel that much more weird. It's going to trap you between your younger sister and women that aren't your sister.

I'm not saying the guy would've been cool with it had his sister not been there, but the sister part of it changes the equation in some way. I don't know if there have been other times where this guy has gone through this, and then told his mom about it or whatever. But from this story, it sounds like it was the sister that told their mom, which then increases the awkwardness of what was already an awkward situation.

Two females who are directly related to this teenage guy, who live in the same house as he does, are now basically intimately involved in a story about how some college girls were sexually suggestive toward him. That's going to make any guy feel weird, especially a shy 17 year old.

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Every 17 year old pipoman Apr 2013 #1
So in a way those girls were helping him - that's very sweet. el_bryanto Apr 2013 #5
I didn't read where this was his co-workers? Did I miss that? pipoman Apr 2013 #11
Ah so you are saying if I want to help a woman by harrassing her el_bryanto Apr 2013 #13
Maybe I'm not clear on what you think pipoman Apr 2013 #17
You are defending them - I'm saying that people like these offenders should be held up to scorn nt el_bryanto Apr 2013 #18
OOO, scorn, eh? pipoman Apr 2013 #25
Imagining someone posting this in response to the Westborugh fucks el_bryanto Apr 2013 #27
That is exactly what has to happen to funeral goers.. pipoman Apr 2013 #29
This isn't about what they should do - this is about what you should do el_bryanto Apr 2013 #32
Not defending anyone.. pipoman Apr 2013 #38
Wow so the next time an HR department has a harrasment case MattBaggins Apr 2013 #12
You do know the difference between a work environment and a public pipoman Apr 2013 #22
Yes and harassment is wrong in both places. MattBaggins Apr 2013 #23
Nobody said it is fine.. pipoman Apr 2013 #26
You put the blame on the victim MattBaggins Apr 2013 #30
No, I stated a possible pipoman Apr 2013 #39
Oh, right. So they were doing him a favor. pnwmom Apr 2013 #40
So this is the only time in his life he will encounter this? pipoman Apr 2013 #46
Your answer failed to validate the young man's experience, pnwmom Apr 2013 #47
No blaming the victim would be blaming the victim.. pipoman Apr 2013 #50
Good advice to an extent, but I must respectfully take issue... Eleanors38 Apr 2013 #49
I agree, it doesn't warrant it pipoman Apr 2013 #71
Oh, I don't doubt there needs to be some supportive discussion... Eleanors38 Apr 2013 #74
Same thing true for 17 year old girls Crunchy Frog Apr 2013 #67
As stated at least 3 times in this thread pipoman Apr 2013 #70
This is clearly sexual harassment. KitSileya Apr 2013 #2
Yes, it is. GaYellowDawg Apr 2013 #6
Smart mom. Lesson learned, I bet. MineralMan Apr 2013 #19
i was around speedos all day, for the first two decades of my life. bodily function were not even seabeyond Apr 2013 #31
{erhaps more women are acting badly & mimicking the wretched behavior that's been deemed acceptable KittyWampus Apr 2013 #56
I believe so.... Seems to me to be what we are creating. Yes. Nt seabeyond Apr 2013 #57
So, it's a case of monkey see, monkey do? HappyMe Apr 2013 #58
I know what you're saying. We're so focused on MineralMan Apr 2013 #65
Your mom blamed the vicitm? The2ndWheel Apr 2013 #21
No, she took an opportunity to educate me. GaYellowDawg Apr 2013 #80
and sexual assault. cbdo2007 Apr 2013 #35
Exactly, I was thinking cue the posts from guys treestar Apr 2013 #36
Amen! How many times have you seen posts from guys saying they wished some hot teacher raccoon Apr 2013 #54
Mean people suck! MineralMan Apr 2013 #3
i would have LOVED to see the 14 yr old girl brave enough to take on the other, older girls. seabeyond Apr 2013 #4
I just have to say this GaYellowDawg Apr 2013 #7
thank you for recognizing this. it is very important to me. nt seabeyond Apr 2013 #10
You're welcome. GaYellowDawg Apr 2013 #16
and a clear stated agenda with no apologies. I asked a question galileoreloaded Apr 2013 #59
indeed-seabeyond has honor and honesty sigmasix Apr 2013 #33
I'm going to piggyback on that and... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2013 #89
Yeah, I have to admit she got it right. Eleanors38 Apr 2013 #51
. Iggo Apr 2013 #55
I can imagine that happening. MineralMan Apr 2013 #8
absolutely. and the girl taking them on is a win all around. for all the people. seabeyond Apr 2013 #9
It's tough for a boy to tell a table full of college MineralMan Apr 2013 #14
This message was self-deleted by its author blueamy66 Apr 2013 #41
Predatory behavior. Possibly criminal. nt geek tragedy Apr 2013 #15
Creepy predators. HappyMe Apr 2013 #20
I have to wonder what's in it for those college women. Sheldon Cooper Apr 2013 #24
Like other sex crimes, it's power and control. A college aged woman (and most women actually) stevenleser Apr 2013 #44
A sex crime!? Quick, convene the grand jury! Comrade Grumpy Apr 2013 #68
In less than a year her poor baby will have to learn to fend for himself CBGLuthier Apr 2013 #28
Females can act like jerks, too. dawg Apr 2013 #34
As a man I have been groped fitman Apr 2013 #43
How sad... that poor kid. redqueen Apr 2013 #37
How about this for a title: Brigid Apr 2013 #42
All the more interesting due not only to gender reversal, LanternWaste Apr 2013 #45
She says her son said he felt trapped and didn't know what to do The2ndWheel Apr 2013 #48
my inner ww2 granpda would say datasuspect Apr 2013 #52
Bullying sucks, it is always bad form. Rex Apr 2013 #53
pretty pc answers so far. galileoreloaded Apr 2013 #60
This reads JustAnotherGen Apr 2013 #61
Breaking News: Tens of millions of girls and women experience this every day. Zorra Apr 2013 #62
yep, it's man bites dog. welcome to our world, fellas. Sucks sometimes, huh? bettyellen Apr 2013 #63
Your comment and the one it is in response to aren't constructive at all. Hosnon Apr 2013 #76
Really, sir? Pointing out that this happens to millions of women every day is not constructive? Zorra Apr 2013 #79
Well, pardon us while we gawk at your shock and indignation. We didn't know you had it in you. bettyellen Apr 2013 #81
Women employ their sexuality as tools to get what they want by the millions as well. Bonobo Apr 2013 #85
Unwelcome sexual advances regardless of gender are sexual harassment Cleita Apr 2013 #64
Post removed Post removed Apr 2013 #66
Would you dare ask a woman a similar question? Sen. Walter Sobchak Apr 2013 #69
You're right- that is an awful comment. bettyellen Apr 2013 #73
Dear Abby? nolabels Apr 2013 #72
lol Sheldon Cooper Apr 2013 #75
My initial reaction is almost always hypocritical in situations like this octothorpe Apr 2013 #77
"Dear Abby"? Yeah, that really happened. Ikonoklast Apr 2013 #78
What would be the point of making it up? BainsBane Apr 2013 #83
Message auto-removed Name removed Apr 2013 #82
Not That I Doubt Your Statistic, But It Would Be Nice to Have a Link to the Source. dballance Apr 2013 #87
Message auto-removed Name removed Apr 2013 #88
they probably do this a lot, it's a joke to them JI7 Apr 2013 #84
Many are saying this is fake, but I saw this happen whe I was in college. Lady Freedom Returns Apr 2013 #86
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