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Zorra

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55. I guess I'm just what you needed

Wed Apr 24, 2013, 01:12 PM

Apr 2013

You don't mind me coming there,
and wasting all your time,
cuz when I'm standing oh so near,
you kind of lose your mind?

It's not the perfume that I wear?
It's not the ribbons in my hair?
You don't mind me coming there,
and wasting all your time?

You don't mind me hanging out,
and talking in my sleep?
And it doesn't matter where I've been,
as long as it was deep?

Yeah?

You know I wear it very well,
I look so fancy, and I can tell,
you don't mind me coming there
and talking in my sleep.

I guess I'm just what you needed...

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Report: Denying Men Sex Is Like Child Neglect [View all] n2doc Apr 2013 OP

This is not going to end well. stevenleser Apr 2013 #1

No, and the ride there HappyMe Apr 2013 #3

Nope! liberal N proud Apr 2013 #4

Ohhhhhhh, no it's not . . . . HughBeaumont Apr 2013 #5

Study shows that grumpy, overweight, late-to-come-home men are aphrodisiacs for women Orrex Apr 2013 #2

Was about to post something similar... but without the sarcasm. Fawke Em Apr 2013 #6

You did your own study? snooper2 Apr 2013 #11

Millions of men walking around with that description...not so happy looking though. Ninga Apr 2013 #32

What a crappy article MattBaggins Apr 2013 #7

It sure is a crappy article. Again, man blaming his wife or girlfriend because his southernyankeebelle Apr 2013 #65

Did you read the actual WSJ article? Matt_in_STL Apr 2013 #75

No I just got really upset that women are always getting its their fault attitude about southernyankeebelle Apr 2013 #83

Not a problem Matt_in_STL Apr 2013 #85

I read it. I don't find this particularly thought provoking: Squinch Apr 2013 #127

True, it isn't the best article ever written Matt_in_STL Apr 2013 #132

That's why a therapist doesn't take sides MattBaggins Apr 2013 #86

Well it worked. southernyankeebelle Apr 2013 #96

"Go in the restroom and meet 5 fingers Lucy. " HA! bettyellen Apr 2013 #92

Thanks, I needed a laugh. I knew I would get someone to see the humor. You have southernyankeebelle Apr 2013 #99

The NY Mag article is full of dumb quotes... in reality it seems this poor guy was trying hard bettyellen Apr 2013 #101

I went back and read it. I still think women should think twice if sex is the most southernyankeebelle Apr 2013 #110

I think it's safe to say that sex wasn't the most important thing in that marriage. geek tragedy Apr 2013 #114

Maybe. southernyankeebelle Apr 2013 #118

a coworker says "Palmela Anderson" Skittles Apr 2013 #103

Good one, Skittles! bettyellen Apr 2013 #105

LOL Skittles Apr 2013 #107

Ms. Mower had been turned off by the "pressure" to have sex again after a miscarriage rocktivity Apr 2013 #8

+1 redqueen Apr 2013 #14

Is it possible all the facts are not known MattBaggins Apr 2013 #18

I agree. Part of marriage is working through the periods where the two partners geek tragedy Apr 2013 #21

I really meant the comment about counseling being offered MattBaggins Apr 2013 #27

I'm totally with you on it. There's not much in life that prepares a young married geek tragedy Apr 2013 #30

You know geek...I sometimes think your just not up on things. I am wrong. You're quite Katashi_itto Apr 2013 #78

Thank you in return. nt geek tragedy Apr 2013 #80

+1000... opiate69 Apr 2013 #93

Is it possible that he didn't pressure her for sex? redqueen Apr 2013 #119

I really don't know in this case MattBaggins Apr 2013 #123

I finally read through the thread and realized redqueen Apr 2013 #124

Soooooo....... opiate69 Apr 2013 #126

Yeah, when it comes to male-female dyads there is really only one side to any story. Right? leeroysphitz Apr 2013 #38

"Dyads?" I haven't heard that word rocktivity Apr 2013 #43

Same here. n/t leeroysphitz Apr 2013 #46

Amazingly, that isn't what happened Matt_in_STL Apr 2013 #52

So what did the report say on women that are denyed sex? Rex Apr 2013 #9

Yeah, the problem is that this is set up as a man/woman issue geek tragedy Apr 2013 #16

Yes horrible article, but I expect that kind of crap from the WSJ. Rex Apr 2013 #71

Ironically, the content of the article undermined a lot of gender stereotypes geek tragedy Apr 2013 #76

Maybe that is all sex is to the author. Rex Apr 2013 #82

Report: Denying women money is like child neglect eissa Apr 2013 #10

That's funny. HappyMe Apr 2013 #12

love it. n/t leeroysphitz Apr 2013 #40

Don't forget the $125 dinners, a girl needs to feel fed once in a while. Coyotl Apr 2013 #108

Sex is a part of most healthy marriages? Stop the presses. geek tragedy Apr 2013 #13

Agreed Matt_in_STL Apr 2013 #17

They equated the man's need for sexual intimacy with his wife geek tragedy Apr 2013 #26

I agree. HappyMe Apr 2013 #31

Seriously, switch the genders in this article as a thought experiment. geek tragedy Apr 2013 #33

" Is this (a) implausible and (b) something that would merit insulting and mocking the wife?" leeroysphitz Apr 2013 #45

People are basing their view of it on the shitty NY Mag piece. geek tragedy Apr 2013 #48

Agreed. I just like to jerk my knee in a different direction than everybody else... leeroysphitz Apr 2013 #63

I knew a married couple where the man essentially was disinterested in sex. The marriage imploded stevenleser Apr 2013 #50

It's not at all implausible. HappyMe Apr 2013 #56

I don't know about "insulting and mocking," but it would be her fault for getting fat. Sivafae Apr 2013 #70

Wha? nt geek tragedy Apr 2013 #73

Yes somehow they went from MattBaggins Apr 2013 #23

The WSJ is partly to blame by casting it in the traditional gender stereotypes geek tragedy Apr 2013 #25

I agree with that assessment as well MattBaggins Apr 2013 #36

Ironically, a lot of the commentary has embedded partriarchal stereotypes of men. geek tragedy Apr 2013 #39

C'mon ladies! it's 30 seconds that will really change your life! n2doc Apr 2013 #15

If only it was just 30 seconds eissa Apr 2013 #22

If it only lasts 30 seconds.... HappyMe Apr 2013 #24

30 seconds explains the denial... one_voice Apr 2013 #28

This guy sounds like a child himself n/t arcane1 Apr 2013 #19

no shit. Buzz Clik Apr 2013 #51

He sounds like a child MattBaggins Apr 2013 #91

I think when people are in a loving relationship FedUpWithIt All Apr 2013 #20

The selfishness in this thread saddens me joeglow3 Apr 2013 #29

You make a great point Orrex Apr 2013 #34

It's not selfishness, but there's a profound lack of empathy being displayed. geek tragedy Apr 2013 #35

I don't think most people here read the WSJ article Matt_in_STL Apr 2013 #37

Sometimes trying to be clever results in foolishness. nt geek tragedy Apr 2013 #41

And sometimes trying to look insightful results in smug self-righteousness Orrex Apr 2013 #54

You dangerous thinker you MattBaggins Apr 2013 #58

The NY Mag piece was very smug, true. nt geek tragedy Apr 2013 #60

See? We can agree on something. Orrex Apr 2013 #72

That's one interpretation, sure. Orrex Apr 2013 #47

And that number is climbing. n/t leeroysphitz Apr 2013 #59

It was selfish of her to feel so badly about miscarrying rocktivity Apr 2013 #53

Not selfish of her at all MattBaggins Apr 2013 #67

No, she and her husband processed the grief in different ways. geek tragedy Apr 2013 #68

The article doesn't say that at all Matt_in_STL Apr 2013 #69

No one is saying that joeglow3 Apr 2013 #104

If you deny your partner sex, don't be surprised when LittleBlue Apr 2013 #42

Sexual intimacy isn't something that's granted or denied. geek tragedy Apr 2013 #44

OK, then we differ LittleBlue Apr 2013 #62

What do you mean by "deny?" geek tragedy Apr 2013 #64

A close friend of mine is happily married to a man who is unable to have sex... LanternWaste Apr 2013 #106

Why do you assume they are unable to have sex? MattBaggins Apr 2013 #116

Why do you assume she's assuming anything? opiate69 Apr 2013 #125

Still not an excuse for cheating. If you can't tolerate your partner not able or MillennialDem Apr 2013 #130

Good god. Buzz Clik Apr 2013 #49

I guess I'm just what you needed Zorra Apr 2013 #55

Mormon get the red out Apr 2013 #57

Well that explains his diaper fetish Blue Owl Apr 2013 #61

Congratulations Ms. Mower Politicalboi Apr 2013 #66

ROFLMAO!!! Zorra Apr 2013 #74

+1!!! Buzz Clik Apr 2013 #77

There is movie about it nolabels Apr 2013 #111

He needs to grow up. His wife just had a miscarriage and all he can think about is he is not appleannie1 Apr 2013 #79

Ugh. Did you read the actual article? geek tragedy Apr 2013 #87

I have had a very healthy marriage of almost 50 years. My husband voluntarily went without sex appleannie1 Apr 2013 #94

But, is it fair to say that the man in the story didn't love his wife geek tragedy Apr 2013 #95

Did you talk about this? MattBaggins Apr 2013 #117

Take a look at the actual WSJ article Matt_in_STL Apr 2013 #90

What a crock... Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #81

1% of the population is asexual and actually doesn't give a shit about it. MadrasT Apr 2013 #120

When you are talking about 99% that is pretty much everybody. Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #121

Checking Etsy... liberalmuse Apr 2013 #84

Gakk. madamesilverspurs Apr 2013 #88

There are many other was of having sex besides intercourse. cbdo2007 Apr 2013 #89

True, but the way this is presented is the problem Taverner Apr 2013 #97

That's what your hand is for. tridim Apr 2013 #98

Sex is more than ejaculation to men, especialy when it comes to sex with geek tragedy Apr 2013 #100

Really?? tridim Apr 2013 #102

I read a post here on DU that claimed women were turned on by their man doing the dishes panader0 Apr 2013 #109

going a year without sex . . .you don't need a study to predict that will have a negative effect bigtree Apr 2013 #112

Per the WSJ, they did (kids, schtupping, happy ending). nt geek tragedy Apr 2013 #115

Wow that's an Tien1985 Apr 2013 #113

This will be as popular as a fart in a spacesuit... n/t backscatter712 Apr 2013 #122

Bullsh*t Rider3 Apr 2013 #128

I agree. MrSlayer Apr 2013 #129

Zing! undeterred Apr 2013 #131